Viewing porn is normal for men and many women, and fantasising is common for both genders, possibly women more than men. I know my wife, who has a strong Christian background, fantasises a lot. I look at porn myself from time to time, but I'm rare in that I never masturbate, but that's just me.
The only real abnormalilty I can see is not realisting his wife is not into sexy videos and texts, but I think this is mainly a desire to go beyond that which is routine, and also to feel loved and sexually desired.
I think for ricspiess, there are only so many variations of sex that a couple can exercise in their bedroom, in their bed. And to keep sex fresh and alive, we need to go beyond routine sex from time to time. Especially after 10 years! So think beyond the present, and imagine what might be interesting or exciting. And then talk about it before doing it. For example: I know my wife has a submissive personality, so I came up with the idea of role-play, which we both enjoy. Her contribution was outdoor sex; and in the warmer weather we search for interesting places, and I know just the place for tomorrow in fact. Another one from me is playing a game where even if you lose you win, and one from my wife is to go outside her personality type and sexually dominate me. These examples might get ricspiess thinking about what she can do for her husband, given that his requests for videos and texts aren't her style.
One other piece of advice, apart from inserting paragraph breaks, is to lighten up. The 'bitches be crazy week' comment is very, very unhealthy, and this is the sort of thing that can wreck relationships over time. We all have our up and down moments, but that's no excuse to take it out on our partners.
To sum up: I was in the position where I wanted more than routine sex, but my wife rebuffed me many times. I felt burdened, dragged down and smothered. It was rather frustrating, but after some advice I realised what her problem was (her Christian upbringing). We talked the issue through, yet again but with a different perspective, and this time I got a positive response. And, as you can see by my examples, our sex life has a mix of the normal and the exciting. And my wife, the one who resisted for so long, loves those exciting variations more than I do.