I get attached too quickly

[Principessa]

Whoa....you were really serious about this. I should probably check his credit too. I don't wanna end up like the dude on the "free credit report" commercials.

I'm 43. I have been around the block more than once. Not all men lie, cheat, or beat women but some do and you need to know before you get seriously involved.

I'm going to stick to looking for a boyfriend......but then again in Baltimore that means a black, gang banging hustler......nevermind.

Honey, that's the whole damn country! :irked:

Perhaps if the world had more educated black men for me to date I wouldn't feel the way I do.[/QUOTE]Don't get me started on the college educated black men who insist upon keeping it real by acting the way you describe. I don't have time for them either. Your custom Tims driving an Escalade do not impress me. :no:

Perhaps I can find a white guy who goes to College Park or in a neighboring county like P.G.[/QUOTE]

• Avoid the ones who have never been with a black girl if at all possible. Once it gets serious they tend to freak out.
• Make sure you meet the parents, if he drops you soon after, you know his trust fund was in danger. Yes, I have had that happen too. :frown1:
• Not every educated white man is a nice man. The same rules apply to them as for other races.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I just realized who you are Princess. Now you see why i changed my name a couple of times....

 

[WifeNeedsGurth]

I would just like to point out for any woman reading this thread.....I know this is the "women's issues" section, but the man-bashing is brutal.


Men are not all as bad as they are being portrayed here. There are TONS of awesome guys out there.

I LOVE men!

 

[Ganieda]

There's some other stuff you need to know:

• A lot of white guys just want to check off, "Did a black girl on their sexual scavenger hunt list." :irked:
• In the southeast it was/is common for fathers to take their sons to black prostitutes for there first experience. I don't know why but thats what they do. :angryfire2:
• In all of America many whites especially the middle and upper class think it's okay to have sex with a black girl but NOT marry her.

You were used for sex. You were his black booty call girl and you look good so he didn't mind if people saw you together.

The bolded section is the story of my life. D@mn white men. D@mn black men also. Maybe it's time to hit up the Asian Community. :biggrin1:

 

[Serial Kisser]

I would just like to point out for any woman reading this thread.....I know this is the "women's issues" section, but the man-bashing is brutal.


Men are not all as bad as they are being portrayed here. There are TONS of awesome guys out there.

I LOVE men!

Off topic. Who cares?

 

[Pitbull]

I think with my last fuck buddy it also had to do with the fact we were having unprotected sex (I know we shouldn't have). Unprotected sex seems much more intimate than sex with a condom in my opinion.

I know I should have used a condom but it happened once by accident and he said it felt so much better so before you know it we were barebacking permanently. He was always scared as shit afterward telling me I was going to get pregnant.

There are different levels of "Safe Sex"
Condoms are one.
TOTAL Exclusivity with both partners being disease free is another.

NO BIRTH CONTROL ???

Please don't ever do that ever again.
Children when you and the man are totally able and you have a real commitment.

It is rough being a single parent. Especially at your age.
(Pitbull is raising 2 puppies all by himself)

 

[Pitbull]

......but then again in Baltimore that means a black, gang banging hustler......

I have been to Baltimore many times.
I have seen white people there.
I will bet money I can find black people there who are not "gang banging hustler"

...Perhaps I can find a white guy who goes to College Park or in a neighboring county like P.G.

Here in "Gorgeous Prince Georges' " (county Maryland, - P.G. for short)
there are a wide diversity of people.
White and Black.
Many fine upstanding folks of all races may be found.
They have jobs.
Go to church.
Are not hooked on drugs.

College Park is in PG and not in neighboring upscale and affluent Montgomery County as is often assumed.

 

[sxy_vince]

Here's the thing.....I wanted a relationship but then I get a fuck buddy agreement that basically is a relationship minus the title (sleep over, visit each other during winter and summer break, hang out, play video games together, eat together, tons of sex, our friends hung out together, minature golfing, ect.) so I felt like because it wasn't labeled as a relationship I wouldn't be attached but it happened anyway.

I have heard that some of this bonding with FBs occurs because of a hormone called oxytocin.

It makes me wonder if sleeping next to a FB after sex might exacerbate the problem of unwanted bonding.

In other words, to avoid attachment, maybe after sex with a FB one of you should leave the bed and go home to avoid the attachment that might come with lying together in post-coital bliss?

 

[Principessa]

The bolded section is the story of my life. D@mn white men. D@mn black men also. Maybe it's time to hit up the Asian Community. :biggrin1:

Girlfrien' I did not make that stuff up; I have learned from experience. :frown1:

Find me one at least 6' tall and I might have to arm wrestle you for that Asian dude. I'm rather fond of Tim Kang on the Mentalist and Demetri Noh on Flash Forward. Gabrielle Union plays his fiance on the show, which is a nice change. :smile: You usually don't see Asian men and black women paired up in movies or on tv.

