I hate females

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by LikeaLOLO, Jul 21, 2009.

  1. LikeaLOLO

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    Yes im gay but that is not why i hate females

    not all females are this bad but most that i have known in my life are.

    Most of the females I haven known in life are prissy bitches that expect men to do whatever they want. they feel like they should get any and everything they want. They think men are their slaves. they think they are better than everyone.


    Me and my best friend have known each other for about 8 years and we have been best friends for about 5 years. He recently got married. me and his wife hate each other. I have had sex with her husband a few times before they even knew each other (but i don't think she knows)

    anyways I said a few words to her after she insulted me and pissed her off. and im afraid that i will lose my best friend because he might side with her.

    i feel like this bitch is taking away my bestfriend who i love dearly and it would really hurt me to lose him forever.

    any advice?
     
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    My advice to you is to let this play out. Do not let your hotheaded nature which got you into this work it's magic at getting you out with a negative outcome. Instead apologize, first actually to him then to her ( not the other way around ), then let well enough alone by not being confrontational. Apologize to the friend in person. Apologize to the wife via telephone or something.
     
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    well i can't apologize to him in person without her being there


    this bitch never leaves his side. She thinks that if he goes out alone without her that he will go off with another girl..

    with the 50% divorce rate this country has im hoping they will divorce and i can have my best friend back without that bitch being in the picture. I hate her. I want to do bad evil things to her. (and im not a natually violent person)

    i wanna go back to when it was just me and him hanging out. when he first met her i thought she was just going to be another temporary girlfriend like all the other girls he has been with.
     
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    You are aware that even if you do not like her if your friend does like her you're wishing him harm, right? Put things into perspective; he chooses to be with this woman and until he himself is unhappy you'll have a much easier battle trying to get along rather than sitting and waiting for doom and gloom to befall everyone.

    It's rather juvenile to do that anyway.
     
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    i think your attitude towards women is obviously amplified by this 'wife' of your best friend but she has more rights to his attention than you do and he must be happy enough to have chosen to make her more than just another temporary g/f.
    by disrespecting her you are disrespecting your friend so Symphonic is right, you need to apologise to him first and foremost and then invite him out or round to yours if you want to hang out in future, at least his wife would be seen as the unreasonable one if she wasn't happy about it.
     
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    Burn those bridges, Id drop you.
     
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    'Fraid that's how it is, Likealolo. If you want to see any more of him, you're gonna have to get on with his wife. They're a unit now.
     
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    drop me as in drop me as a friend?

    or drop me as in fight me?
     
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    You have to say sorry to them both. Face to face, telephone, letter, at a pinch email, or even send them some flowers.

    Then you have to leave a bit of time for things to calm down.

    Your friend is married, so you have to accept them as a unit. But your friend is presumably unhappy with how it is working out between you and his wife. She should be also. If she is big enough she might find a way forward. Lots of wives would like to get shot of their husbands once in a while by having them socialise with a male friend.

    If she offers an olive branch, take it. By apologising you make this posible. If she doesn't do this your friend is going to be hurting. He will of course side with his wife.

    No-one outside a relationship can know what goes on in it, but it seems to me that there are issues between your friend and his wife. It is odd for a wife not to like or at least tolerate her husband's best friend. You have to do and be seen to do everything possible to support that relationship. If it does break up your friend is going to be badly hurt (and may blame you).

    It is a situation without an obvious right answer. In a way you should move on and find another guy. But love doesn't work that way. I'm suggesting make it your mission to be nice to both of them, and see what happens in the next few months.
     
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    Best piece of advice I can give you is take the high road and treat her with reverence and respect. If you do and she does not return it in kind; your friend will start to draw his own conclusions about his misguided choices. Life hands us a series of... "Love him hate her and vice versa" But in the end you can all live in relative bliss even if half of those involved are living in a fools paradise.
     
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    Well, he married her. Unfortunately for you, he is married. Regardless of how you feel about the opposite sex, you don't have control over their relationship. That is a fact. Like the laws of gravity.

    It seems there is some envy there and you need to deal with that. It sounds like you love him in <LOVE> sense. You will need to nip that. He can't LOVE you. He has to LOVE her.

    And if you decide to reveal to his wife about your sexual encounters with her husband because she is the <sarcasm>evil bitch female</sarcasm> :rolleyes:
    Well, you could wreck everything. And I hope you don't reveal that to the wife. I really do.

    I don't know what you should do about keeping the friendship. Maybe you could give them some space. They are married.


     
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    It will also wreck any chance of repairing the friendship.
     
