I fell in love with my straight friend (he has a girlfriend).

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Hi, everyone. I will try to be brief and would like to know your opinion.

I have a best friend and I fell in love with him. Apparently he is a straight guy and has a girlfriend. He claims to have never had any intimate relationship with people of the same gender.
We always get naked in the gym. Whenever I can, I create situations where our skin touches.

I would define our relationship as a bromance. We had a strong rapport. Nothing sexual. However, situations have arisen that leave me in doubt.

I live alone and he came to meet me at my house. And slept in my bed... Him wearing pajamas without underwear. And I'm in underwear.

It was 3 nights. The first night: he put his legs on top of mine, hands, arms, our bodies met...

on the second night: he lay on his stomach and it was visible to see 40% of his butt (his pajamas were falling off)...

on the third night: he turned his ass towards me... I couldn't resist and started rubbing my penis (he was apparently sleeping)... I put my hand on his ass, put my legs on top of theirs... I started to masturbate... he was "sleeping", with his hands on his penis... I tried to put my hand on his penis and move a little further... he ignored it and turned to the side.

After all those nights he never said anything about coming to my bed. he just talks about his girlfriend... he doesn't like my comments about his ass and dick... but I don't know, we have a lot of intimacy, I don't know if he would be bi or something... if he has something repressed... The fact is I'm fucked.
 

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It sounds like you're in a complicated situation with your best friend. It's essential to respect boundaries and communicate openly. Maybe have an honest conversation about your feelings and his intentions. Good luck!

He knows I love him... I don't care anymore.
 

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Hi, everyone. I will try to be brief and would like to know your opinion.

I have a best friend and I fell in love with him. Apparently he is a straight guy and has a girlfriend. He claims to have never had any intimate relationship with people of the same gender.
We always get naked in the gym. Whenever I can, I create situations where our skin touches.

I would define our relationship as a bromance. We had a strong rapport. Nothing sexual. However, situations have arisen that leave me in doubt.

I live alone and he came to meet me at my house. And slept in my bed... Him wearing pajamas without underwear. And I'm in underwear.

It was 3 nights. The first night: he put his legs on top of mine, hands, arms, our bodies met...

on the second night: he lay on his stomach and it was visible to see 40% of his butt (his pajamas were falling off)...

on the third night: he turned his ass towards me... I couldn't resist and started rubbing my penis (he was apparently sleeping)... I put my hand on his ass, put my legs on top of theirs... I started to masturbate... he was "sleeping", with his hands on his penis... I tried to put my hand on his penis and move a little further... he ignored it and turned to the side.

After all those nights he never said anything about coming to my bed. he just talks about his girlfriend... he doesn't like my comments about his ass and dick... but I don't know, we have a lot of intimacy, I don't know if he would be bi or something... if he has something repressed... The fact is I'm fucked.
Coming to the reality of your last statement is good. Embrace it. The fact pattern you related indicates he does not want you. Do not make your life needlessly complicated. Either accept him as he is and continue a friendship or decide you cannot have such a distraction in your life and ditch him. Complicating your life would be trying to make him something he is not and all the while wondering why.
 

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Hi, everyone. I will try to be brief and would like to know your opinion.

I have a best friend and I fell in love with him. Apparently he is a straight guy and has a girlfriend. He claims to have never had any intimate relationship with people of the same gender.
We always get naked in the gym. Whenever I can, I create situations where our skin touches.

I would define our relationship as a bromance. We had a strong rapport. Nothing sexual. However, situations have arisen that leave me in doubt.

I live alone and he came to meet me at my house. And slept in my bed... Him wearing pajamas without underwear. And I'm in underwear.

It was 3 nights. The first night: he put his legs on top of mine, hands, arms, our bodies met...

on the second night: he lay on his stomach and it was visible to see 40% of his butt (his pajamas were falling off)...

on the third night: he turned his ass towards me... I couldn't resist and started rubbing my penis (he was apparently sleeping)... I put my hand on his ass, put my legs on top of theirs... I started to masturbate... he was "sleeping", with his hands on his penis... I tried to put my hand on his penis and move a little further... he ignored it and turned to the side.

