I Bought a Ring for My Husband's Girlfriend.

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Anyway, his girlfriend had an emergency at one of her rental properties, and had to cancel Valentine's at the last minute. So, they rescheduled their little celebration for this past Friday night (Feb 16).
Not a joke - A friend of mine used this excuse once with his girlfriend, he was having an affair of course.
 

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I wish my ex would help me out and teach my current girlfriend how to give a good BJ :biggrin1:

It's great that you can still be such good friends though!
 

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Wow, I wish I was you! I wish I was buying my soon to be ex's girlfriend a ring. I wish we had an amicable relationship. He hates me, and stalks me, and harrasses me (and yes, our seperation WAS mututal in the begining). I wish he'd find a woman...I really do. But good for you that your divorce has been so smooth.
 

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That was a great story Holly. Thanks for sharing it as it is so nice to hear abour people (especially exes) getting on so well and acting like well adjusted human beings.
 

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Perhaps true to form, I don't see this quite the same way as does the average poster. I find the story to be deeply weird.

Thank you, and now back to the regularly scheduled group hug. Meanwhile I'll just hie my butt back to the Tractor Repair Forum, where things aren't so, well, weird.
 

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Perhaps true to form, I don't see this quite the same way as does the average poster. I find the story to be deeply weird.

Thank you, and now back to the regularly scheduled group hug. Meanwhile I'll just hie my butt back to the Tractor Repair Forum, where things aren't so, well, weird.

If only you knew what I knew about the strange crap that goes on in tractor supply stores...


Holly, you're awesome, but everyone already knows that.
 

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Yes, it's true, and we're all happy about it. How about that?

[...]

"Thank you," ToolMan said tearfully. "I think this may be the coolest thing you've ever done for me."

Hmm...seventeen years together...fourteen years of marriage...and this is the coolest thing I've ever done for him?

I'm floored. Completely amazed. What a wonderfully, shockingly giving act!

Yep, if one of my three exes did that kind of thing for my lover, I'd consider that the coolest thing they'd ever done.

You're my kind of person, HollyBlue. I admire you immensely.

NCbear (who's still trying to pick his jaw up off the floor)
 

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I tried to reply to this before, but I've been having computer problems and it froze up.

Anyway, the biggest favor you did was for yourself. You get to set the tone for your relationship with your soon-to-be ex, and why make an enemy where you could retain a friend? If the friendship is worth having then it's worth having now. In addition to growing in the esteem of your friends, you know the real reward is the growth you get to experience. I'm very, very happy for you that you aren't wasting time with negativity, even though doing so would be quite understandable.

My daughter's father and I remained friends after our divorce, and probably consider each other among our better friends to this day. When he remarried, I often took his wife's son along with my daughter when I came to get her so they could have some time alone. I considered the boy a part of my extended family and was grateful for someone else to love.

I'll bet your almost-ex will be right there for you too the next time you need a hand with something, I'd think you made quite an impression. Amazing stuff, good for all of us to see what a difference it makes to be willing to give of ourselves even when it's not the easiest thing to do.
 

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Anyway, the biggest favor you did was for yourself. You get to set the tone for your relationship with your soon-to-be ex, and why make an enemy where you could retain a friend? If the friendship is worth having then it's worth having now. In addition to growing in the esteem of your friends, you know the real reward is the growth you get to experience. I'm very, very happy for you that you aren't wasting time with negativity, even though doing so would be quite understandable.

My daughter's father and I remained friends after our divorce, and probably consider each other among our better friends to this day. When he remarried, I often took his wife's son along with my daughter when I came to get her so they could have some time alone. I considered the boy a part of my extended family and was grateful for someone else to love.

I'll bet your almost-ex will be right there for you too the next time you need a hand with something, I'd think you made quite an impression. Amazing stuff, good for all of us to see what a difference it makes to be willing to give of ourselves even when it's not the easiest thing to do.

Thanks, MZ, and everyone else.

It's fascinating to me -- I posted this thread not to say "oh look what a cool person I am" -- didn't expect the kinds of responses I got at all!!

I posted it just because I thought the...absurdity of the situation was rather amusing.

Thanks for all the compliments, but it was no big. As I said, friends help friends, and as several people have said, setting a positive and giving tone beats negativity any day.

The wonderful thing is...while I was still in the relationship, I still always tried to set a positive and giving tone, but it was far more difficult because my needs weren't being met, and I was in an unsatisfying situation.

Now I'm in a mind-blowingly happy relationship, and I'm out of the less-than-satisfying one. Trust me, it's far easier now to be positive and giving than it was when I still lived under the same roof with TM.

And...what was said above was very prophetic. I mentioned on the phone that I was out of windshield washer fluid and didn't have time to get any.

Guess who showed up on my doorstep with a jug of windshield washer fluid?

TM handed it to me, I thanked him, we laughed, and then he went to get back to his GF.

I'm no saint (just ask anyone who knows me well):wink: ...I'm simply a person who is choosing to live with an open heart. :wink:

Thanks again for all the positive remarks. I wasn't fishing, I swear.
 

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This is a great story, HB. As the years go by, I embrace the absurdities in life most. The greatest lessons and most wonderful surprises stem from them. My first ex found me recently after 12 years and we've become great friends. My second ex and I are not as close but we communicate well and he's my official dogsitter now. :biggrin1: It's amazing what can happen when you extend your hand out to others and show respect. Nothing like good karma to make what could be an awkward or difficult situation more pleasant. S'all good. :smile: