Husband troubles!Please help

[nicenycdick]

Without wasting any time whatsoever justifying my judgment, I didn't think the original post sounded genuine at all...

Sorry.

 

[D_Relentless Original]

:why: WHY?

 

[missphatbooty]

I don't like the way "her" posts look. This is the worst thread ever.

Someone tell "her" to put two spaces after a full stop and two line breaks between paragraphs.

Until then this thread doesn't even warrant serious replies.

exactly
she made sure to get the web site name in there...sigh

 

[petite]

Without wasting any time whatsoever justifying my judgment, I didn't think the original post sounded genuine at all...

Sorry.

:why: WHY?

I just don't want to believe that a grown woman with three kids doesn't know how to construct sentences properly or how and when to use a paragraph.

There are users here from Japan who know how to construct sentences in English.

I don't think it's fair to call her a troll without at least her/him posting some of those videos!

If it's true, come on, she's a woman at home looking after 3 kids. He should buy her gym membership, & a hot costume, so he can go frantic & get worked up about all those guys ogling her(while secretly she's just off to a friends, & a bottle of wine for a night away from the house she's chained to)!

I know I'm the butt of the joke here with this troll, but if she was real, my heart just went out to her husband. I felt sorry for the guy and wanted to lend him a hand (metaphorically, he seemed to be doing a good job with his own).

 

[Drifterwood]

I know I'm the butt of the joke here with this troll, but if she was real, my heart just went out to her husband. I felt sorry for the guy and wanted to lend him a hand (metaphorically, he seemed to be doing a good job with his own).[/QUOT

Never feel bad for being the good guy. :hug:

 

[petite]

I know I'm the butt of the joke here with this troll, but if she was real, my heart just went out to her husband. I felt sorry for the guy and wanted to lend him a hand (metaphorically, he seemed to be doing a good job with his own).

Never feel bad for being the good guy. :hug:

Thank you, sweetie! :kiss:

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I smelled shit all over this one from the words "LOVE CHILD"

I almost started to feel bad for those people who were giving novels of genuine advice. Sadly, hang around here long enough and you don't jump in to save someone as soon as they fall in the water. You wait until they sink all the way to the bottom of the pool and turn blue and then you put down your cup of coffee and jump in.

 

[nicenycdick]

Yeah, Petite...nobody is dissing you here. I think all you said was sweetly heartfelt.

 

[Countryguy63]

Petite..I think I love you!! :biggrin1:

(and you don't have to even raise your shirt or compare your bf with me :wink

Your responses here have been awesome!!

 

[D_Relentless Original]

I know I'm the butt of the joke here with this troll, but if she was real, my heart just went out to her husband. I felt sorry for the guy and wanted to lend him a hand (metaphorically, he seemed to be doing a good job with his own).

No Petite, you ain't no joke at all, you appear a very kind person and i love your posts.

I kinda feel sorry for the OP inrespect of her/his desperation for some form of attention. its obvious there are some other issues going on with that person.

 

[wizardglick]

Yes, probably all men masturbate and look at porn. But when it's getting between the two of you then there's a problem. If both of you aren't enjoying what's going on, how can it not be an issue?

You have a choice, either start enjoying it with him or find a way for him to at least limit what he's doing. Like therapy.

Good luck and sorry you're going through this.

 

[D_Easibye Robinhooded]

The kids and i left out of town for a Spring Break vacation.He was so angry about my post and our situation he would not accept any phone calls from me or reply to any text messages.I couldn't relax or have fun with my kids knowing how upset he was.

By day three I got a text message stating he was too horny too be mad at me anymore and was thinking about his favorite fantasy(me getting double stuffed by two Black men).I wasn't happy about what his message said but was happy that he was at least communicating with me.

That night I sent him some fantasy texts that I knew he would enjoy.I tell him fantasies I know he would like.They aren't things I would do in real life-just to entertain him while I am away.He was jerking off and sending me the vids.The next day I sent him topless photos of myself on the river and some pics of myself bending over.A lot easier with a friend holding the camera.He complained that he needed more from me.Making me feel what I did wasn't good enough.That night I send him some vids of myself playing with a cucumber and a magnum.He seemed to enjoy that a little bit more.

After coming home after six days we had great intimacy over the weekend.He confided in me that he was jerking off two-three times a day to porn and upgraded his
membership on lpsg.

Monday rolled around and he kept requesting an anal toy video from me.I had a busy day.We are in the middle of packing up a 3100 sq foot house.He was frustrated and disapointed with me.He went to play basketball late that evening.While he was gone I cleaned the kitchen,put the kids to bed,and took a shower.I put my jammies on.He can home and was unhappy that I wasn't smart enough to be naked or in lingerie.

