I dont know where to post this... serious tho.

[cjj2k]

If you can't get hard with a hot girl then that should be pretty self-explanatory. Either you are attempting to fuck girls that you don't find attractive or you're not into girls. I can definitely relate... I have absolutely no interest in ugly girls. As horny as I can get, I can't get wood for a girl that I don't find to be hot.

Based on the photos you have posted, you're nice looking but by no means movie-star quality. I would suggest a shorter haircut. You'll do better and feel better. You need to affect change in your life.. make the positive changes happen.

I did the "movie star" thing lightly dude... and btw Ive never worn make-up... ever. lol Anyways, It was a serious question, Im very attracted to my ex gf..... as of new years.... and also my male companions. ... two years now.. but only once has EVER, anyone inspired a hardon..... seriously. Out of 28 years. Sad I know.

 

[cjj2k]

Like I said, I just got finished talking about this in excruciating detail with a friend, so it was no problem at all. I'm glad I could be of help.

And I thank you. Enlightening, if nonetheless.

 

[chrisj428]

I know this is going to sound cliche, but have you talked to your doctor about this? I mean, if you've only ever experienced an erection once, then perhaps there is a physiological issue vs a psychological one. And, for what it's worth, alcohol + anxiety = no erection.

I find it hard to believe you're a failure. Try not to be too hard on yourself, man. You are attractive -- don't sell yourself short: relax and enjoy the ride.

 

[maxcok]

Just taking a stab here, but it sounds like to me like you have problems with general anxiety and depression that transcend your sexual performance issues. On top of which, if you need to be drunk to talk about it, even on an anonymous internet board, you have a substance abuse problem. It's peculiar too that you keep referring to a gender dysmorphia issue, which may or may not be tied to your confusion over sexual orientation.

You really need the help of a professional to help you get to the roots and sort this all out. I would suggest looking into the possibility of low cost or no cost psychological services that may be available through programs in your area. Also, if you are in or near a major city you might find some support through LGBT services.

You'll need to do some research to find what's out there for you, preferably when you're sober. Good luck.

 

[cjj2k]

Well considering Im broke, and had to move back in with my mother, and she is a penecostle preacher.... aaaand I cant get kicked out, this is my last option..... Im facing suicide. seriously. I cant say Im gay tho, cuz I really dont feel I am....???!! Ive done told her Im gay once.... but I really dont feel that I am. Damnit!!!

 

[D_Harry_Crax]

Cant get it up with anyone.... unless Im alone. Then it works fine.
So I agree, its confidence... but any booster out there?

Stop jerking off in the same position, with the same routine, and the same type of porn all the time!!!

 

[maxcok]

Well considering Im broke, and had to move back in with my mother, and she is a penecostle preacher.... aaaand I cant get kicked out, this is my last option..... Im facing suicide. seriously. I cant say Im gay tho, cuz I really dont feel I am....???!! Ive done told her Im gay once.... but I really dont feel that I am. Damnit!!!

You are not going to find the help or the resolution you seek on this board. You need professional help, especially if you're considering suicide. You need to call your local suicide prevention hotline and talk to someone who may be able to refer you for further counseling. Now.

BTW, how do you afford booze if you're broke? I assume it didn't come from your Pentacostal minister mother. When you get around to it, you might also look into getting support from some gay accepting organizations associated with the Pentacostal movement.

Here are some references to get you started: Homosexuality and the United Pentecostal Church International

You need to take the initiative here. No excuses. Just do it.

 

[cjj2k]

You are not going to find the help or the resolution you seek on this board. You need professional help, especially if you're considering suicide. You need to call your local suicide prevention hotline and talk to someone who may be able to refer you for further counseling. Now.

BTW, how do you afford booze if you're broke? I assume it didn't come from your Pentacostal minister mother. When you get around to it, you might also look into getting support from some gay accepting organizations associated with the Pentacostal movement.

Here are some references to get you started: Homosexuality and the United Pentecostal Church International

You need to take the initiative here. No excuses. Just do it.

