I dont want to have kids

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Sometimes members of my family question me because of my decision of not having kids. Like I said in other thread my parents were a disaster and I dont want history to repeat itself. What is the problem of not having kids ? What do you guys think ?

No, I totally agree and that is the same reason why I'm not having children.
 

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I also don't want to have kids, although I might change my mind later. No reason, I just don't like them.

People have evolved to produce as many offspring as possible, since historically there has never been a problem with overpopulation. Quite the opposite, it is only recently in the developed world that the infant mortality rate has been low enough that almost all children survive to adulthood. This is going to cause problems. In 1900 there were 1.5 billion. In 1960 there were 3 billion. Now there are 6 billion and increasing more than ever before. There will, sadly, come a point when people are going to starve because there are too many of us.
But that's being a bit negative, it's no reason not to breed. I don't really have a point to my argument, just wanted to share some thoughts.
 

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I also don't want to have kids, although I might change my mind later. No reason, I just don't like them.

People have evolved to produce as many offspring as possible, since historically there has never been a problem with overpopulation. Quite the opposite, it is only recently in the developed world that the infant mortality rate has been low enough that almost all children survive to adulthood. This is going to cause problems. In 1900 there were 1.5 billion. In 1960 there were 3 billion. Now there are 6 billion and increasing more than ever before. There will, sadly, come a point when people are going to starve because there are too many of us.
But that's being a bit negative, it's no reason not to breed. I don't really have a point to my argument, just wanted to share some thoughts.

I agree with the overpopulation argument. The world population is increasing dangerously fast.
 

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It's perfectly acceptable to not want kids, and I don't want them for some of the same reasons the OP does. My family is truly messed up in some regards. I'm not talking about average suburban white-family stuff, I mean really screwy. I hate introducing anyone to my family. There's a lot of resentment and awkward things under wraps. I'm also fully aware that I completely lack the kind of giving, patient personality needed. I'm so big on my own space and time that I just can't imagine sacrificing it. If I don't have my own four walls every day I go nuts. It's possible that things'll be different in ten years time, I know people change with the years, but I really doubt it for some reason.
 

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It's perfectly acceptable to not want kids, and I don't want them for some of the same reasons the OP does. My family is truly messed up in some regards. I'm not talking about average suburban white-family stuff, I mean really screwy. I hate introducing anyone to my family. There's a lot of resentment and awkward things under wraps. I'm also fully aware that I completely lack the kind of giving, patient personality needed. I'm so big on my own space and time that I just can't imagine sacrificing it. If I don't have my own four walls every day I go nuts. It's possible that things'll be different in ten years time, I know people change with the years, but I really doubt it for some reason.
I will not give more details about my life but what you posted is very similar in many aspects to my family.
 
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My mom recently asked if I wanted kids, and I told her that this branch of the family tree is better cut off. She and dad had a terrible divorce, I am way too selfish to raise kids, and I'd rather just spend all my money on myself instead of leaving it in an inheritance. Thats my plan, and I'm sticking to it.
 

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I've never wanted kids either. I don't really have an "explanation" except that I am not mentally/emotionally able to handle it. I can't even really adequately take care of my cat! :eek: I also have no maternal instinct at all - never have had. I had my tubes tied in 1996 and it was the best thing I ever did. I no longer feel that I am a prisoner of my anatomy.

Wow, I love your honesty and courage. Thanks for saying this. I know women who feel the same way, and they feel guilty about it. I'm glad that you know who you are, and have made the right decision for you. Thanks for this post.
 

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Parent ability isnt generic but is a fact that many adults repeat the same or similar mistakes of their parents to their kids without being aware of it.

This can definitely be true. I swore I'd be different, and in many ways, I was. But I have to laugh when I see that I did many things exactly -- and I mean EXACTLY -- the same. It is so WEIRD!

But fortunately, I did succeed in NOT doing the specific things that "scarred" me the most.

So yes, one CAN consciously choose not to repeat wrongs. But one cannot escape repeating SOME things, good or bad. :rolleyes:
 

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More children would like to be conceived and born into the world, regardless.

Why do you think you can't have children? You don't have to repeat the mistakes of your parents. You can learn from them, right?

Didn't you result from your parents, and that's a "good" thing, right?

The main real purpose of sex, is procreation. Why not let babies happen when they happen, and avoid the magic potions/poison to the body directly, of nasty, experimental, anti-life, anti-nature, contraceptives.

Tell us, for what reasons might you actually like to have children? Can we maybe find some encouragement to get over these fears that can in time pass, especially after children come? If you truly didn't want any children at all, why ask us for advice?

Ridiculous! This world is already crowded. I do not like like children, and I shall not have any. I love my animals, and this is already a responsabilit!:
 

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That's interesting. I've wondered about the "sins of the father" etc.

We all make weird noises in my family/talk with the same inflections. eg baybeeee high pitched (when talking to the dog :rolleyes:). I spose its not too bad.

Anyway I want many kids, mainly lads although I guess I could live with having one or two girls...
 

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It's perfectly acceptable to not want kids, and I don't want them for some of the same reasons the OP does. My family is truly messed up in some regards. I'm not talking about average suburban white-family stuff, I mean really screwy. I hate introducing anyone to my family. There's a lot of resentment and awkward things under wraps. I'm also fully aware that I completely lack the kind of giving, patient personality needed. I'm so big on my own space and time that I just can't imagine sacrificing it. If I don't have my own four walls every day I go nuts. It's possible that things'll be different in ten years time, I know people change with the years, but I really doubt it for some reason.
You are right and so wel-hung! Brain and huge cock, this is a good mixture for happiness! Live your life and do not care about other people's oprinions
 

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I'm fast coming to the conclusion that folks should have to pass some tests and obtain a licence to be able to have kids. Far too many have them for the wrong reasons. I applaud your decision not to have them. Who cares about your reasons. They are important to you and that is all that matters.