I have immense trouble talking to women.

[KTF40]

Okay, first of all....a strip club? a hooker? Come on. Do you have troubles talking to ALL women, or say, only women you are attracted to? Because if it's all women, then maybe, maybe I can see the hooker or strip club, but if it's just the women you are attracted to, then all the other advice is great. Slow down, listen to what she says, how she answers, what she is looking at, doing with her hands. But also, LISTEN, it's huge. A guy that talks all the time, oh my. But one that really listens and adds thoughtful insights to the conversation? Nice, very, very nice. And if you listen, you might hear something that you have in common, and bingo! You can talk about something you really are interested in. That might ease your nervousness.

I'm not sure you realize how difficult it can be for guys to talk to women, especially ones they are attracted to. I have massive anxiety and was unable to carry a conversation with any girl around my age until college. I lucked out because I found this extremely hot girl that I was forced to do school projects/homework with. Through this time I was able to develop my own social skills. Not all guys are lucky enough for that opportunity so it would make sense to pay someone in order to practice.

 

[speedjunkie]

Thanks for the advice guys.

 

[hud01]

I'm inclined not to go with the prostitute or stripper as a way of learning and practicing, as I know from personal friendships with escorts that they are real live women and very interesting to talk with. At the same time it is just a fantasy, and even if you're boring them to tears you're paying the money and they'll feign interest, even if inwardly they're hoping for you to shut-up!

True but a laugh is a laugh and a real smile is different from a fake one. Also it is good practice to learn what questions invoke what responses. When you ask them what their favorite movie is instead of how much is a lap dance.

 

[deleted356736]

True but a laugh is a laugh and a real smile is different from a fake one. Also it is good practice to learn what questions invoke what responses. When you ask them what their favorite movie is instead of how much is a lap dance.

No, if you knew escorts in a private sense like the way I knew escorts, then you'd know that you can get a real laugh and a real smile from casual conversations. But as a paying client, especially a client whose young and immature, I'm still not sure if you're going to get a genuine response and feedback. But I know as a sometimes client that you can get good sex though, in fact some of the best sex I've had, but that's another story.

 

[speedjunkie]

a year later and I now have a gf who I love. Thanks to all of you guys it wouldn't have been possible without your encouragement and advice.

 

[latinluva]

It's really not that difficult, if you walk up to her like you wanna fuck her...most of the times she's gonna get pissed. If you just talk to her like you wanna be friends, most of the time she's gonna give you some play. I think eye contact is important (don't stare) it tells you that she notices you. Never been a problem for me.

 

[shyyguy123]

a year later and I now have a gf who I love. Thanks to all of you guys it wouldn't have been possible without your encouragement and advice.

Good job man!

It's definitely hard to do. I have social anxiety, so talking to anyone (guy or girl) I don't know is fairly uncomfortable. So obviously approaching a woman I find attractive is 50 times more difficult. Gone out with a lot of women through dating sites, I just need to get better at finding dates in real life. I'm still really bad at that.

 

[D_Sam Rockswell]

a year later and I now have a gf who I love. Thanks to all of you guys it wouldn't have been possible without your encouragement and advice.

Congrats :biggrin1:

 

[B_crackoff]

a year later and I now have a gf who I love. Thanks to all of you guys it wouldn't have been possible without your encouragement and advice.

Oh bloody hell - tell us what worked - don't leave us hanging!:wink:

 

[askew]

"Hi, my name is..." Sounds silly but it works quite a lot. Ask the woman about herself, everyone has a story to tell. Instead of looking for things to say, ask questions to keep a conversation going. Sounds corny, but just be yourself.