I cant get off from head

[jibikao]

I can suck off my boyfriend all the time if he puts his mind to it. I want to suck him off every night but he would actually REFUSE it! lol He said I play with his cock too often. lol

When is the last time you hear a guy say NO to a blowjob?

I guess he doesn't want to get tired after cuming in my mouth...


But he can't suck me off. In fact, none of the guys I've been with can suck me off. I think it's a mental thing. I keep thinking I can't cum when they suck me...


So you are not alone.

 

[jibikao]

Originally posted by LABearz+Jul 19 2005, 02:44 AM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(LABearz &#064; Jul 19 2005, 02:44 AM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-Epsilonchi@Jul 8 2005, 01:54 AM
When my g/f goes down on me, it feels really good... but i cant get off.  if we&#39;re having sex, or if i put my cock in between her 38DD&#39;s , im good to go.  I cant say she doesnt try, like i said before it feels really good.  im convinced that the issue&#39;s with me.  maybe its because it doesnt feel the same way sex or jerking off does. (btw, she cant jerk me off the same way i do because of how i cup me balls) lol.  any suggestions?

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Long-time lurker on here, but this thread compelled me to step up to the plate. I have several theories on this subject that my experience over the years has proven to be true...

(1) A good blowjob is really a hand job disguised as a blowjob. You can lick and suck a cock &#39;til the cows come home, but if you don&#39;t throw in a little hand friction along the way, it ain&#39;t gonna happen. It has to be a combination of both... most guys need some stronger stimulation thrown in besides just sucking. Over the years, I&#39;ve gotten many guys off who&#39;ve said they&#39;ve NEVER been able to cum through oral sex, and this is my number one secret.

(2) Big cocks are harder to get off orally than small to average size ones. Not sure why this is true, but in most cases it is. Those of you who are saying you have trouble getting off orally, not sure how big you are, but this could be a reason. Maybe that&#39;s because of theory #3...

(3) Big cocks and small mouths don&#39;t get along. I really believe this is why men are generally regarded as giving better head than women. (Ladies, no flames please&#33 A man&#39;s cock just seems to fit into a man&#39;s mouth better. A bigger mouth gives you more deep throat action. that&#39;s the only reason I can think of. Except maybe for reason #4...

(4) Teeth are not your friend. The minute you feel those teeth scraping your cock, it&#39;s all over. And with a smaller mouth, that&#39;s more likely to happen. Again, guys with bigger cocks are liable to be running into teeth sooner, in general. I&#39;ve stared down some pretty big cocks over the years, and believe me, it&#39;s something I&#39;m really careful about.

(5) The minute you start to panic and think you won&#39;t be able to cum, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I used to recognize this in myself when I would get head, and I sort of trained myself to let my mind float and relax. Easier said than done, I know, but if you can really let yourself just zone out and enjoy the sensation of it, your body will take over and respond accordingly. A good blow job is about someone giving you pleasure. Just lay back and enjoy it&#33; However long it takes, for that window of time, it really IS all about you.

I have to say it surprised me to see so many guys on here say they can&#39;t cum through oral sex, it is an awesome alternative to the other sex basics. Give it a shot and just ask your partner to be patient, and if that doesn&#39;t work, give me a call.

Just kidding, but really -- give it another try.

--BILL

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Hey Bill,

I agree with most of the things you said.

I can actually suck off my boyfriend by just using MOUTH. No hand at all. It&#39;s more tiring but he said it feels better. lol

I feel I am very good at sucking when I can suck off a cock without using hands. lol

 

[rob_r_lpsg]

I&#39;ve got the same problem and it&#39;s frustrating as all hell. Having to explain to the girl that it&#39;s legitimately "not her". I&#39;ve never gotten off from purely oral. They can usually get me off with a hand job if they&#39;re really into it. Sex is easier, but it still takes hours. Again, it will only happen if they girl is particularly into it.
I&#39;d have to agree with the theory expressed earlier that it&#39;s a mental issue. I&#39;ve never really considered it, but I don&#39;t think I ever enjoy head that much. I love if she has conquered her gag reflex. Yet I simply much prefer having have sex.
I think a good part of my problem has to to with jerking off way too much in my teens. I learned early on to keep putting off orgasm (not really a tantric thing, just knowing how to keep myself from finishing. This has proven to be usually be very useful for sex, but it&#39;s pretty much killed me for head.

 

[jonb]

Originally posted by jibikao@Jul 27 2005, 11:06 AM
When is the last time you hear a guy say NO to a blowjob?

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When the person offering it had a cold sore?

 

[Goose_Eggs]

Got the same thing going on here ........ am 42 and have never cum from a blowjob. I&#39;ve had head from women and men (some men are really good but have had really hot ones from women too), but never cum in their mouth. As guy at start of thread said "just not wired that way" I guess. I always have to help em out with a little fist action, then I can shoot it anywhere they like, but I gotta help. Bill mentioned teeth -- yikes&#33; one of worst blowjobs I ever had was from an overeager guy who chewed me up like a meatgrinder.