 

[Ganieda]

Girlfrien' I did not make that stuff up; I have learned from experience. :frown1:

Find me one at least 6' tall and I might have to arm wrestle you for that Asian dude. I'm rather fond of Tim Kang on the Mentalist and Demetri Noh on Flash Forward. Gabrielle Union plays his fiance on the show, which is a nice change. :smile: You usually don't see Asian men and black women paired up in movies or on tv.

I know you didn't make it up. :frown1:

On another note : LOL I would totally lose in an arm wrestling match.:smile:

I find myself very attracted to Jin-Soo Kwon from LOST. As for the black and Asian match on Flashforward... I thought that was pleasant also. Black/Asian couples are way more taboo than black/white pairs.

 

[voidout]

Girlfrien' I did not make that stuff up; I have learned from experience. :frown1:

Find me one at least 6' tall and I might have to arm wrestle you for that Asian dude. I'm rather fond of Tim Kang on the Mentalist and Demetri Noh on Flash Forward. Gabrielle Union plays his fiance on the show, which is a nice change. :smile: You usually don't see Asian men and black women paired up in movies or on tv.

I know you didn't make it up. :frown1:

On another note : LOL I would totally lose in an arm wrestling match.:smile:

I find myself very attracted to Jin-Soo Kwon from LOST. As for the black and Asian match on Flashforward... I thought that was pleasant also. Black/Asian couples are way more taboo than black/white pairs.

i have a thing for good looking asian men, as we all know, so YES. let's go raid it at any time. can i be the token white girl?

anyway, i totally love gabrielle union and john cho together. such a pretty couple even if it's only on tv! lol. oh, and flash forward is one of my favourite shows right now.

jin-soo kwon...*swoon*

 

[eyescream]

Originally Posted by Rommette
I think with my last fuck buddy it also had to do with the fact we were having unprotected sex (I know we shouldn't have). Unprotected sex seems much more intimate than sex with a condom in my opinion.

Originally Posted by Rommette
I know I should have used a condom but it happened once by accident and he said it felt so much better so before you know it we were barebacking permanently. He was always scared as shit afterward telling me I was going to get pregnant.

Of course it feels a whole lot better without a condom. Nobody needs to hear that! Not using a condom isn't going to get you to keep him. The fact that he would consider not using a condom with you when you guys aren't even exclusive means that he's probably not using a condom with every other girl he's seeing.

 

[helgaleena]

good observation, eyescream.

 

[EboniGoddess]

I'm 43. I have been around the block more than once. Not all men lie, cheat, or beat women but some do and you need to know before you get seriously involved.

Honey, that's the whole damn country! :irked:

Don't get me started on the college educated black men who insist upon keeping it real by acting the way you describe. I don't have time for them either. Your custom Tims driving an Escalade do not impress me. :no:

• Avoid the ones who have never been with a black girl if at all possible. Once it gets serious they tend to freak out.
• Make sure you meet the parents, if he drops you soon after, you know his trust fund was in danger. Yes, I have had that happen too. :frown1:
• Not every educated white man is a nice man. The same rules apply to them as for other races.

you sure have been through alot. bUT YOU DO GIVE GOOD ADVICE.

There are different levels of "Safe Sex"
Condoms are one.
TOTAL Exclusivity with both partners being disease free is another.

NO BIRTH CONTROL ???

Please don't ever do that ever again.
Children when you and the man are totally able and you have a real commitment.

It is rough being a single parent. Especially at your age.
(Pitbull is raising 2 puppies all by himself)

I have been to Baltimore many times.
I have seen white people there.
I will bet money I can find black people there who are not "gang banging hustler"




Here in "Gorgeous Prince Georges' " (county Maryland, - P.G. for short)
there are a wide diversity of people.
White and Black.
Many fine upstanding folks of all races may be found.
They have jobs.
Go to church.
Are not hooked on drugs.

College Park is in PG and not in neighboring upscale and affluent Montgomery County as is often assumed.

I was using birthcontrol but he was afraid it would fail.

LOL....the fuck buddy I was reffering to was from P.G.....LOL

I have heard that some of this bonding with FBs occurs because of a hormone called oxytocin.

It makes me wonder if sleeping next to a FB after sex might exacerbate the problem of unwanted bonding.

In other words, to avoid attachment, maybe after sex with a FB one of you should leave the bed and go home to avoid the attachment that might come with lying together in post-coital bliss?

Of course it feels a whole lot better without a condom. Nobody needs to hear that! Not using a condom isn't going to get you to keep him. The fact that he would consider not using a condom with you when you guys aren't even exclusive means that he's probably not using a condom with every other girl he's seeing.

 

[likitisplit]

TIME OUT!!! dammitt! i've read through two...just two articles in the women's articles and i just have to stop and say...you women are the best! you ladies are the sexiest, most prime examples of feminine perfection a man will see. thank you for being here and being as open as you are! you all are a treasure! carry on please!

 

[voidout]

kiss ass.

 

[helgaleena]

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