Thanks, but wayyyy past that. srsly. My mother wants to cast out demons on people like me.... do you really think I have a shot at staying here if I come out?.... and only being seriously interested in one guy??!!! wow. Suicide if i ever seen it.

 

[maxcok]

Thanks, but wayyyy past that. srsly. My mother wants to cast out demons on people like me.... do you really think I have a shot at staying here if I come out?.... and only being seriously interested in one guy??!!! wow. Suicide if i ever seen it.

No one suggested you come out to your mother. If you really are having suiidal thoughts, neither I nor anyone else on this board can help you. If you're just saying it for dramatic effect and to gain sympathy, it's nothing to screw around with. Read my two prior posts again. Either take responsibility for yourself and follow my advice, or not. I've said all I have to say. I'm not going to drag this on. Good luck.

 

[B_Nicodemous]

Dude you should listen to Maxcok. If for nothing else then for calling a suicide hotline. As someone who has battled with axiety and depression, and who came very close to successfully committing suicide (on three ocassions), I have to concur that a hotline is a good place to start. It`s free, confidential and, not to sound all after school special, it could just save your life if you are that on the edge. I have to go but will write more later, focusing on the originl issue you stated. PM me if you wish to talk without the cynasure of the entire LPSG board (well those reading this anyway) In the mean time take care of yourself.

 

[Supersized]

If you get hard when alone then your impotence is not physical . It must be psychological. See a therapist.

 

[Mr. Sensitive]

Here are some suggestions. Hope some of them are realistic, possible, helpful.

1. Move out of your mother's house as soon as you can. Being around her isn't going to help with this.

2. Cultivate friendships with people you trust and feel really relaxed and comfortable around.

3. Maybe you have or can find a guy friend who you could jerk off with? Or a woman you like who was cool with taking it super slow, like just cuddling and kissing, until you both felt ready for more?

4. Avoid, avoid situations that feel like a performance and especially casual sexual contacts. This isn't what you need now.

5. My sense is that when you find someone you're really comfortable with, you'll be fine.

6. You have nothing to prove. Just try to find what makes you happy.

Good luck

 

[killerb]

Sheesh: first, give yourself a break.

you're not a failure - you just sound like a man who only wants to have sex with ppl if there's an emotional attachment there...that's actually a very good quality to have...nothing wrong with it at all...

you also need to realize that it's ok to be attracted to men & women...

you're putting all of that anxiety and pressure on yourself...

also, take the advice that has been given to you above - get out of your mother's house as soon as you can. I don't care if you have to take 3 jobs to support yourself, but it is a must...that way, you can live your life as you please without worrying about being tossed on the street.

finally, suicide is NOT an option...there is no problem (real or imagined) that is worth your life.

 

[EmJay]

Here are some suggestions. Hope some of them are realistic, possible, helpful.

1. Move out of your mother's house as soon as you can. Being around her isn't going to help with this.

2. Cultivate friendships with people you trust and feel really relaxed and comfortable around.

3. Maybe you have or can find a guy friend who you could jerk off with? Or a woman you like who was cool with taking it super slow, like just cuddling and kissing, until you both felt ready for more?

4. Avoid, avoid situations that feel like a performance and especially casual sexual contacts. This isn't what you need now.

5. My sense is that when you find someone you're really comfortable with, you'll be fine.

6. You have nothing to prove. Just try to find what makes you happy.

Good luck

Very good advice!:smile:

 

[helgaleena]

Definitely performance anxiety. I would suggest making dates to simply cuddle, no expectation of orgasm etc. and also get the therapist too.

 

[D_Woody Wilson]

Take some time and analyze what you're really into.. Stop worrying about the male/female stuff.. look for someone who you love, really love.. worry about the details then..

 

[local52]

Whatever your problems are, they're not worth dying over. You only die once, you'll won't get a second chance to you change your mind.
You must have family and friends, think about the heart ache you'll put them through. They'll blame them selves for years and years, no matter what your last words are, they'll blame them selves for not stopping you..........
If you're gay, who cares? People that love you don't care if you're gay, straight or bi, they love you for you, not who you have sex with.