I can't get naked infront of friends

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  1. JPREID51

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    I have a issue at gym that i am mostly comfortable naked around people i don't know but when i see a family member or friend i will quickly get dressed or keep the towl wrapped around me. I noticed someone else again comfortable being naked infront of his friend and not strangers. Interested to know with what you comfortable with and any suggestions to overcome this fear?
     
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    Hmmm, interesting subject. Yes, I can understand your fear; I just never though about this subject much. To tell you the truth, I'd probably feel the same under the circumstances.

    I've pretty much run the entire spectrum from feeling uncomfortable around anyone in the locker room....to being totally comfortable....to being uncomfortable once again!??

    My first locker room experience was when I was 12 years old. My parents made me take swimming lessons with my brother and a bunch of neighborhood kids. I was the oldest by a few years and going through puberty at the time. My dick would get hard every time we changed in the locker room. I was EMbarassed as hell! I got pretty comfortable changing in the locker room during high school as we were required to change and shower and all that during gym class.
    I became totally comfortable being naked and showering and all that when I was in college. Being in a dorm where everyone had to share an open shower and even open toilets pretty much breaks down any barriers.

    As for suggestons, just go for it! Face your fear, it's really NO big deal. Remember most guys probably feel the same way (at least to some extent) and everyone is pretty understanding about the embarassment.
     
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    The best advice I could honestly give you is to go to a nude beach and/or resort and hang out naked all day. After about the first hour it becomes a non issue.
     
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    It is good to go naked on a beach or at a spa but I can still see why some people might not want to do that with family.....friends should be easier, as long as your both naked, which you would be at a beach, there shouldn't be an issue
     
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    come to my house i am almost always naked yes after a while you just get used to it been a nudest since 1967
     
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    Maybe you have issues being naked in front of a familiar person because you feel that being naked is disrespectful to them? Or maybe the fact that they aren't strangers makes you feel like you will be judged...or viewed by them as silly? Maybe if you continue to think through it...logic will help save the day. Or...you can do the full immersion therapy that nudey prescribed...that will probably work too, haha.
     
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    It's easy to explain.

    With strangers, there are no expectations, no history, and no consequences. You're not JPReid, you're that naked guy. That level of anonymity is liberating. There is a high degree of probability that you'll never even see each other again.

    With friends, there is a back story, history, and consequences. You're concerned about the consequences.
     
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    Your friends' opinions matter more to you than the opinions of strangers.

    Maybe once you realize that your friends are probably more accepting than you give them credit, you'll feel better.
     
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    I kind of understand. I have no problem being naked around friends who I've seen naked, but I'd never get naked in front of them just randomly without seeing them naked. I think the reason why you can let strangers see you naked is because you actually care what your friends think about your naked body.
     
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    This is honestly the best advice I can think of, too. We're taught from a very young age that we're not supposed to be naked around other people. (We're also taught a lot of other horrible things about our bodies and body image, but that's a whole nuther thread.) Forcing yourself to be naked around other naked people really puts the lie to how silly the idea is that we shouldn't be naked around each other.

    After breaking that association, it's a lot easier to get naked.
     
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    Interesting topic.

    I have absolutely no body shame, and have been to nude beaches, saunas, etc., around the world. In terms of gym lockerrooms, I've gotten to become friends with some people that way, and I saw them naked before we were friends, and also after.

    Yet, the few times I've encountered friends or especially co-workers at the local gym I do get a little shy. Really, I have no interest in seeing my boss naked or vice versa! Isn't there a previous thread about seeing your pastor naked? That's also a bit creepy.
     
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    confidence is always attractive so i'd just get on with it and behave in the same way as you would if you were surrounded by strangers - maybe they are nervous too and when they see you are ok with nudity they will be aw well. if not they may make themsleves scarce so the problem will be solved in that way.

    as i mentioned above even when you're comfortbale with nudity there can still be occasions of uncertainty, i wouldn't want to be naked around my family and while i do tell friends about naturism and have even taken some to their first nudist swim.club these are always people i have seen naked first, usually at the gym.
     
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    I can relate to this. Very close friends, maybe 3 or 4 I have no problem been naked in front of them - no big deal. Not so close friends, people from work, and most other people I know I am very uncomfortable if they walk into the locker room when I am naked. I even avoid going to the gym or swimming with many people in case I have to get naked in front of them. Total strangers are no problem, there was even one time i was chatting with a couple of other guys whilst i was naked, the others were dressed no big deal. I have no idea why i am ok with some situations and not others.
     
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    It's not so much the gym / pool / changing room situation itself, it's how you feel about what might carry forward into future interactions.

    With friends and family ( I just mean parents, brothers and sisters etc., not spouses ) we might need to have some serious discussions sometimes - our finances and living arrangements, how to manage work and education, whether to get married, have children etc., politics, religion, community stuff. Very important, some of it.

    And it's difficult to do some of that sometimes, if they are easily able to picture you naked.

    It's why people are sometimes advised to imagine the audience naked when they are feeling nervous about a public speaking engagement ...

    :smile:
     
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    Well said. It might be analogous to performing in front of an audience vs performing for your friends. Sometimes the latter is much more difficult.
     
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    I have no problem with this at all. I've seen a few of my friends naked. It was no big deal. Just this morning around 4a, a friend and I went and hung out naked at Spa World in Centreville, VA. It was great actually. We talked about life, other shit and just had brotherly bonding time.

    Spa World is a largely Korean establishment. While there, I loved seeing how normalized nudity is for their culture. The males and females are separated in the nude baths of course. But nudity is *mandatory* in the bade pool.

    I did run into a co-worker in the locker room once. He was this this ex-football playing black attorney at my old job. He was so weirded out to see me there. He kept trying to awkwardly cover himself with his tiny towel. It was kinda funny.
     
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    i don;t want to see friendsnaked
     
  18. Jillang

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    We had to do it in hs when we had swimming and that was soooo awkward. It was like gym class, naked, English class, clothed, I guess you get used to it but I don't think it's a normal feeling.
     
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    As a child I would never take off my shirt in front of anyone. Age and apathy caught up to me.

    There are also natural and organic substances that help you to say fuck it.
     
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    good explanation
     
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