I’ve Given Up On Ever Meeting Anyone

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Bi married, discrete, attractive, masculine, endowed, fun and sensual. That all sounds great but I haven’t been able to meet anyone online that either I sync with or that even shows up to meet. I have a lonely marriage where my wife has zero interest in sex or intimacy anymore. Sure, In my ‘straight’ world, I have a ton of friends. My Facebook alone has 5,000 friends and I interact with so many different people but when it comes to finding a friend for my “bi” side, or anyone I can connect to at all, I’ve completely struck out. Guys diss me, insult me, flake out, ghost me, etc... This has made me overwhelming depressed, unsure of myself and I can’t figure out why I can’t seem to connect with anyone on the male side (forget the female side at this point). I’ve come to the fact I must just give up and go back to my fake, lonely life if this is how it is,.. It’s no wonder so many bisexuals commit suicide
 

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Bi married, discrete, attractive, masculine, endowed, fun and sensual. That all sounds great but I haven’t been able to meet anyone online that either I sync with or that even shows up to meet. I have a lonely marriage where my wife has zero interest in sex or intimacy anymore. Sure, In my ‘straight’ world, I have a ton of friends. My Facebook alone has 5,000 friends and I interact with so many different people but when it comes to finding a friend for my “bi” side, or anyone I can connect to at all, I’ve completely struck out. Guys diss me, insult me, flake out, ghost me, etc... This has made me overwhelming depressed, unsure of myself and I can’t figure out why I can’t seem to connect with anyone on the male side (forget the female side at this point). I’ve come to the fact I must just give up and go back to my fake, lonely life if this is how it is,.. It’s no wonder so many bisexuals commit suicide
Never give up. The right one CV is out there waiting for you
 
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Hey buddy - hang in there.
I’m not married anymore, divorced and I’m straight- but I can relate. As much as I love the single life, and I’m right where I need to be. I do find myself lonely at times....I think we all do. There’s a good quote -
“When you stop chasing the wrong things- you let the right things catch up”
I’ve had my share of relationships that end up boring me....but there is nothing worse than being in a numb lifeless marriage that lacks love and true interest. I sure don’t judge anyone- or try to manage lives- but why do you stay?
Remember - You don’t get what you want - you get what you attract.
Something or someone very good will align in your life for you- believe it. Good luck
 

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*blink*
Ok.....
So...... You're whining about not being able to find anyone to cheat on your wife with??
No mention of her input, either.
No talk of attempting to fix the situation....
No medical evaluations. No therapy.
Just swinging wildly & trying to find some dude to betray the trust of someone who isn't aware of your activity (up to this point).
And, because your skeevy attempts at infidelity are failing, you think that puts you on the same level as people attempting/committing suicide, because of difficulties they're having with sexual identity??
Gtfo
I've got nothing for you...
 
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*blink*
Ok.....
So...... You're whining about not being able to find anyone to cheat on your wife with??
No mention of her input, either.
No talk of attempting to fix the situation....
No medical evaluations. No therapy.
Just swinging wildly & trying to find some dude to betray the trust of someone who isn't aware of your activity (up to this point).
And, because your skeevy attempts at infidelity are failing, you think that puts you on the same level as people attempting/committing suicide, because of difficulties they're having with sexual identity??
Gtfo
I've got nothing for you...

I was thinking "maybe there are more decent people out there than I had thought, who don't want to be involved with someone who is trying to cheat" the entire time I read the original post.
 

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*blink*
Ok.....
So...... You're whining about not being able to find anyone to cheat on your wife with??
No mention of her input, either.
No talk of attempting to fix the situation....
No medical evaluations. No therapy.
Just swinging wildly & trying to find some dude to betray the trust of someone who isn't aware of your activity (up to this point).
And, because your skeevy attempts at infidelity are failing, you think that puts you on the same level as people attempting/committing suicide, because of difficulties they're having with sexual identity??
Gtfo
I've got nothing for you...

Thanks. That was helpful
 
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Dude?unless you live in the middle of nowhere,with all the dating apps and sites available nowadays.You should be fucking and sucking on the daily.
 

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I have a lonely marriage where my wife has zero interest in sex or intimacy anymore.

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I’ve come to the fact I must just give up and go back to my fake, lonely life if this is how it is,.. It’s no wonder so many bisexuals commit suicide

These two sentences speak far more than anything else you wrote.

I will guarantee this: even if you find a dozen great guys to play with on the DL, you will remain lonely. You have 5,000 Fbook "friends". You are lonely. Why? Because they aren't friends. In your own words they are people with whom you "interact". That's not a word I ever use to describe my friendships. And any guys who agree to meet and play are only "interacting".

And cheating.

As socalfreak and Fade rightly stated, what you want to do is wrong if your wife is unaware and you don't have her complete acceptance.

I had a dead marriage. My ex-wife was a serial cheater. I started screwing around, partly out of revenge, and partly because I was so fucking lonely. I had women, plenty of 'em. Guess what? Revenge doesn't do shit, and plenty of side women doesn't fix lonely. If anything it made me more lonely.

Until you fix your marriage one way or another, nothing else you do will change how you feel.
 

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I love how the trolls are harassing you, as if you are committing the most heinous crime in the world for growing bored of your sexless marriage and experiencing feelings of depression because of it.

Either seek a marriage counselor to resolve your issues or call it quits and move on, where you are at with that woman is not healthy at all. Sexless marriages are actually common and it's a sign of a whole host of issues that are there.
 

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So if you call out bs for exactly what it is it's trolling now? Is your back hurting from the reach?

