This kinda stuff happens all the time every day.
This is certainly what I have observed.
I disagree with a lot that has been said here. Simply because I think it is more chicken and egg than black and white.
If you want a relationship to work, then work on it. That cuts both ways. Why isn't she working on the relationship by giving him a quick handjob every now and then? I bet she'd get a nice cuddle before and afterwards. But does she actually still want this? This is what guys tell me, this what they worry about. Do you want your guy to be worrying that the relationship isn't working because you won't jerk him off once in a while? A lot of guys see their relationship and bonding reinforced by sexual attention. Guys end up thinking that you are not interested in their sexuality how ever many good reasons you have. Guys may be wrong to think this, but that is the way that many are.
Maybe some women don't or want more
and he should attend to those needs. Are you giving her attention, do you make her still feel special after all this time? Like I said, I think it is chicken and egg.
I have a friend who trades blow jobs with his wife. Honey will you wash the car for me? That'll cost you a blow job, Dear. Honey will you ...? You get the picture, though I think she must like blowing him, because every time I go round, he is always doing something :smile:
I imagine that the reason that he posted this is because he actually doesn't want to cheat on his wife.