i have a problem

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    ok so obviously i'm big or i wouldn't be on this site, i'm not one to brag about my size, but suffice to say i'm long and pretty wide on top of that. My girlfriend of seven months and i want to have sex, but here are my snags: 1. shes a small girl physically, as in 4' 11.75" 2. shes only had intercourse with one other guy and not very many times even with him. that was about two years ago, too. so shes basically a virgin. I'm really scared of hurting her. I really don't want to fuck the whole thing up because we can't have sex (I have an acronym for relationships: FFPI or Fighting, Friendship, and Physical Intimacy, all equally, it just doesn't work otherwise and physical intimacy doesn't mean fucking, though thats part of it, it means being close physically in any way) I'd like advice on how to handle this. i know foreplay, her being comfortable and relaxed, and if we really need it lube will all be a factor but i also know its more than that. HELP ME!!! oh, and women who've dealt with similar situations before will be tremendously helpful

    PS: PLEASE don't be rude or vulgar, if you're going to do that then go somewhere else.
     
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    I fully understand (and respect) you desires to be gentle. We bigger men have to consciously remember to take it easy. It takes time for a woman who has not been active to get more accustomed to being penetrated.

    I suggest investing in come great water-based lube, lots of foreplay (finger, then fingers) over the course of time, perhaps some smaller toys, while working your way up to your own penis.
     
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    thanks friend, i've made that mistake in the past and really don't want to repeat it with her
     
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    You also want to remember to be VERY, VERY gentle with her the first two or three sessions with or until she's comfortable. Whatever it takes! Don't get over excited and start pounding away (unless she tells you to). It's going to be frustrating but believe me it's your best bet. It may be hard for you to cum with very slow movements or not being able to go in all the way but considering what could happen you really should make her needs a priority at the start of this sexual chapter of your relationship with her (if everything works out well than you'll be have plenty of opportunities to orgasm once she gets comfortable with you). That is unless you get lucky and she takes to your larger size very well from the start. Either way, I would strongly suggest that regardless of if you think you need it or not that you use lube and plenty of it. Even if she gets pretty wet in the beginning you never know if things will get a little dry later on. And a dry area down there can be pretty uncomfortable and sometimes painful.

    Hope this was helpful to you. Good luck!
     
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    thank you too, so much
     
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    Baby-oil is your friend!
     
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    thank you too
     
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    Don't fuck her like they do in porn.
    Just start really slowly, with lots of foreplay. The muscles in a girls pussy have to relax before penetrating. The only way to achieve this is to fully comfort her with lots of foreplay (fingers).
    When you and your gf are comfortable you can slowly start penetrating her. Just really slowly, not only because you don't want to hurt her, but also because it's your first time.
    Maybe it's also a good idea to give her the initiative. Maybe cowgirl-style will help?!

    And, not only relax her, but also relax yourself. Don't start having sex with her only thinking "What if I can't get it, what if I can't get in...".
     
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    Um, No. Lubrication used with vaginal sex should be water-based as to avoid any kind of reaction she might have.

    You can jerk off with baby oil, but you should never use that or Vaseline for sex. Never.
     
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    Just because she is tiny doesn't mean she can't handle it. KY liquid is great to keep on hand. Foreplay should be long enough and good enough that she begs for it, and use your fingers, a smaller toy, definitely something to work your way up to your size.

    My OBGYN told me that a 4'11" girl can sometimes deliver a 10 lb baby easier than a 6' tall woman. Not the same thing, but you don't know if you'll fit until you try....
     
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    She will adjust, the vag is made to stretch. Besides, how tall she is doesn't have any correllation to how big her box is... just like a 10" isn't a given on a 6'6" guy. You're getting good advice, and its all saying the same thing. Be Gentle, make it all about her, and things should be copasetic.

    The less nervous she is also, the better off you'll be... good luck man!
     
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    just put her on top, she can control the rate of penile penetration. worked for me. I had many gals go topside the very first time because of my girth.
     
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    thank you all so very very much its very appreciated, i'm glad you've all been polite too, i was afraid i'd get nasty comments about something or another and i'm sure those'll come eventually. again thank you all. oh and do keep the advice river flowing, i never turn down good advice.
     
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    Pretty much everything said in here. Also if your into oral that would help. Just make sure you're properly lubed and she sufficiently aroused.
     
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