I wasn’t sure where to post this but I’m just looking for some advice from others who might have gone through a similar situation in their lives or are currently.
I’ve been in love with my best friend for almost a year and the last few months have taken a toll on me physically and emotionally and I’m just sort of at a loss for what I should do. We’re both very close friends, and because we have so much in common, it makes it harder to try and not develop even deeper feelings.
About 3 weeks ago or so, I introduced him to an acquaintance of mine and he told me he thought she was cute. Fast forward to a couple days ago, and they’ve already gone on 4 dates and have fucked around, and things are just sort of a sudden train wreck in my mind. I’m sure it’s not as bad looking from the outside in, but Jesus Christ, how do you not feel completely heartbroken when you spend so long emotionally wasting yourself for someone who is never going to love you in the way you love them, and to only see them go on and be happy with other people...whom you introduced no doubt?
Is it terrible I hope she fucks him over? There is a part of me that wants him to get hurt by her somehow, but I know that can’t be healthy for me to think.
What does someone do in this situation? Do I slowly detach myself from the friendship? Stop responding as much/ helping him?
Any advice would be wonderful.
I’ve been in love with my best friend for almost a year and the last few months have taken a toll on me physically and emotionally and I’m just sort of at a loss for what I should do. We’re both very close friends, and because we have so much in common, it makes it harder to try and not develop even deeper feelings.
About 3 weeks ago or so, I introduced him to an acquaintance of mine and he told me he thought she was cute. Fast forward to a couple days ago, and they’ve already gone on 4 dates and have fucked around, and things are just sort of a sudden train wreck in my mind. I’m sure it’s not as bad looking from the outside in, but Jesus Christ, how do you not feel completely heartbroken when you spend so long emotionally wasting yourself for someone who is never going to love you in the way you love them, and to only see them go on and be happy with other people...whom you introduced no doubt?
Is it terrible I hope she fucks him over? There is a part of me that wants him to get hurt by her somehow, but I know that can’t be healthy for me to think.
What does someone do in this situation? Do I slowly detach myself from the friendship? Stop responding as much/ helping him?
Any advice would be wonderful.