After all those nights he never said anything about coming to my bed. he just talks about his girlfriend... he doesn't like my comments about his ass and dick... but I don't know, we have a lot of intimacy, I don't know if he would be bi or something... if he has something repressed... The fact is I'm fucked.
Touch can be powerful, and maybe the physical comfort of someone nearby is all he's looking for. Don't make it more than it is when he's made it clear he isn't interested. Enjoy it for what it is and leave it at that. Taking it beyond this will most likely ruin your friendship. If he's questioning himself, then give him space and time to do so.
 

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Touch can be powerful, and maybe the physical comfort of someone nearby is all he's looking for. Don't make it more than it is when he's made it clear he isn't interested. Enjoy it for what it is and leave it at that. Taking it beyond this will most likely ruin your friendship. If he's questioning himself, then give him space and time to do so.
He posted: dont touch me lol
 

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Hi, everyone. I will try to be brief and would like to know your opinion.

I have a best friend and I fell in love with him. Apparently he is a straight guy and has a girlfriend. He claims to have never had any intimate relationship with people of the same gender.
We always get naked in the gym. Whenever I can, I create situations where our skin touches.

I would define our relationship as a bromance. We had a strong rapport. Nothing sexual. However, situations have arisen that leave me in doubt.

I live alone and he came to meet me at my house. And slept in my bed... Him wearing pajamas without underwear. And I'm in underwear.

It was 3 nights. The first night: he put his legs on top of mine, hands, arms, our bodies met...

on the second night: he lay on his stomach and it was visible to see 40% of his butt (his pajamas were falling off)...

on the third night: he turned his ass towards me... I couldn't resist and started rubbing my penis (he was apparently sleeping)... I put my hand on his ass, put my legs on top of theirs... I started to masturbate... he was "sleeping", with his hands on his penis... I tried to put my hand on his penis and move a little further... he ignored it and turned to the side.

After all those nights he never said anything about coming to my bed. he just talks about his girlfriend... he doesn't like my comments about his ass and dick... but I don't know, we have a lot of intimacy, I don't know if he would be bi or something... if he has something repressed... The fact is I'm fucked.
This is two things: Him being, perhaps, flirty and you being inappropriate with your behavior towards it.

Okay, honey…Great, your gay and like your best friend who is dating a girl. I’m glad for ya, man. Not a lot of gay guys can say theirs friends are straight and accept them for who they are. That’s a nice gift…don’t fuck it up with lust or cock vision. It doesn’t work like that.

FRIEND. Does he know your into him? Maybe and maybe he might be curious, but the fact he’s dating should have set a boundary up right there for you. he also told you he isn’t interested. That isn’t confusing. With the sleeping arrangement, it’s nice he stayed over. You probably had fun hanging out that day and before going to bed as well. Awesome. That doesn’t give you the right to behave like you did. That was selfish, and honestly, makes you look bad. Really bad judgement, man. Your life isn’t a cheesy porn film.

To be honest, this is exactly like the flirty office girl who has a husband and wears very short skirts to work and has a lot of cleavage. You like her, everybody adores her…This doesn’t give you or anyone else the right to slap her bottom or harass her, especially when she is sleeping. That’s called non-consensual contact and, with the wrong person, could be disastrous For you. As a person—like someone else here who mentioned it—I’ve had this happen to me several times. It grossed me out and showed me that I couldn’t trust this person ever again. It was hurtful and not fun for me.

My take on this: Love him as a FRIEND. In the future, you’ll be thankful to the guy who has been your friend when you truly need a friend, and not someone you’ll feel guilty about later on in life because you did not respect him or the friendship you worked together to develop. Don’t loose his trust and don’t loose your dignity. And also, you didn’t “fall in love with him”, you fell in lust for him and he didn’t respond To it. Leave it alone.

I say this with absolute love and kindness.

kisses on your pink parts ❤️
JEFF
 

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I've been there before, I fell madly in love with a straight friend of mine too, except all the flirting and touching came from him. He'd flirt relentlessly, and then claim to be joking after. Of course his favorite phrase after feeling me up or holding me was "I'm not gay.. I have a girlfriend"

It was to the point where his girlfriend finally broke down and told him that she felt like she was his beard and that the real relationship was between he and I.

