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Hi sexcraz1, I get how this is frustrating, but its not the biggest issue anyone ever had. I wonder if you are making it a big issue which just might be a reason you are not cumming when your wife sucks you.
Based on my own experiences, these things are in our heads.
I assume you have no difficulty cumming when screwing or jerking off, so it is just this one behavior, is't it? Worded differently, your equipment works just fine, doesnt it, theres something about this process of getting sucked that doesnt do it. Wonder what that could be? Is there something yucky about cumming in your wifes mouth? A reasonable person might think this. Does this seem like something that doesnt fit how you feel about your wife?
If not, could there be something about the rhythm and pattern of movements she is using?
Trade places. As we are aware many women have difficulty orgasming with their men even if they are otherwise able. Often it must be a thing of trust and confidence, not necessarily lacking trust otherwise in ones lover as a person, but not expecting that he, or in your case she, can maintain the correct rhythm. Being afraid our lover won't would probably do most of us in.
I think it must be very difficult to have an orgasm while worrying that Im not going to have it.
Who knows.
As a gay man with decades experience giving blow jobs its basically inconceivable to me that my buddy will not cum. Maybe Im a better cock sucker than I think, but it doesnt seem to me to be material. Maybe, being male myself, I have a sense of what my fellow male partner is feeling.
For example, I am aware that I myself have a specific best spot which if I massage it will invariably lead to an orgasm.
You see, Im a right hand jerker; on the right underside of my corona is a spot where my index finger rubs the frenulum beneath my corona or glans. Thats my spot.
So here's what I'm thinking when I blow a guy. I always assume that if a guys dick curves right, the comparable spot on the right side will be his spot. The first thing I check if I'm going to blow a guy is his curve.
As I edge him up and down, dragging out his pleasure, I have to trust his breathing and thrusting to communicate to me when the time for edging has ended and he's ready to cum. Whatever else I am doing, I will massage this spot with my hand in synch with my mouth as a single organ. I assume he cant cum unless he knows what the rhythm is going to be and can trust completely that it will continue relentlessly.
You can do it like Bolero, accelerating ever so gradually, but even then, the pattern must be predictable. He must know what is happening or he wont be able to release. At least thats what I think.
Deep throating is great, but it would be very unusual, to my experience, for it to be the best way to get a guy to cum unless he's so ready, he'll do it anyhow.
I suspect a few women misunderstand how a males pleasure on his glans surface works. Are you like me? It feels too good. You have to be careful. I dont suck the glans side of the head expecting to lead a guy to orgasm. While getting him hot, you can play around with that and get him enjoying all the pleasure, but when it comes time to have an orgasm, I emphasize the underside, the area of frenulum.
My philosophy - who knows Im just a run-of-the-mill cock sucker here - is that you make guys cum by making cock sucking an enhanced form of jerking off, not as a substitute for fucking.
Of course, there is probably more at work with my lifelong success. Im blowing queers, lets face it, Im not there on my knees sucking the unwilling or presumably the inexperienced. The guy expects to shoot and zip, biff bam.
Neither of us will be surprised when he does.
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