No one is shaming him for being lonely. It's the lying and cheating part. It also sounds like he wants a justification for cheating. So who knows if he's not the one sabotaging the relationship in order to rationalize his urges. If they had an open relationship, this wouldn't be an issue. But it is not consensual and she has not agreed to this from what we know.

Stop trying to rationalize this behavior.
 

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So if you call out bs for exactly what it is it's trolling now? Is your back hurting from the reach?

No one is shaming him for being lonely. It's the lying and cheating part. It also sounds like he wants a justification for cheating. So who knows if he's not the one sabotaging the relationship in order to rationalize his urges. If they had an open relationship, this wouldn't be an issue. But it is not consensual and she has not agreed to this from what we know.

Stop trying to rationalize this behavior.
Just note that the asshat accusing trolling has been laid about three times in his what?...30 years on this planet. So he's eminently qualified to opine about relationships and sex.
 

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This is proof for the billionth time that marriage is an unnatural state. Our species does NOT instinctually form lifetime one-on-one pair bonds heterosexual or otherwise. Result? Moralists have to enforce pair bonding by law. What's the penalty for adultery in the Bible & Koran? Death. What's the penalty for man-on-man sex? Death. How fucking stupid is that?

What's the penalty here? Scolding by moralists who ignore the science of our biology and choose instead to continue believing in this unnatural social institution then withholding forgiveness which their moral code also demands.

Instinctually we all want more than one sex partner. If we didn't there would be no porn industry and no one would attend sites like this one.

Fake lonely life? Goddamned straight. Unless your wife changes or agrees to an open relationship get the hell out your marriage. Or cheat all you want. Either way you'll get no condemnation from me.
 

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This is proof for the billionth time that marriage is an unnatural state. Our species does NOT instinctually form lifetime one-on-one pair bonds heterosexual or otherwise. Result? Moralists have to enforce pair bonding by law. What's the penalty for adultery in the Bible & Koran? Death. What's the penalty for man-on-man sex? Death. How fucking stupid is that?

What's the penalty here? Scolding by moralists who ignore the science of our biology and choose instead to continue believing in this unnatural social institution then withholding forgiveness which their moral code also demands.

Instinctually we all want more than one sex partner. If we didn't there would be no porn industry and no one would attend sites like this one.

Fake lonely life? Goddamned straight. Unless your wife changes or agrees to an open relationship get the hell out your marriage. Or cheat all you want. Either way you'll get no condemnation from me.

Oh gee, you sure do have it all figured out.

So you're perfectly okay with someone who professes love for you to lie to your face?

Nobody forced the OP to marry. If he didn't want that commitment he could have easily stayed single and fucked anyone he wanted. But he did make the commitment, and all anyone here is judging is whether he keeps the promises he makes. Whether he's lying to the woman he swore he wouldn't cheat against.

Your attempt to hang ancient religious law on this, as if it actually applies here today, is hilarious. I suppose we also put men to death for cutting their hair. This is about how any civilized person relates to people he's close with. Religion need not be brought here. Agnostics and atheists are fully capable of making and honoring commitments. It's always a choice. Free will. If you can't commit, I'm cool with that. Don't make a commitment if you can't keep it. If you are in a commitment and can no longer keep it, that's cool too...if you tell those affected by it. Going behind anyone's back is cowardly, contemptable behavior.

Speak for yourself about why you are here, or why you watch porn. Your reasons aren't mine, so don't apply them to me.
 

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This is proof for the billionth time that marriage is an unnatural state. Our species does NOT instinctually form lifetime one-on-one pair bonds heterosexual or otherwise. Result? Moralists have to enforce pair bonding by law. What's the penalty for adultery in the Bible & Koran? Death. What's the penalty for man-on-man sex? Death. How fucking stupid is that?

What's the penalty here? Scolding by moralists who ignore the science of our biology and choose instead to continue believing in this unnatural social institution then withholding forgiveness which their moral code also demands.

Instinctually we all want more than one sex partner. If we didn't there would be no porn industry and no one would attend sites like this one.

Fake lonely life? Goddamned straight. Unless your wife changes or agrees to an open relationship get the hell out your marriage. Or cheat all you want. Either way you'll get no condemnation from me.
 

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No one is condemning anyone for being a slut. I fully support sluttiness, as long as you are not involving someone else who didn't sign up for that. Some people here have reading comprehension issues.

If he wants to have other partners that's fine. But don't expose the wife to the potential for diseases she didn't ask for.
 

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You're married and not investing your energies into working on your marriage, but working on cheating on your wife, and you are excusing yourself by telling yourself that your bisexuality is your problem...

Whatever story you need to tell yourself to be able to live with yourself, I guess. If you really think about, I think you know you're FOS though.
 

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So if you call out bs for exactly what it is it's trolling now? Is your back hurting from the reach?

No one is shaming him for being lonely. It's the lying and cheating part. It also sounds like he wants a justification for cheating. So who knows if he's not the one sabotaging the relationship in order to rationalize his urges. If they had an open relationship, this wouldn't be an issue. But it is not consensual and she has not agreed to this from what we know.

Stop trying to rationalize this behavior.

There are a million things going on in the world right now that are far worse than some guy flirting with the idea of have any affair whilst in a unhappy and sexless marriage. Seriously, he is just some random guy that none of you have ever met lol, if he wants to potentially ruin his marriage that is his business and none of you are in a place to preach to him. Also, half the posters on this thread are also cyberstalkers that endlessly harassed me on this site for literally years on here, so they are in absolutely no place to be judging the OP lol.