I dont know where to post this... serious tho.

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by cjj2k, Jan 3, 2011.

  1. cjj2k

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    I dont know where to post this... serious tho.

    I need help.. I cant afford actual psycological help. I work at fucking Mcdonalds, wtf? ok, lol....

    I am 28 years old... Im what most would consider an attractive man. I.E... Ive been told I have movie star looks.

    Start the pity-party .. I know... but Its a serious problem!!!

    But I consider myself bi.... agree or disagree... whatever, just hear me out. I like men, and women.... and I have experimented with both. I have went all the way with dudes 3 times.... both taking and giving. I have only penatrated a woman once.... and I didnt finish. She stopped me because she said she had never had a man treat her so "ladylike".....So I still kinda consider myself a virgin.

    Thoughts? diss me? kill me? IDK ... I have almost killed myself over this shit. I cant get it up if I dont feel completely attracted to them.. physically AND emotionally... I guess that makes me a woman in that sense, but I still have a dick!!! lol.... and , no I would never consider transgender... I am a man. lol A proud, but confused, and somewhat disturbed (apparently) man.

    Help!!!!
     
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    sent u a private message.
     
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    I don't really get the problem?

    You're a man, who thought you were Bi-sexual, but has of late felt more attracted to men, and less to women, therefore you feel like you're a woman with a dick, but have no thoughts of transgender? Hmm.. okey.

    I'd just say you're either discovering your true self - meaning you're perhaps leaning towards more gay than bi. The feeling you have about being a woman, is something you yourself have to figure out, but just because you're attracted to men doesn't make you a woman. Or, maybe you're just right now more attracted to men, but you're still bi and this is just a period in your life with more feelings directed towards men.

    To feel like you're a woman just because you're attracted to men - doesn't have any support. Your sexuality doesn't reflect on what gender you are. But, if those feelings grow, it might mean you're curious or want to be a woman, a transgender - but it doesn't have anything to do with who you're attracted to. There's plenty of men who're transgender but still like women, for example.

    Maybe I'm just rambling...
     
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    i have to see what you look like to see if you are what you say u are
     
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    i have to see what you look like
     
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    No hardly as such... I failed to explain myself. I like women, just I never am able to get a hardon... but then I turned to men... still cant.... I feel no emotion, I dont wanna have emotion-less sex.... make sense? Im just saying Idk wtf is going on.... cuz I can jack it fine... but with anyone ... I cant get it up.

    sorry Im fucking drunk... id have to be to admit this!!

    Im a failure.
     
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    I would link u to my facebook, but my mother is on my friends list... can u see my pics even tho Im not gold?
     
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    I will upload some...
     
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    K, posted to my gallery... I may not be brad pitt, but I think Im aight. lol
     
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    No replies guys? come on... Im not horrid am I?? jeeze ... Im not a compliment whore, but ONE nice thing would be ok. Jeeze. U all do alot for self confidence for someone that cant get it up. pffft, *goes to get drunkerrr*
     
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    Sounds like anxiety to me.

    Get yourself some Cialis... at your age, It will make you dick work pretty well no matter what your emotional state.

    Once you get over the initial anxiety and have 'performed' satisfactorily... you may find this problem will disappear.
    You can then give up the cialis and have a more natural reaction.

    Not sure what you mean when she said you treated her 'ladylike" do you mean she thought you treated her like too much of a lady? or that You acted too much like a lady?
    Either way... the solution is to become a bit more aggressive, sexually.

    Let yourself go a little crazy with lust...
     
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    Can't see your pics but this just sounds like anxiety as Phil said. From your account you have only had sex 4 times. I remembered my a time where I didnt have sex for a long while where I got it up...all was well but then I go to push it in and it goes soft. This happened to me three times which made me even question myself.

    Then my girlfriend decided to help me and she found out I was sensitive on my neck and while she was sucking on it she pushed me inside her. Once I was inside there was no need for anything more because the motion alone would cause the erection to stay.
     
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    the pic links dont work

    Im still really unsure of what the problem is..??
     
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    Cant get it up with anyone.... unless Im alone. Then it works fine.


    So I agree, its confidence... but any booster out there?
     
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    Its showing they r are uploaded. Id upload to another site ... but I dont want any hassle... any ideas?
     
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    Ok... umm, try again? lol
     
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    Although it could be anxiety, as many people have pointed it, it could be similar to a problem I myself have. (It's actually odd that I found this discussion today, because I literally just got finished talking about it with a friend.)

    If you are (or are perhaps becoming) like me, then one night stands do not appeal to you because it is impossible to dissociate emotionality and physicality in sex. You need to be attracted to both personality and physical attributes in order to be aroused by them more often than not. There's nothing wrong with this philosophy (which I've been told is called "pansexuality") it just means that it makes brief sexual encounters very difficult, if not impossible.
     
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    Wow, thats the closest to a real explanation that Ive heard, seriously, thanks.
     
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    If you can't get hard with a hot girl then that should be pretty self-explanatory. Either you are attempting to fuck girls that you don't find attractive or you're not into girls. I can definitely relate... I have absolutely no interest in ugly girls. As horny as I can get, I can't get wood for a girl that I don't find to be hot.

    Based on the photos you have posted, you're nice looking but by no means movie-star quality. I would suggest a shorter haircut. You'll do better and feel better. You need to affect change in your life.. make the positive changes happen.
     
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    Like I said, I just got finished talking about this in excruciating detail with a friend, so it was no problem at all. I'm glad I could be of help.
     
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