I can't make him cum from foreplay...

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ya don't have be secure, ya just need to be aware of your insecurities.
knowing what's his issue, what's your issue.

this one is your issue.
ya got to figure out how to deal with ya feelings.
yeah... that's what i would've said if i was nice and diplomatic & shit...

instead i'm just a caustic bitch.
love me!
 

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reverse the roles.
say it was a man making a thread about how his gf only came from penetration, not from oral or fingering, and tell me what your response would be. i'm guessing you would tell him that all women are different, we all get off from different things, that it's not a measure of her desire for him and that the pressure will make it harder for her.
it's a huge double standard that our society perpetuates, that men should be like sexbots.

ps. get in touch with your inner cunt! if you want to call me a bitch then just call me a bitch. it's not the end of the world if you do.

pps. i'm right though.

I see your point, not saying that you were wrong. I just never really looked at it this way before. I wasn't calling you a bitch. ..I'm just a sensitive soul lol. I guess I just haven't been in a relationship in a long time, so have been over-analysing things and worrying too much. I'm gonna try and not worry about it now though after the comments from everyone in this thread..I'll just go with the flow and not try to cause drama and issues in the relationship.

ya don't have be secure, ya just need to be aware of your insecurities.
knowing what's his issue, what's your issue.

this one is your issue.
ya got to figure out how to deal with ya feelings.
Thanks. It is definitely an issue for me....I'll try to control it though and not make a big deal out of it as I previously stated. I'll try to start to deal with it like a mature woman lol.
 

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A lot of guys......me included......have a difficult time cumming when "put on the spot". Like having someone watch me masterbate. I so much LOVE handjobs and blowjobs, but difficult to cum. I think once again because the pressure is on to do so.

Many men cum more readily through actual penetration. That way we are thinking about what we are doing, and not so self conscious about someone watching us and what face we may make while cumming. So in the end, do not take it personally at all. Just enjoy what is available and have fun with it.
 

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Just want to tell you that I once had a partner that I could not cum with. No matter how turned on I was - and I found him so sexy, was totally crazy about him - for some reason could I never cum when we were together. Yet, when I was was alone the thought of him could get me off in seconds.
Our genitalia is simple and quite predictable, but once our brains get involved all bets are off.
Try working him up on the phone sometime.
 

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This might sound odd but I can't cum unless I know my partner is getting pleasure also. I can think of maybe twice of me getting head and getting off unless we were 69ing or me fingering her extra.
 
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Definitely do NOT take it personally! My boyfriend and I have been together 3.5 months and I've only successfully made him cum from a handjob once, and it took a while. I've yet to get him to cum from oral. He says that both things feel good, he just doesn't cum from them really. If you're worried about your performance, try asking him what you can do to make it better, but aside from that, don't stress about it.
 

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This doesn't seem as uncommon as I thought it was.

I have only had one partner, out of many, that has made me cum from hand jobs or oral and who I felt comfortable masturbating in front of and it took a long time of knowing her before I could achieve these.

The 'secret' with her seemed to be that she was really, really enjoying it and when I eventually managed it (from a hj, during which she literally begged me to cum) from the sounds she made as it happened it sounded as if she was cumming as well. Her 'praise' of my cocks actions as 'it' happened and the amount produced helped on subsequent occasions.

With others it almost seemed that they were carrying out 'duty actions', which I hated (I don't want anything sexual to be done from 'duty'), or were 'expected' of me and I wont/can't 'perform' to 'order'.