I broke up with my bf of 4 years one year ago last month. I caught him serial cheating - he was away for a weekend with some guy when I caught on. I found all sorts of apparent hook emails at the same time and prompted me to kick him out. Unfortunately, he worked for me and because of his outstanding performance I could not fire him. It would have been disastrous. We continued working together and seeing each other almost daily. I took a month off to go to the US and he followed me claiming he thought it would help us get back to where we started. But while he was there, with me in the US, HE BOUGHT THE GUY HE WAS WITH THINGS THE GUY ASKED FOR! I caught him lying about it. We continued working together despite my knowing I should have ended everything and took whatever hits I had coming to me, work-wise. My small company got picked up by a larger company and I went on as co-manager. Ex came along and was working for me and got me so aggravated and disturbed I quit. He's now got my old job. Good for him. The problem is that (1) I feel like the only way to get away from him is to move back to the US. (2) I feel so dependent on him because while we were together he took care of everything, in personal life and at the office. He's OCD so everything was so totally organized only he knew where things were etc. Today, even thinking about moving, I feel like I'll need him to help me transition to the US - closing accounts, selling my car, renting my condo here, etc. Am I crazy? I feel like I'm am. I've given so much power over to him that now I don't know how to get it back - to take control again. I'm going to see a shrink tomorrow and I hope and pray that she can help me. Your thoughts are appreciated too.