I Feel Sperm Is Dirty And Need Help

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Hi, I have been a viewer of this site for years but have finally created an account because I really need some help. Its complicated, I have OCD, it is caused by a the feeling that sperm is dirty. Its very difficult, being a young man I get horny a lot but because the OCD makes it difficult I only masturbate once a week and then have a long shower afterwards to make sure I am definitely clean. The trouble is I can get really horny in the week and don't want any wet dreams. I have learnt to cope with my OCD but I want to do other things now. I would like to join a gym because I need to lose some weight but I am worried that the exercise and the gym showers might make me even hornier making it more likely of having a wet dream. I am a virgin because of this and I really want to have sex and a relationship. I have tried just all therapy types but nothing works, im desperate for a change. Its so so controlling, I need help. Any advice or support anyone can offer would be extremely gratefully received. I am happy to answer any questions about this.
 
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Granted clean up can be messy after shooting off, especially if you cum on yourself and you're a heavy shooter.

Have you considered jacking off while taking a shower? It would help with the clean up. No mess on your skin.

I know I don't really like the clean up process , but I like stroking my dick.
Once you can get your mind wrapped around the fact that cum when it shoots out is clean instead of dirty that might help. Sure the after math is messy if you get it on you. The idea is to try and not get it on you.
 
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Cum or sperm is the nectar of life. It is how we are designed. There is nothing dirty about it. Looking at it from a different perspective it is how life is created. I believe the pleasure derived from cumming/orgasming is there so we as humans want to do it as often as possible. Kinda like Pavlogs dog. The desire to repeat something very pleasurable. Now it's more complicated than mentally, medically and spirituality but none the less a pleasurable act made to be repeated as often as possible. Definitely not dirty.
 
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I agree with both of the above posts.

Especially, just jerk off while in the shower. In my younger days, I often jerked two or three times daily, but for sure one of those was always in the shower - probably for 15 years or more, I did not shower without jerking off while doing so. Not out of any fears, but because I'd always get super horny in the shower.
 
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Wear a condom when you jerk off. E-Z clean up...Though just like when you enjoy sex with someone else wearing a condom, a warm damp cloth will clean up your cock shaft and head quickly.
 

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How much semen do you produce?
Where does your semen go when you masturbate? What does it fall/shoot/land on, what kind of surface?
Do you not like to get it on your hand or other parts of your body?

Yeah I usually masturbate into the toilet now, before I developed my ocd I was fine and used to mastubate everywhere and anywhere lol
 
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Thank you everyone for your replies, I do know that sperm is not dirty but I just cant get my head to realise that mentally, thats the trouble and its so annoying. Im trying so hard because i want a normal life back, I want relationships and to be able to do things i used to. I honestly and very grateful for everyones replies.
 

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Yeah I usually masturbate into the toilet now, before I developed my ocd I was fine and used to mastubate everywhere and anywhere lol

What about masturbating into a penis sleeve, like a Japanese onahole that you can only use once and then throw away? It is a bit expensive, but it would prevent you from even seeing your semen, you just cum into the sleeve. And then you only have to wash the semen off your penis, but if that is too much for you to handle then maybe a sleeve isn't the best way to go. Or a Fleshlight, its reusable if you can handle washing semen off your penis, then you just flush the sleeve out (open on both ends) and the semen goes down the drain and you don't even have to look at it. However, these possible solutions don't get rid of your ocd over your own semen.

I wish you all the luck! Maybe with a sexual partner who has absolutely no problem with your semen, and perhaps even loves it and wants it badly, you can find comfort in your own body's functions and learn to appreciate your semen through the love and joy someone else has for it! Just thinking out loud here, I just hope you can find a way around this and live your life the way you hope to, it sounds like you want to for sure :)
 
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