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This thread hardly reads as supportive.
LikeaLOLO started the thread with a post which set out what he felt. As 101 subsequent posters have pointed out his post presented him in a very bad light, but at least he's been upfront about how he feels. We really don't have a great deal of information from his posts about the details of what is going on, so I'm reluctant to jump to conclusions.
The triangle set out is not all that unusual. The friend who has married is presumably not 100% straight. If he were 100% straight with no previous with LikeaLOLO then I think LikeaLOLO would be completely out of order - but from my reading of the posts that isn't the case. Quite where the friend is on the gay-straight continuum is unknown.
Lets imagine that the friend is gay or mostly gay. The thread isn't clear on this, but it does seem at least a possibility. Assuming his wife is not daft she is going to work this out. It leaves her in a truly ghastly position. She cannot satisfy her husband's gay inclinations. Her husband's friend is a real problem for her. He's not like another women as he is offering something that she cannot possibly offer. She can hardly be expected to like her husband's friend, but if she is a strong character and truly loves her husband she may be prepared to tolerate him, because her husband wants him around.
The friend is in a difficult position. Did he pretend to be 100% straight? Is the straight sex any good? What are they both looking for from the marriage? Kids? Straight middle class normality? How much has he told her about sexual activity with LikeaLOLO? Probably very little, but she can probably read between the lines. Probably not many men would tell the women in their life, but this is a form of dishonesty.
LikeaLOLO is in a very difficult position. Posters to this thread have more or less implied that he should emigrate and never see his friend again. Well that's one answer. Yet his friend probably wants his company, and his friends wife seems to have accepted this. However he is walking on eggshells. It is very hard to see how anything he does can truly be right.
If the friend is 100% straight or mostly straight then none of the above follows. But I don't actually think this is the case based on what we have been told. Indeed we have the story of "Brokeback Mountain" here. And I seem to recall the film makes us feel sympathy for both the guys (and perhaps a little for the wives too).
The wife seems now to have tried to find a way forward. LikeaLOLO needs to respect her for what she is doing, and show he respects her. But I still don't see this scenario having any happy ending. Come to think of it neither does "Brokeback Mountain".
LikeaLOLO started the thread with a post which set out what he felt. As 101 subsequent posters have pointed out his post presented him in a very bad light, but at least he's been upfront about how he feels. We really don't have a great deal of information from his posts about the details of what is going on, so I'm reluctant to jump to conclusions.
The triangle set out is not all that unusual. The friend who has married is presumably not 100% straight. If he were 100% straight with no previous with LikeaLOLO then I think LikeaLOLO would be completely out of order - but from my reading of the posts that isn't the case. Quite where the friend is on the gay-straight continuum is unknown.
Lets imagine that the friend is gay or mostly gay. The thread isn't clear on this, but it does seem at least a possibility. Assuming his wife is not daft she is going to work this out. It leaves her in a truly ghastly position. She cannot satisfy her husband's gay inclinations. Her husband's friend is a real problem for her. He's not like another women as he is offering something that she cannot possibly offer. She can hardly be expected to like her husband's friend, but if she is a strong character and truly loves her husband she may be prepared to tolerate him, because her husband wants him around.
The friend is in a difficult position. Did he pretend to be 100% straight? Is the straight sex any good? What are they both looking for from the marriage? Kids? Straight middle class normality? How much has he told her about sexual activity with LikeaLOLO? Probably very little, but she can probably read between the lines. Probably not many men would tell the women in their life, but this is a form of dishonesty.
LikeaLOLO is in a very difficult position. Posters to this thread have more or less implied that he should emigrate and never see his friend again. Well that's one answer. Yet his friend probably wants his company, and his friends wife seems to have accepted this. However he is walking on eggshells. It is very hard to see how anything he does can truly be right.
If the friend is 100% straight or mostly straight then none of the above follows. But I don't actually think this is the case based on what we have been told. Indeed we have the story of "Brokeback Mountain" here. And I seem to recall the film makes us feel sympathy for both the guys (and perhaps a little for the wives too).
The wife seems now to have tried to find a way forward. LikeaLOLO needs to respect her for what she is doing, and show he respects her. But I still don't see this scenario having any happy ending. Come to think of it neither does "Brokeback Mountain".
