I got it made.......

[kewlkid75]

I talk to a lot of people through out my day and it helps my confidence, because usually i am very shy and reserved. I am learning to be more open and putting my self out there as i was instructed. Still hard to do, since i am always alone. Nonetheless, I always get people telling me how my life is so great. Only if they really knew... They think they know, but has no idea( sorry if i took this from someone). They say, I meant the people I work with or some family members would say....Man, you got it made in the shade, you ain't got no children, or no wife.(I laugh under my breath), which is funny to me, because i don't date women, so i just roll along with the conversation and it keeps going like, you don't have to answer to nobody, you can keep all of your money when you get paid and nobody telling you buy this or that. I wish i was like you. I say to them, yes i am doing ok... Deep down inside I am feeling pretty crappy inside and alone. Some times during the year are worse than other times during the year. They don't realize when i leave that little show about my life. I get in a car alone, and go to an 1 bedroom apartment alone. I realize for some this is the ideal situation. For me, i am 42 and this is not fun, nor has it ever been. I try so hard to make the best of this. Yes, folks. I am on dating sites and I have 1 date this year, but i didn't pan out...this is a exclusive update. Try again next time. Any way, no time for pity, gotta get back up and try again..That is what they tell me.

p.s. I realize that this could be a repost, so apologizing up front or after the whole thing is written. Anyway, sorry for the repost.

Anyone got any ideas on what i should do or how to handle a situation. You guys give some good advice. Unlike my family..those monsters....just kid, because i love them...or do I..hhhmmm.

 

[BillM]

Stud, Sound like you want a loving partner in your life and you will not find one alone in your apartment. You need to get out and just because your one date this year did not work out do not give up on dating others. Go to places that you like and maybe meet others that like the same things, just keep trying and put your self out there as I am sure there is a perfect match for you!!

 

[BillM]

Stud, Maybe place an ad on here as well??

 

[kewlkid75]

Stud, Sound like you want a loving partner in your life and you will not find one alone in your apartment. You need to get out and just because your one date this year did not work out do not give up on dating others. Go to places that you like and maybe meet others that like the same things, just keep trying and put your self out there as I am sure there is a perfect match for you!!

Thanks BillM,
I do want to find, and get me a partner. I do get out more. I really do. I had to suck it up, that's what I was told to do. The reason why the didn't pan out was because he wanted to preach to me( I don't need to be treated like this), and he said he didn't want a relationship and he wanted to me to be a f---toy to him. I am like..no, I am looking for more. There is going to be the annual Spring time parade here, so I will go there...alone..unless I go to Craig's list Tallahassee and see if I can get someone to go with me. Thanks for the kind words. I am not looking for perfect, just looking for someone to make me happy, because I can make him happy.

 

[kewlkid75]

Stud, Maybe place an ad on here as well??

Thanks. I never thought about this place. I gotta go give it a try.

 

[kewlkid75]

Thanks BillM,
I do want to find, and get me a partner. I do get out more. I really do. I had to suck it up, that's what I was told to do. The reason why the date didn't pan out was because he wanted to preach to me( I don't need to be treated like this), and he said he didn't want a relationship and he wanted to me to be a f---toy to him. I am like..no, I am looking for more. There is going to be the annual Spring time parade here, so I will go there...alone..unless I go to Craig's list Tallahassee and see if I can get someone to go with me. Thanks for the kind words. I am not looking for perfect, just looking for someone to make me happy, because I can make him happy.

 

[950483]

Thanks BillM,
I do want to find, and get me a partner. I do get out more. I really do. I had to suck it up, that's what I was told to do. The reason why the didn't pan out was because he wanted to preach to me( I don't need to be treated like this), and he said he didn't want a relationship and he wanted to me to be a f---toy to him. I am like..no, I am looking for more. There is going to be the annual Spring time parade here, so I will go there...alone..unless I go to Craig's list Tallahassee and see if I can get someone to go with me. Thanks for the kind words. I am not looking for perfect, just looking for someone to make me happy, because I can make him happy.

I'm not sure if craigslist is the best idea for what you are looking for. What kind of activities do you engage in outside the house? What kind of things do you like doing? In the past I met one of my partners through mutual friends because I was open about my sexuality.

 

[kewlkid75]

I'm not sure if craigslist is the best idea for what you are looking for. What kind of activities do you engage in outside the house? What kind of things do you like doing? In the past I met one of my partners through mutual friends because I was open about my sexuality.

