I don't hate my body...... but I'm still not happy with it.
I used to be upset that I wasn't that tall.... I used to be upset that I was hairy...... But think I'm past that now..... all the compliments I got from gay men on this site helped..... but pussy help the most (no offense, I really appreciate it)
Now I just wanna lose weight to hide the "slight" gynecomastia I have.
See, I've never really been able to translate the things other people say about my body into the language I use about myself. I always presume that even if there's a kernel of truth to the compliments others give me that they're also just being nice and trying to make me feel good. Some degree of polite or well-meaning exaggeration.
I hate mine too.
Want to swap? You can deal with the "Look at food and gain 20 lbs", and I'll enjoy your slim body and monstrous cock.
Some people cant gain weight, and there are those of us that can't loose it no matter what we try.
Genetics at play for the most part - not much we can do.
I look at food and gain 20lbs too :frown1: Which is tough because I'm naturally greedy and I LOVE food, so I have to be really strict with myself to maintain any degree of normality.
Well thank you for the compliments ! I think that you've taken a well adjusted approach to this to get the conversation started. I have always been a stocky guy, its genetic. Hell, everything I have is big... I wear a size 13 ring, a size 13 shoe....but, I've always been conscious of being thick in the middle. An emergency trip to the hospital in January made me take stock of things. Fortunately, the health problem turned out to be nothing at all, however, it gave me the encouragement to change some habits, get more exercise and improve things for myself.
As a result, I dont know if it was the change in my overall shape, or the tighter jeans, or even a change in attitude that I FEEL like I look better ( which can be powerful in itself ) but my social life and sex life have VASTLY improved...Anyone else going to chime in here ?
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Thick in the middle eh? I inherited the natural apple shape tendency (among lots of other annoying genetic deficiencies) it's one of the reasons I find core muscle exercise so frustrating, I'm actually relatively fairly strong in my core but I find it virtually impossible even with a really strict diet to melt those last pounds off my middle to reveal all the hard work I put in down there.
In fact the only time I've ever had a anything even approaching a totally flat stomach/six pack was when I was living a seriously unhealthy lifestyle of partying and late nights and erratic meals. That didn't end well, so I wont be repeating that anytime soon.
I hate my body, it hates me. Mutual relationship lol. I have A LOT of health problems too, most which stem from the original health problem, (ask and I'll explain but it's a long story). I don't have a problem talking about it, I just don't like it when people try to sympathize or say people have it worse. Yes, I know other people have worse problems then me, that doesn't help how I feel about myself.
I know what you mean, it doesn't make it easier to deal with health problems knowing that others have worse problems than you, because ultimately you're not living in someone else's body, you're living in yours and it's the shit your body does to you that makes your life difficult.
Mind you, I don't get genuinely miserable about my health problems, I just get pissed off with the limitations and the niggling everyday shit which I just wish I could wake up one day and not have to deal with. It would be nice even just to have one whole month of my life completely free of illness or problems.
WTF Hilarius. You have a perfect body and a huge cock.Sure now the hate will pass.
Wait till you are old and your pubic hair turns grey, and you work in an environment where you are seen naked on a daily basis, and you see naked males daily(share a cabin offshore oil rigs, communal showers )
Then you realize that it pays off . I know I sound like your da or your teacher, but it's ego-boosting to walk into a place full of young outa shape young fucks and shed your clothes and walk proudly into the shower and get what seems like a passing comment , as in " what, you are 52?"
So love the body and keep at it now.
I'm far from perfect, but thank you anyway :redface: There's no chance of me giving up tbh, love my body or hate it, I take a 2 week holiday and come back looking like a whale, so it's not like I have a choice really :tongue:
From what I see I would say that you are hot. There are many things that I would like to change about my body but I try to think positive and not let it get me down.
Thank you :tongue: I'm not hot, I know some people find me attractive, and I'm incredibly thankful for that, I mean I have a healthy and active sex life, so I'm aware I'm not ugly. I'm just fed up of having to do the same kind of work just to look at the good end of normal that guys who look much better than normal do.
The problem with having a negative body image is that it leaks into other parts of our lives: relationships, intimacy with friends and family. It influences how we value ourselves and how we see others. Comparing our bodies to other people's is like comparing breeds of dogs. Some we like and others we don't. I think the best way to get over a negative self-image to to love another person and have them love you. Over time there is a change that occurs internally where you begin to see yourself with the eyes of your lover or friend. You can see yourself more objectively and openly...and begin to love yourself as you are.
I think the problem is that I see myself too objectively, rather than allowing myself to forget and be happy with how my body looks I find myself being too honest when I look in the mirror. Seeing the things others would notice about yourself isn't always such an empowering thing at all.
Knowing that for those things to disappear the person looking at me would need to have love-goggles on only makes things worse really. :tongue:
its tough when i go swimming in a public place and realize that my body is so skinny that i look more like a 15-year-old who hasnt finished puberty than most actual 15-year-olds.
And this is the problem, it's impossible not to compare yourself to others, now I'm not going to say that I see the guy on the street who clearly does workout twice a day and feel bad that I don't look like him, I don't because I know that if I want to look like that I need to work as hard as he does.
What I does kinda bug me is knowing that I don't look as good as I could do even though I already put in a lot of effort, and that there are guys who put in the same level of effort I do who look better than I do. That's frustrating, and comes down to the whole genetics and health conditions stuff.
I've been told thousands of times both in real life and on this website that I have a great body. Not so much a surprise, as I have worked hard for what I have now. I watch my diet, I regularly exercise and all the other regimental routines required to keep oneself in shape.
As a child and an early teen, however, I was a chubby kid with virtually no self-esteem and self-confidence. I decided enough was enough, and got my arse in gear. After a struggle, results came, and eventually I eased up, thinking I had found a comfortable plateau.
My body is one of those which goes to hell if mistreated, very, very quickly. A month of eating the occasional bit of junk food, lack of exercise and decent diet would result in me being fat, out of shape and feeling like hell. Meanwhile, there are people who haven't incorporated any kind of healthy regime in their life to date, and have washboard abs, lean bodies and perfect skin. That's just how it is.
Really, I hate my body, in the sense that it requires a lot of upkeep-- just to stay what I'd consider 'marginally above dead average'.
STORY OF MY LIFE! :tongue:
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