I have a dilemma...

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by B_Rivas_Boricua4Ever, Feb 9, 2008.

  1. B_Rivas_Boricua4Ever

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    I'm facing a pretty big dilemma.

    On Thursday, I went out with my cousin Zack (from my mother's side, the Italian side) and his supposed fiance, Joanna. I say "supposed" because, at the age of 22, he has been "engaged" four times already. Anyway, Thursday was a pleasant evening out with Zack and Joanna...however, I could not take my eyes off my cousin's fiance. She's beautiful, funny, sexy and voluptuous. I really, really would love to have sex with her, no lie at all. And I could easily do it; she lives with my cousin and I can call her when he's not home. I could make some moves. Sure, I've wrecked a few friends' relationships in a similar manner...but am I prepared to do that to my cousin? To break his heart? Yes, it's his fourth engagement but still...it's a bit off and makes me feel like a cheap slut again, much as I explained in my previous "personal post". But who knows, she might be the one for Zack.

    The dilemma doesn't stop there.

    I've always been quite close with Zack's sister (who, obviously, is also my cousin), Carla. Our birthday's are even close (mine is July 25th 1988, her's is August 7th 1988). Anyway, I am close with Carla, we always have been, though we're not as close as we used to be...well...we're still pretty close. We often go out together, out to eat, to the clubs, whatever, normally once a month, sometimes twice. I finally came to a realization today while thinking about this problem I have...something I've sort of always knew but never really admitted to myself...I may be in love with Carla.

    I've masturbated to her several times before...I've lusted for her and, as I think about it, it's possible I have feelings for her. We always flirted with eachother as kids, as young relatives often do. But I guess, maybe, I never abadoned that. When we go out to the clubs, when we dance, I love the touch of her body, her scent, I've wanted to kiss her SO many times. Her breasts pushed against my chest or her behind grinding in my crotch (yes, we dance like that...I dunno....it seems/seemed innocent, nothing bad). She's gorgeous and...I don't know. I think I am in love.

    The point I'm getting to is this; is it possible that the main, subconscious, underlying reason that I want to fuck Joanna is the fact that I'm quite possibly in love with Zack's sister -- my own cousin and close friend of many years? Should I stay away from Joanna and maybe approach Carla, confess this? Or should I try things with Joanna, to "hide" my "temptataions" for Carla? Should I just stay away from both things? What should I do? Any advice? I've posted this here because I don't really feel comfortable talking to anybody I personally know about this. Thanks...

    Joanna:
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    Carla:
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  2. Not_Punny

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    I think the real question is what are your intentions and motivations here?

    To have a good time?

    To build a relationship?

    To wreck a relationship?

    What do you ACTUALLY want to accomplish? What's the goal?

    - - - - - - - -

    In other words, look beyond the moment. Look into the future.
     
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    Fuck Joanna first. She's cuter anyway. After that destroys your cousin's engagement and he's not speaking to you anymore, you can act broken hearted and apologetic and go to Carla looking for support. Then you can take advantage of her feminine need to nurture and get into her pants, too.
     
  4. ManlyBanisters

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    If you don't fuck Carla can I?

    *ahem* Sorry.

    Cousin or not I'm not surprised you like her.

    I dunno, R, I wouldn't do your cousin's girlfriend - wait til they breakup (if they're gonna).

    Your cousin? Could it cause a hassle in the family? If you really think you have strong feelings for her then talk to her. Start it as casually as you can so you can make lightl of it if she goes 'no way'.

    Hopefully you'll get some better advice than mine...
     
  5. D_Gunther Snotpole

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    Boy, Rivas, you really want trouble these days, don't you?
    Zack will always be your cousin ... so if you destroy his engagement (or if he just thinks you did), you have a problem for life.
    Carla will always be your cousin.
    If you get it on with her, she may not mind (in fact, I'm kinda thinkin' she won't), but mama and papa might have a vendetta, and might call Renzo in to regulate things.
    Is he still using that same stringy ol' garrote?
    You know, bambino, if it works for two minutes ... it's done its job.
    Rivas, we love you.
    Don't hurt the peeps who love you.
    K?
     
  6. BoyCordoba

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    If you cannot restrain yourself and you HAVE TO get one of those girls well, I would suggest you make some moves on your cousin Carla. That way, in the best case scenario you may get what you always wanted without compromising you cousin Zack's love and friendship. In the worst case scenario, should you go gay more than 40%, you can always apologise to Carla by saying you just wanted to test yourself and find out how gay or straight you really were ;)
    She'll love you even more than before for being so honest with her and for choosing her for the experiment.
    Keep us posted!
     
  7. vince

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    Wait for Zack and Joanna to breakup, then fuck her. Zack won't be so pissed.