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    I don't feel this is really about women as much as it's about YOU.

    If you love, yes truly, love your friend, that means you are happy for his happiness.
    If it means he IS happy with someone [else], REGARDLESS of YOUR feelings about that person (the wife in this case) then everything will be fine.
    But I think you are quite unable to get past YOUR own wants and desires.
    Jealousy is an ugly thing.
    Check yourself- stop with the controlling behavior and thoughts, and let your friends live his life and choose his happiness.
     
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    Ok, well for starters, stop calling her a bitch. I can't imagine he would appreciate it.

    Second, you're his friend, right? That means you need to be supportive in his choices unless they are negative towards him.

    Three, and this one is going to be brutally honest, it sounds like you have developed a crush on him. This isn't healthy, and it's causing you to be jealous, rude and over-reactive. I suggest you take a step back and evaluate your feelings for your friend. The fact that you mentioned you've fooled around with him in the past, suggests to me that you feel you are entitled to him only.

    Fourth, it's possible that she's figured out you have some sort of feelings for him and that's why she's less than polite with you. You are attempting to take claim on her husband. That's enough to make anyone upset.

    My overall suggestion is similar to others on the thread. Take some time away, figure out what you actually want out of the relationship with your friend, and stop "having words" with the wife, as that doesn't show maturity, which you want to have in this situation. good luck.
     
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    And btw, I went through all your posts and I have an analysis for you, if you wish.

    AS you have written, you have incredibly low self esteem. I'm almost wondering if the fact that your friend has allowed you to feel attractive (by letting you fool around with him), has blurred your thoughts on this particular definition of friendship. Being loved and appreciated is a great thing, I suspect you miss it, and that's why you are so bitter towards her. There is a fear that you won't find someone else who accepts you.
     
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    I'm sorry about your unfortunate life experiences but misogyny is an extremely unattractive trait in any man, gay or straight. And I would suggest that if you intend to have any friendship with this guy at all you make your peace with his wife and her position in his life.
     
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    Don't stoop to her level with tit-for-tat insults. Try to make amends by telling her in person you forgive her for what she said and ask that she forgives you for your comments. Hopefully she will. Put your best foot forward and display a warm attitude towards the newlyweds. Find out how they met each other, compliment and charm her. Your friend will appreciate this, but I expect you will see less of him now that he has married.
     
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    Are you a guy or girl, Lolo?

    Anyways, your intense hatred of the wife is justified and I certainly understand where you are coming from.

    Your friend will have to decide between keeping you as a best friend or keeping his wife. I don't see how this is going to work out any differently unless you can see the wife becoming a good friend sometime down the road. Sadly, I think it's very unlikely that your feelings about her will change. Unless he sees you behind the wife's back, she will most likely always be the center of his social life from now on. They are a couple now and as such they do things together.

    Although it is painful you need to accept the fact that best friendships don't always last forever and that people change, even best friends. He has a new life with his wife now, and possibly a family later. He has moved on but you have remained the same.

    The best you can do is hope. One day you just may pick up your friendship where it left off. Just be open to that.

    It sucks. I lost a best friend to marriage too so I know where you are at now.
     
  19. LikeaLOLO

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    Wow you are spot on with the analysis. you're good. are you a psychologist?. This guy is really good looking (he could be a model) and he is extremly nice ( I sometimes tell him he is too nice for his own good). After having sex with him i was extremly happy and almost euphoric. He might be the most attractive guy I ever get to have sex with ( I doubt I will ever land another beautiful guy like that). I love that he accepts me for who I am with all my depression and flaws. and you're right I do fear that I won't find another person like him that accepts me like that. If she takes him away from me then I feel like i am left with nothing.

    but am I suppose to let the hoe insult me in front of a huge group of people and smile and thank her for insulting me?
     
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    I'll bet she knows or at least suspects.

    Couples often share some details of their sexual history and if he's mentioned that he's been with a man then she may be connecting the dots to you. For that matter he may even have mentioned you specifically.

    It's not uncommon for either men or women to feel hostility towards their partners previous bedmates especially when they are still in the picture. Moreso if they get the vibe that the ex is still interested, a vibe that your hostility to her and competition for his time is sure to give off.

    My suggestion would be that you ask your friend if he's told her. I'd also suggest that you examine the nature of your love for your friend. If it's more than just a dear friend kind of thing you're going to have to give it up.

    Regardless you should apologize to him for being part of a problem that is causing him stress and ask how he thinks you can do your part to ease the tension.
     
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