I Am A Straight Guy...

[NottsBound]

Hey guys, just had something in my head, thought I'd share it with you guys.
I am a straight guy, love women. never been with a man. I am fascinated by big penises to the point where i wouldn't mind pleasuring another one. (I've never done so)

I've been thinking about it lots, to the point I contemplated going to a gay nightclub. The problem is I'm not bi-sexual or homosexual. Even though I am fascinated by big cocks, I feel really grossed out at the thought of kissing another man or even seeing two guys kiss.

The whole gay sex idea for me isn't daunting at all, I wouldnt mind trying it but it's the thought of kissing another guy that freaks me out.
I never have fantasies about friends, its just hot guys online that I wouldn't mind pleasuring.

Also, I could never fall into an emotional connection with a man, that would gross me out too.

I hope I havent offended anyone...but is it normal for a straight guy to have such mixed thoughts like these?

 

[maxcok]

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p.s. This topic has been covered to death.

 

[NottsBound]

Sorry..though my scenario was a little different.

 

[maxcok]

Sorry..though my scenario was a little different.

Nope. And you have at least one fake pic in your gallery too.

 

[D_Phil_R_Upp]

First of all, don't stress the labels. You prefer women, but have a healthy curiosity about other guys. Even the straightest straight guy has looked around at a locker room or urinal.

I'm gay but have had a lot of straight BFF's and roommates, and based on what I've observed and heard from them, it's normal to have a curiosity. Especially if you fantasize about guys who are really well hung and/or are very muscular. (Though dude, you are not lacking in that department!)

I had a straight roommate after college for a year and a half, now married with six kids and active in the swinger lifestyle. But he loved watching my gay porn, and was very turned on when he watched one of his friends fuck my mouth and ass.

There are lots of straight men who occasionally involve other guys in their play with their wives (like cuckolds).

I think a nightclub would probably be the wrong place to go, though, if you just want to find a dude to play with. It wouldn't be impossible, but you'd be far more likely to find someone in a club who either wants to date or at the very least, wants to kiss before they do the walk of shame home.

You could try a sex club or an adult bookstore. But honestly I think your best bet is to go onto a site like Craigslist. Be as blunt and direct as possible about what you wanna try and what you wanna do. Meet the dude at a coffeeshop and check each other out, and if you feel cool with everything, go for it.

 

[maxcok]

Nope. And you have at least one fake pic in your gallery too.

Oh good. You took that down.

I was going to tell you that passing off someone else's pic as your own was a bannable offense.

Let's just say I'm very familiar with the fella in that pic, and he sure as hell doesn't live in the UK.

 

[avatarng]

come out already. nice try man.

 

[glowfish]

So this guy's a fake or what? If there's one fake picture in there, have to assume the rest are.

 

[maxcok]

I can't assume that. It wouldn't surprise me, but who knows?

The pic he took down was definitely stolen. Trust me.

If anybody wants to investigate further, I suppose they could do that.

 

[JaimeB]

how to say this?

i'm sorry if it's hard for you to read this, but you should be able to see your situation from a gay man's point of view if you are going to be having sex with one.

you are making the act of kissing the focus of your interiorized homophobia. you obviously have sexual feelings for other men, and you think by compartmentalizing sex from intimacy and affection, you can hold onto a privileged label as str8. you've symbolized this in the form of repulsion at kissing another man.

if you jerked him off or sucked his cock, you would be far more gay than if you just made out with him...

as a mostly gay dude, i find intriguing (and a bit sad) the things that some guys have to go through to preserve the notion that it's possible to act out homoerotic desires and not adjust your self-image. it's no worse to kiss a man and like it than to do the same with a woman.

there is no real privilege in being complicit in str8 homophobia, just the perpetuation of a nasty, destructive social prejudice. by feeling that you have to distance yourself from your own feelings, you're aiming that prejudice at yourself, and it's not going to be good for you, especially if you do act on your sexual feelings. homophobic feelings will just come back to bite you on the ass.

let go of it so you can enjoy being yourself and not have to play games or make up excuses that ultimately harm yourself as well as the others you feel drawn to play with.

oh, and you don't have to give up your love of women to love men.

 

[maxcok]

That was very well and very diplomatically put, Jaime. I would sum it up saying his "gross out" factor over kissing a man, seeing two men kiss, or the threat of an "emotional connection" with a man is nothing more than internalized homophobia. To put it simply, he's grossed out by himself, by the idea he could actually do those things and like it. It's telling too that he wants to explore with anonymous strangers, not someone who could possibly be a friend. You're right, it's all very compartmentalized, with overtones of denial and self-delusion.

 

[SpeedoMike]

seems to me his feelings are not all that different than thinking going down on a woman or fucking a guy in the ass is gross. what one thinks before stepping out of his comfort zone may be very different after doing so.

 

[cklover]

He's either GAY GAY GAY or FAKE FAKE FAKE!

 

[AlextheRedhead]

how to say this?

i'm sorry if it's hard for you to read this, but you should be able to see your situation from a gay man's point of view if you are going to be having sex with one.

you are making the act of kissing the focus of your interiorized homophobia. you obviously have sexual feelings for other men, and you think by compartmentalizing sex from intimacy and affection, you can hold onto a privileged label as str8. you've symbolized this in the form of repulsion at kissing another man.

if you jerked him off or sucked his cock, you would be far more gay than if you just made out with him...

as a mostly gay dude, i find intriguing (and a bit sad) the things that some guys have to go through to preserve the notion that it's possible to act out homoerotic desires and not adjust your self-image. it's no worse to kiss a man and like it than to do the same with a woman.

there is no real privilege in being complicit in str8 homophobia, just the perpetuation of a nasty, destructive social prejudice. by feeling that you have to distance yourself from your own feelings, you're aiming that prejudice at yourself, and it's not going to be good for you, especially if you do act on your sexual feelings. homophobic feelings will just come back to bite you on the ass.

let go of it so you can enjoy being yourself and not have to play games or make up excuses that ultimately harm yourself as well as the others you feel drawn to play with.

oh, and you don't have to give up your love of women to love men.

Very well put. Bravo!!! :arms:

 

[glowfish]

That was a good post actually, I hadn't thought about how that behaviour might be perceived from a gay male. I'm consistently surprised at the variety of obviously (from my perspective) homosexual activities that men are willing to engage in with other men using the excuse "it's not gay if..". My response is always "no dude, that's gay". Not that it's a problem, but why dance around the subject? Being gay in western society is probably still quite tough I imagine, but on the world stage it's one of the places where ones rights as an individual are protected.

 

[lurker37160]

I think a vicious cornholing would do him good.

 

[fergusonsmith]

Like myself, you are living proof that sexuality cannot be conveniently labeled. You are simply what you are... A guy who loves women who is curious about cocks. It's not unusual, and it just doesn't matter much. Go satisfy your curiosity and don't sweat it one way or another.

 

[DiscoBoy]

I am also a straight guy.

 

[TomCat84]

I can't assume that. It wouldn't surprise me, but who knows?

The pic he took down was definitely stolen. Trust me.

If anybody wants to investigate further, I suppose they could do that.

Isn't that funny when that happens? I had it happen to me on Adam4Adam once. A guy with a ripped torso showing in his only pic- I was like Yeah sure Ill hook up with you, lemme see your pvt pic. He unlocks- and guess what? It's a face pic of my best friend. And my best friend definitely does NOT have a ripped torso. I LOLd him into deleting his account. Moron.

 

[maxcok]

Isn't that funny when that happens? . . .

It's even funnier when it's a picture of you.

I am also a straight guy.

Goddamit! Does this mean the engagement is off?