    Don't mess around with Carla man. Plus, if you knock-up your cousin, the baby can be born retarded.

    Keep the peace, they're family and you have to live with them forever.

    I'm sure you can get all the tail you want outside the family.
     
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    Yeah man, family is family. Don't fuck over your own family. It's not worth it. You'll need these people for the rest of your life and as you get older you'll realize just how important they are.

    If you want to go after Joanna then wait until they break up, wait until Zack has another girl, and then ask Zack's permission.

    However.....

    What if things with Joanna go really well and you become long-term? You'll always wonder if she still has a thing for Zack and you'll avoid being around him. Plus Joanna will also be able to tell you really like Carla and she'll get jealous.

    Best bet is to go find a hoochie mama of your own. Look and flirt all you want but don't go there.

    Remember this: A real man doesn't fuck over his friends and never his family. Nothing is more dishonorable.


     
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    it's only a dilemma if you let your dick guide your actions
     
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    one question
    how do you know your cousines girlfriend would want to even fuck you while shes engaged to your cousine?
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  12. Tanvir

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    Maybe you should start by not putting their pictures all over the web, if really you're not "comfortable" talking to anyone you "personally know". You are uncomfortable, imagine how your cousins, Joanna and Carla, feel?
     
  13. B_Rivas_Boricua4Ever

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    I just want people to know what I'm talking about....yes, I'm aware it doesn't make too much sense. Not a lot I do does nowadays...

    And to Gonzo3 and un-identable, it's part of my complex...I explained in a previous post I made about a personal problem. My often bloated ego, low self esteem and general self loathing mix to a point where I push myself into situations and fuck things up. I'm saying I could do it because I've done it before.

    Thanks for the advice and concern to those who replied...I have shit to think about, I guess. :frown1:
     
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    First off let me say that I do understand the temptation with both ladies (particularly cousin Carla...damn...!). That said and out the way, I say don't fuck your cousin's fiance. If you're sure they will break up wait it out and then proceed with caution. I don't think it's ever cool to fuck the love of a friend or family member. The thing is you can have her as often as you like in your mind with a sufficiently greased hand until it becomes a reality and nobody gets hurt or angry that way.

    Now the cousin thing is a bit more complicated to me. That all depends on your own personal beliefs concerning sex with family and how other family members would feel about it. Personally, I say don't do it, but that's just my own thought (of course, I have had sex with a cousin before albeit male though I don't think I would do it again). But if you're good with it talk to her about your feelings and see how she feels. Does she know that you're bisexual and how would that knowledge play into the whole thing...? These are questions that would need to be answered before proceeding to ensure you don't have the whole thing blow up in your face and potentially ruin many family relationships.

    Well, these are my thoughts, but may I add that I've jacked off to thoughts of you on a few occasions. Just thought you should know.

    :wink: :notworthy: :blowjob: :adam4: :069: :wank:
     
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    That's what I'm thinking. You should see if one of the moderators can remove those pictures. You did not have their permission to post them on an adult site. I don't think they would appreciate it if someone came up to them and told them their pics were on the LPSG, and what you're saying about them.
     
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    Photos aside ..... the only stuff I regret from when I was 19 all has to do with things I wish I'd done. I think some part of you knows what you need to do at this point, but I would come down on the side of doing something ... whatever ... rather than nothing.
     
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    I'm in a sexual relationship with a cousin, who is very cruel to me-sometimes sexually abusive. Because of my dating situation, he is my only regular sex partner-and because of our family connection, we see each other a lot, which makes ending this relationship almost impossible. My close friends ask me why I allow him to do these things to me, and I don't know. I really don't-all I can do is stop, and that is very hard. He's three years younger than me, and we've been sexual since my university days-AND he's my cousin. It's very hard.

    I will never have another sexual relationship with someone in my family, never again. If I had known today what this would feel like, I would have ended this a long time ago. I think you should end these relationships with your cousins, if you can, because it's not going to get any better.
     
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    these girls in particular are not bad, they're even temptations (according to what i saw in the pix), but men, take it easy. be careful of what u'll do. Remember, what goes aroung, comes around"
     
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    your cousin is super hot

    DONT FUCK EITHER
     
  20. Principessa

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    Since Joanna is your cousins fiancee she is off limits. That's what being engaged means, no more fucking around with anyone, except the one you are to marry.

    As for Carla, what part of, "incest is wrong!" do you not comprehend? I can't believe a guy like you has to go to family reunions to find a date?!:confused: :yikes:

    That's what I thought! :rolleyes::cool:

    I'm embarassed and horrified this even has to be mentioned! Why do people notknow this?:confused::eek::mad:

    Good Point!

    Not really. You can't fuck either one. End of story, there is nothing more to discuss.
     
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