I can't get over my own body/penis image

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Moez???, Jul 2, 2010.

  1. Moez???

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    Ever since I was 15, I wanted a huge penis. To the point where I would honestly take a penis that is too big to be comfortable to women than stay my size.

    I don't really have a right to complain either. I'm about 7-7.5 long and 5 around (5.5 around the head). I've never had a complaint that I was too small. I'm pretty sure women are pleased with my actions. I'm very attentive to their needs in bed.

    but whenever I see a porn, or a picture of a big one, I become extremely envious. I don't want to be. I hate that I am. I know it could be worse, i could be smaller. I'm healthy, I have a good life. I have no reason to complain at all.

    But I just can't shake this feeling that I want to be bigger so badly.

    I don't know what I'm asking really. I just feel the need to vent this. talk anonymously to people because I can't really talk about this to people I know.
     
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    I totally understand, believe me.
     
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    Are you black Moez? Only asking because then I could see how there might be more "pressure" on you to be "huge" due to the portrayl of black men as huge. Its a pretty pervasive belief that. Most people think or ar at least curious as to whether black guys are bigger.

    Anyway, remember that the photos that aren't photoshopped are taken from flattering angles. Most cocks in photos are 7-8" long and around 5-6" girth.

    The only way you will "get over" this obsession is to come to the realisation in your own mind that:

    You've got what you've got
    Penis size cannot really be changed...not safely at least
    Unless you walk around naked, no one gives a shit about your penis size
    Penis size does not make you happy, does not make you rich and does not "get the girl" for you

    If you are a confident, funny and desirable man then your penis size is irrelevant.

    The only way I could see it being relevant is if you were repugnant and you wanted a large penis as that would be your only redeeming quality.

    Jonah Falcon springs to mind. He has a large penis yet I wouldn't want to be him.
     
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    I think that's totally normal. Many of us want what we don't have or more of what we have now. I'm okay in the size department, but would trade some of it to be young again and as handsome as "Adequate".

     
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    Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
     
  6. dolfette

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    i've said it dozens of times on this site.

    i don't want bigger than 7.5, because bigger than 7.5 hurts. and not in a cool & kinky way.

    in my opinion 7-7.5 is the perfect size.

    lots of the horse hung guys here have experienced women refusing to fuck them, or have accidentally hurt the women they're with. some ended up in ER. awful.
     
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    It's a hard self esteem issue to deal with. But please try to not waste anymore time on this. I know it's easier said than done, but please remember that self confidence will make your dick bigger in other peoples' eyes... and eventually in your own too.
     
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    No, I am not black. I am Arabic, but I look like I'm straight out of Ireland (light brown hair, light skin, freckles), and was born in the US so I have no accent. But I am pretty tall, 6'2", so it seems smaller on my height too.

    I know all these really wise quotes and advice about this specific topic, but I just can't get my mind over it. I'm 25, I should be well beyond this mentality and mature enough to not care. I'll get over it for some periods of time, and then see a video of some huge guy and it re-ignites my wants.

    dolfette, every woman says about the same thing (outside of this site). I know I shouldn't care. I know I'm a selfish, wanting to be bigger, because that would only sedate my own ego, and possibly ruin future relationships.

    it's like I just can't stop wanting it lol
     
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    To be honest, I think a lot of men, perhaps well over half feel the same way. I'm not packing lightly in the size department, but I occasionally forget and wind up being a little insecure about it. One of the reasons I think its so common for people like yourself to be perhaps to be somewhat uncomfortable about size is your frame of reference.

    Porn. I'd argue that the majority of porn actors, even in the ameturish stuff are larger than average. Men watch a lot of porn and assume that the average, is really the "average" and in reality its skewed higher (55% of one study had an average penis size ranging from 5.5-6.5). The reality is less intimidating than the idea you're creating in your head.

    Beyond that, there are other things we can conflate to penis size in our enjoyably patriarchal society. Phalluses associated with power etc. Its purely psychological, but powerful all the same. I used to be more insecure about my penis, until I realized I was a.) above average and just didn't know it and b.) sex is about more than thrusting and packaging.
     
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    Be happy with what you have. Its bigger then most right?
     
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    I feel the same way. I would love to have a penis that's big, even if it's too big to be used on most women. Just having it and knowing that it's big would be enough for me.
     
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    Well I'm in no way condoning or encouraging this but. If it is eating you away so much to the point of absolute envy to have a bigger penis. Have you thought about getting into penis enhancement through exercisies, pumping etc or even the ultimate step surgery? Like I say I'm not saying go do that. Yet if your evny is getting so bad?
     
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    * blushes* I'll post current photos of me, when I get the nerve.:redface:
     
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    Moez...dolf has a good point....at one point i wanted to be bigger, but then stood back and looked at the stats..and thought i havnt heard any complaints about my size so why should i wish for something that cant happen unless i get surgery (which is lame and completely outta the question).

    And i mean....if ur comparing to porn, they use angles and such to make the actor's dick seem bigger than it is, and besides...youd think with all the dick those girls have had in them, do they ACTUALLY feel anything? (lol in my opinion they are faking more often than not)

    ...but this is just my view on the subject
     
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    Honestly dude, hugeness isn't what the porn industry has made it out to be, and actually, you can end up losing partners over it--if not the fear of it then from jealousy that others are looking
     
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    Very interesting...I am black and I feel more pressure to be bigger/girthier due to the stereotype.I've never measured erect but I'm guessing a little over 7 " maybe 7.5. I feel small compared to others of my ethnic background.
     
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    Go find a guy that has a cock that you wish you had.
    Ask hum to play with it so you can see if it would really make you happy
    having one his size.
     
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    How have you compared yourself to other people in your ethnic background?
     
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    Average size of black men in the US is about the same as that of white men, with the mean ranging between 5 and 6 inches depending on the survey.

    You're above average, "even for your race"

    Quit your self-pitying
     
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    I don't believe in that stereotype of black cock. I think 99% of the men are average regardless the ethnic origin.
     
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