Okay, first of all....a strip club? a hooker? Come on. Do you have troubles talking to ALL women, or say, only women you are attracted to? Because if it's all women, then maybe, maybe I can see the hooker or strip club, but if it's just the women you are attracted to, then all the other advice is great. Slow down, listen to what she says, how she answers, what she is looking at, doing with her hands. But also, LISTEN, it's huge. A guy that talks all the time, oh my. But one that really listens and adds thoughtful insights to the conversation? Nice, very, very nice. And if you listen, you might hear something that you have in common, and bingo! You can talk about something you really are interested in. That might ease your nervousness.