Dave, I hope and pray that everything turns out as you wish it to...and that you will have and be a part of a more extended
family now. You did the right thing and it seems that he is open
to the fact since he did not dismiss you immediately.
You mentioned that he has written a letter to the editor but
nothing else. Was he also inquiring about a relative in that
letter? Just wondering....
In 2008, I discovered that I had grown son that I never knew
about. For two years in the early 1980's, I had a fulltime affair
with his mother, an international flight attendant, before her
airline transferred her from NYC to California. I have to be
honest and say that neither of us were "in love" with each other,
although we were extremely close and very fond of each other,
when she left for California, the affair ended. Our relationship
was, from the very begining, purely a sexual thing.
It seems that after arriving in California, she quickly discovered
herself pregnant. She chose to have the child and to raise him
as a single mother, but since we had not been in love with each
other, she never informed me of his birth. As he grow older he
would ask her who his father was, but she kept saying..."one day
when the time is right, I will tell you." He finally got tired of
asking her and forgot about it.
In March of 2008, his mother died, and just before she died told
him that I was his father. He was a Lt. in the US Marine Corp and
soon after she died he received orders to go to Iraq. Earlier he
had Googled me on the Internet and found where I lived and my
phone number. He made arangements to transit through NYC on
the way overseas and after his arrival into NYC, he called me and
said he was my friend's son and could we meet for a beer, that
he had something to tell me about his mother. I asked him to my
place instead. To make a long story short, we met for about an
hour before he left. He had spent 4 days in a NYC hotel trying
to get the nerve up to call me, only calling me at the last
minute. I had no idea what he was going to tell me.
When I opened the front door, it was like looking at a picture of
myself at his age and I immediately knew what he was going to
tell me. We are working out our problems and the strangeness
between us and trying to make up for 28 lost years. I am over
joyed to learn I have another son...but sad that his mother did
not let us have the chance to know each other earlier. His mother told him she did not tell me for I would have insisted that
we get married and she didn't want to force a marriage upon me.
Yes, I would have married her if I had known.
He has no living relatives through his mother, so now he has a
father who loves him, and a half-brother whom he has yet to
meet....plus my extended family.
I hope you have a good experience and many, many years of
happiness with your new family and relatives.
Good Luck!
Keep us posted...we care...