On weekends. I love going to the park and taking walks. I jog and exercise daily. I am open minded to go places. I want to to get to the beach this year. I want to be with someone. Yes, Craig's list is a bit more for people who want to hookup(nothing wrong with that). I do get outdoor, but I need a companoon.

 

[950483]

On weekends. I love going to the park and taking walks. I jog and exercise daily. I am open minded to go places. I want to to get to the beach this year. I want to be with someone. Yes, Craig's list is a bit more for people who want to hookup(nothing wrong with that). I do get outdoor, but I need a companoon.

What about doing some kind of group activities or classes? Solitary pursuits are not likely to help you meet someone. The more people you know, the more people you are likely to meet. What about getting involved with local activism?, that might be a good way to get to meet likeminded people. Or volunteering at an animal shelter?

 

[kewlkid75]

What about doing some kind of group activities or classes? Solitary pursuits are not likely to help you meet someone. The more people you know, the more people you are likely to meet. What about getting involved with local activism?, that might be a good way to get to meet likeminded people. Or volunteering at an animal shelter?

There is a yoga and pilates class that is offered at a place only a half of mile from where i live, usually frequented by ladies, but i never make the time to get there, perhaps mind jitters or whatever the case maybe. You are right, everyone is right there is no excuse for me not getting involved in a lot of group activities. I, unfortunately do not know how to interact in a group format. I have always been a solitary creature even from childhood and yes i want to participate, but saying and doing are two different things. Even if i am around a group of people like at a family BBQ, i always find a way to tuck myself in the corner so to speak and play on my phone, or tablet, usually because i carry them with me everywhere i go. Looks like i got a million to one excuses, but i am telling the truth. I am not good at group situations. Thank you so much for the great advice.

 

[BillM]

Stud, You hit the nail on the head, put your phone away and just start to talk to people at these group meeting, you do not have to talk to everyone. Pick out a few people and just have a one on one conversation and relax. It is fun and you will soon get the hang of it!! You will notice that if you start a conversation, you can just let the other person talk. In a great conversation listening is as important as talking and when you really listen to some one that person will also really enjoy your company!! Life is fun and very short so enjoy!!

 

[kewlkid75]

Stud, You hit the nail on the head, put your phone away and just start to talk to people at these group meeting, you do not have to talk to everyone. Pick out a few people and just have a one on one conversation and relax. It is fun and you will soon get the hang of it!! You will notice that if you start a conversation, you can just let the other person talk. In a great conversation listening is as important as talking and when you really listen to some one that person will also really enjoy your company!! Life is fun and very short so enjoy!!

Thank you for giving me your honest opinions and advice and reminding me to enjoy all moments of life. I am going to a therapists soon, so hopefully he or she can help me break out of this shell. Now, one fun fact about me is that once i do find a bunch of people to talk to, usually family..selected ones. I am a great conversationalists, and i have a lot to talk about. I also, listen alot. I do know when to be quiet.

I think alot, sometimes too much. I get this therapist to teach me to get out of my own head and my own way. I will blossom like a flower. You'll see. keep ya posted.

 

[BillM]

Thank you for giving me your honest opinions and advice and reminding me to enjoy all moments of life. I am going to a therapists soon, so hopefully he or she can help me break out of this shell. Now, one fun fact about me is that once i do find a bunch of people to talk to, usually family..selected ones. I am a great conversationalists, and i have a lot to talk about. I also, listen alot. I do know when to be quiet.

I think alot, sometimes too much. I get this therapist to teach me to get out of my own head and my own way. I will blossom like a flower. You'll see. keep ya posted.

Stud, Please do keep us updated on your progress and you are your own Therapist as you know what to do and as you pointed out you are a great conversationalists and have a lot to talk about so DAMN JUST GO OUT and TALK, people will love you!!

 

[halcyondays]

There's an old saying that the only zen you find on mountaintops is the zen you take up there with you.

Happiness is the same. The only happiness you'll find in a relationship is the happiness you bring.

If you haven't experienced it yet you'll discover that people bring all their stuff into relationships: the brilliant, the good, the bad and the ugly.

 

[kewlkid75]

I love this. I thank you for this beautiful message. I have been trying so hard to cultivate something that is not there. All I need to do is step back, catch my breath and be mindful. Focus on my own realizations.

 

[halcyondays]

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