Yesterday sent an anal toy video to him at work and he complained about the lighting.This man is never happy with me.

What is a Troll,PM, and OP?

 

[helgaleena]

Troll is somebody who posts things just to get responses, sometimes even nasty ones, because they have nothing better to do.

PM is private message, here at LPSG there is an email service between members we can use.

OP is original poster, which is you (or else your husband pretending to be you-- we cannot be sure if you do not quit using his account and sign up as yourself, as you should, as it is one of the rules here)

And your husband is still making you do all the work in this sex business he has stirred up. Tell him you have a lot to handle raising the kids 24/7 and if he wants you to be sexy for him maybe he needs to do a few more of these things, not just invent more jobs for you!

If I were you I would resent that very much.

 

[Chaotica]

I call BS on the cucumber & magnum though... OP's story stinks like parmesan cheese.

 

[helgaleena]

Chaotica, I am one who takes all requests as serious until proven otherwise, just in case... but yes, that is a frequent comment earlier on this thread.

 

[D_Sparroe Spongecaques]

Well, you might get more responses from other women in the other forum. Maybe you could PM a moderator to move it?

It's not wrong at all! It is normal and all men do it. You need to realize that first and stop judging your husband for doing it. He's just a normal man.

And maybe his lack of interest has to do with how you feel about him watching porn? When I asked if you watched it with him, I meant in a fun exciting way, not in a judgmental way that would make him feel really bad.

I think part of marriage and being in a long term relationship with someone is about exploring your sexuality together and enjoying it. It sounds a little like you're trying to alter your husband's tastes and it's not going to work. You can't make him not like something that he likes.

You need to turn this into something that you can both enjoy, say by beginning to watch it and then having sex while it's playing, or playing with his penis while he watches it, and if you can't enjoy it with him, then you need to allow him to enjoy porn on his own.

I agree with this comment.There is absolutely nothing wrong with OP hubby looking at porn.

Correct me on this but you're a member on a large penis site......and if thats ok then wouldnt it be ok for hubby to look at porn?

I'm probably not the right one to reply on this subject given what i do but my bf looks at porn and so did my ex husbands......its perfectly natural

 

[D_Easibye Robinhooded]

omg.If I could send you a video from my phone I could prove it to you Chaotica.Why is that so unbelievable?Thank you Helgaleena.I posted because it makes me feel better.Maybe I will grow some balls and get my own account so everyone on here will stop thinking i am a dude.I was not aware of the rules.I may contradict myself but I am not perfect like so many on here believe themselves to me.

My point is no matter what my husband is never happy with me sexually.Up until a year and a half ago he felt he needed to hide is porn from me.Fearing my judgement.Now after opening up and telling me how much he jerks off and his fantasies of other people it's almost worse.Because i am not 100 per cent on board with him and his fantasies i am looked down upon and judged.

 

[D_Leotols Toy]

If you are unhappy, leave. If he doesn't respect you, leave. Don't put yourself through torture if he won't change and you're not happy. NOT COMPATIBLE.

 

[mariamluvsEMbig]

It was my first time posting.I didn't realize there were different sections to post.I can't figure out how to change it or post in women's issues.I seriously do not know how to relax about life and porn.Seems so wrong.I am always around for my husband.I feel like he would rather masterbate than actually have sex.He's less in the mood afterwards.When he hasn't looked at porn he has so much energy for me but that is rare.

if it were me and i found porn on my guy's computer and the girls looked like me i think i would be a little offended because why is he taking care of himself with look-a-likes of me instead of getting the real thing which i would think would be better.

 

[helgaleena]

OP, it's your husband who needs to exhibit some balls. He is the one who sneaks around thinking only of his own pleasure and not yours, expecting you to be superwoman. He needs to prove he worships you and not just any picture on the internets that resembles you. He needs to value your satisfaction and not just his own, and you have to let him know exactly how often you are resorting to toys because he isn't holding up his end.

Otherwise you are going to grow farther apart. He is not satisfied because you are trying to please without revealing your displeasure, and he can sense it. He just doesn't know what it is that annoys him-- what annoys him is that he is mistaking an idea of sexy you for the real sexy you, and from fear of losing him you are not telling him his mistake.

I hope that makes some sense to you. Get him to read this or use the words here, but let out the 'negative' you are afraid to tell him. It needs letting out before it festers. It can be handled if you admit to it. Same as his porn viewing, which he also hid out of fear.