i am confused is he sending me signals is he bi? st8?

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so i met this dude a few weeks ago. from work he's a neighbor cool guy.. we hit it off from there . we are always talking, he always gets an exuse to be around me and talk always smiling joking around etc. really cool with me in a short period of time. we hanged out a few times grabbed beers etc. he always text me like what am i doing or like where you at. really busy guy but always has time to talk to me. buys me drinks. he's always talking sexual to me about chicks which its shocking because no friend ever done this.i sense it in him but sometimes i don't. i don't have the balls to ask him always getting me coffee at work really generous with me.. last night we joked around about him having a small one he was like its big you wish you had mine ill send you a picture want to see it i laughed it off an then went to a other topic. caught him checkin me out once. we are masculine and developed a bromance.been to his place in a short period of time knowing him. i love pussy but i want to see what ups. guys have any advice for me?
 

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At the end you state you love pussy..That okay and it's also okay to want to know what's up with your friend..Considering you are sending mixed signals by the very question you are asking advice on.Are you interested or just flattered by his attention.If you are interested just make a joke, that you are still waiting for that photo..go from there if you are interested...?
 

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You said you joked around and always had a good time together. Maybe that is what is appealing for him. I'm friends with other gay guys that are appealing to me for those same reasons.

I can't speak to the part about checking you out since I don't know what your standard is for considering something a check out.
 

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If you want to stay frends i'd say leve it alone. If your just hanging out to test your curiuosity then go ahead and play it out. Your hyped now but the less you give away to test yourself the more you wll remain after it is all done.
 

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I don't care we are real cool with each other would it effect the relationship if I did hook up with him?
 

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I've read the original post several times, and I'm not sure that I know what your question is. Is he coming on to you? I don't know. Clearly he likes your company, but I wouldn't necessarily say he is interested in you in a sexual way. Is he gay or bi? I don't know, and you don't either. Maybe you should ask him. What would your goal be if you did ask him? Aren't you really wondering if he is interested in you?

How should you proceed? Enjoy what you do have, and then take it from there. It's not been that long. He's IS obviously flirting with you/joking with you. If he brings up sending you a pic again, tell him "Who needs pics? We can drop trou now and compare if you want." Depending on how many drinks you have each had, you will get various responses to this.

My one caution is that clearly YOU LIKE HIM and want him to be gay or bi and be interested in you. Have you told him you like men and women? (For that matter, have you admitted that to yourself?) That might be a place to start if you haven't, just so he knows. I believe being up front about your thoughts without being pushy is the best advice in dealing with 98% of men.

If you're really honest....really, really honest with yourself, you'll admit that you're attracted to him, and that's what's throwing you off here. BTW, there are many of us men who like both sexes for sex. Variety is the spice of life, after all!
 
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keep talking about sex... if he brings up wishing you had his size, call him out... :)
"if you man enough to whip it out, i am woman enough to suck it"
 

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thanks guys for the input more opinions are appreciated.
really it scares the hell out of me if i told him my feelings because he knows people I know. I just want it on the dl. what should i do to give him signs?
 

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People have been asking this question, or ones similar to it, at least since I've been here. Usually, it's generally agreed that acting on this situation will change things.

For some blasts from the past (2006)...
http://www.lpsg.com/24845-how-do-you-know-if.html
http://www.lpsg.com/25297-how-to-get-friend-to.html

I wish I could find the one that's closer, almost identical, to what you've asked. There were a few really good ones, but my archive goes back about 7 years, and I just don't have that kinda time.
:tongue:
 

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texted me recently that he was hard and needed a bitch to suck it then called me ... lol i don't get it. then say shits gay what he's telling me.. lol
 

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today he told me at work want to suck it and winked then a smirk on his face... its was funny...totally straight acting dude.