I got up the courage to tell him that I loved him, but definitely didn't say that it was a romantic love because I wanted him to make the move, since he was the one with the girlfriend. Ultimately, I ended up having to end the friendship for another unrelated reason, but I still love him to this day.

Hopefully you make it out easier than I did because its been an embarrassingly long amount of time since I ended it and I still haven't lost the feelings for him.
 

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I had the same experience where I fell for a straight friend. He was actually my roommate for a few years as well. He had a gf and she was pretty cool and all but damn, I couldn’t stop thinking about him sexually and romantically. It didn’t help that over the years, he did things that made me question how ‘straight’ he was. Like when he ‘thanked’ me for his birthday present by walking up to me and gently holding my nuts through my pants. And when he told me that he had a dream that I was fucking him in the ass. He had to know that I was at least a little attracted to him. I wanted to try something so badly but he always had a gf and also I didn’t wanna ruin the friendship.
 

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Have the same thing with a friend.


I was at your place (and still am a little bit), recently took the party to leave it in his hands.
I made enough steps toward him, he knows I'm ready, so I'll wait, give him the time and space he needs, and in the meantime enjoy the proofs of affection and "parasexuals" gestures we have together.
 

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I had a friend like this at university. We were both 19, and one night when we went out as we often did to grab takeout and eat it overlooking the San Diego downtown lights reflecting in the harbor with the moon overhead, he pulled his leg out from the floorwell and placed it around the center lower dash over my leg, which took a lot of maneuvering. I so wanted to just lean over and start blowing him, but resisted.

Now some 39 years later, after he advised me his wife had given him a panicked look, collapsed into his arms and died, we saw each other after many, many years. He held me, I held him, and we both wept. I'm so happy I did not betray his trust and go for the moment so many years ago. The result of my constraint was an unhindered friendship with his wife to be at the university, and now a deep asexual love between us which has no baggage. It's a beautiful thing not to go for the cheap thrill and achieve a lifetime loving, pure friendship.
 

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I believe than it is important to talk about it.
Tell him than it is ok, maybe he had begin to have doubts about his sexuality,..it is ok and nothing to be ashamed.
He is your best friend and you are no going to judge him nor use his doubts to trying have anything with him: you respect him and he can talk with you freely and without issues.

Of course be his friend and simply stay there.

Good luck!
 

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I had a similar experience with the difference that he was sleeping with me almost every day and when we went to bed, we slept hugging each other like a real couple. I fell in love with him but there was a girl that he occasionally slept with. He knew about my feelings, he told me he was straight but how come you can sleep every day with a guy, hugging him, telling him you love him and spending more time with him than with girls? Long story short, he lied to me many times and I got the strength to take him out of my life completely, no contact at all. He asked some friends we have in common about me but I told her not to give any information about me. I ran away because it was hurting me so much to the point that I couldn’t sleep when he wasn’t with me, I couldn’t do normal stuff with people because all I had in my head was him. One day when we were having dinner I told him if he lies one more time to me, I will be gone, he did and I left.
 

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I had a similar experience with the difference that he was sleeping with me almost every day and when we went to bed, we slept hugging each other like a real couple. I fell in love with him but there was a girl that he occasionally slept with. He knew about my feelings, he told me he was straight but how come you can sleep every day with a guy, hugging him, telling him you love him and spending more time with him than with girls? Long story short, he lied to me many times and I got the strength to take him out of my life completely, no contact at all. He asked some friends we have in common about me but I told her not to give any information about me. I ran away because it was hurting me so much to the point that I couldn’t sleep when he wasn’t with me, I couldn’t do normal stuff with people because all I had in my head was him. One day when we were having dinner I told him if he lies one more time to me, I will be gone, he did and I left.
I am sorry about it but you did the correct thing.
If he was no ready to have a relationship with a person of the same gender, but he had (it doesn't care it had no name), she should have been clear with you about his feelings, his fears..
None deserve being suffering for others.
 

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Damn bro, I kinda had a similar experience, I’d say wait for him to make a move, just try to act normal and don’t expect anything to happen, it’s less frustrating like that. The experience will be hotter if he goes out of his way to get ur attention
 
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