I just don't understand the whole sex game

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  1. fak_et

    fak_et New Member

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    Well, im 19 now, haven't had any sex encounters yet and I really want to figure out what im doing wrong. I am the kinda guy who has no problems picking up chicks, dates, anything like that. I don't need any help there.

    My problem is the sex part. I don't know how to go about initiating it.

    I am at a point where Im hornier than Ive ever been and want to get in on the act.

    A little about me:
    I was brought up in a way that was abstinance only and stay away from girls. I never was able to have ladies over or anything like that and when I did hang out with them id get nagged to the point that I just said forget it, not worth it. So I went all through highschool and didn't try, porn + masterbation got me by for that. I went away to college and had quite a change. My social skills sky rocketed, got in shape, bunch of other changes, and a complete different mindset. It took a while for it all to sink in and Ive tried but Ive choked up already in a few situations that I knew couldve done the trick.

    Help me out here, I feel like I am missing out on a lot, would at least like to try it out and see what it's like. Lately Ive gotten quite intimate with females on occasions and I never really realized what that was like. So I know im in for a treat.

    So all in all, once you can get the ladies, what do you do next?
     
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    I can relate to this; I had built up this BIG deal about sex and it was somehow blocking it from happening. Once I'd been to a few prostitutes, it somehow felt like less of a big deal. Then it just seemed to happen.
    Also, don't expect perfection the first time (or for a while), like every skill, it takes practice. Best of luck!
     
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    With a boyish grin, after a great kiss, you say "You wanna mess around?"...

    Then SLOW deliberate movements, with eye contact- make it about HER- not about YOU. Once she's warmed up, then introduce her to the big fella....

    And come back and tell us all about it.

    -wolfy
     
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    I think the key is waiting until you find someone you can be comfortable with and know wont make you feel awful if things don't go exactly to plan like you cum to soon, or you cant make her orgasm. Also dont feel pressured that you have to set the mood and make all the moves, you are only 1/2 responsible for what happens so let her guide you and let you know how fast/slowly you should be moving.. Let her take the lead

    Sex itself isn't a big deal but finding the right person to do it with IS
     
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    I don't understand it either, and I probably never will...
     
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    Wise words, Lee_M.
     
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    There is nothing you can specifically do. Rather, cosmic forces conspire to get you laid.

    Usually I say 'mmm baby, you so sexy' in my sexiest, deepest voice while kissing gratuitously. Then my wandering hands...wander. Usually down her back and onto her booty. She reciprocates, and one thing leads to another.

    Of course my actions are automatic ('You ask me if I love you, its automatic') :smile:

    And so, sex and the build up to sex will become natural to you. You will 'get it' when it gets you :cool:

    A tip would be just to kiss her and be affectionate, with some smacking of her sexy ass. But nothing more. Eventually she'll throw herself at you. Such is my experience :tongue:
     
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    In my dreams...
     
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    i dont think sex just comes naturally to everyone and i relate totally to the guy aged 19 who's yet to get anywhere. i remember how frustrated i was in my teens, especially, as my big bro was banging these sexy, busty girls in his bedroom next to mine - really loudly - from the age of 16 onwards... I remember thinking, when it hit 19, that if i didnt sort my revolting virginity within months i'd go bezerk!!! thank god, i went up to uni that autumn, and was sorted out in the first week by a fantastic looking girl called belinda who coolly informed me on our 2nd meet that she specialised in 'breaking in virgins' and had spotted my virgin status immediately. the first time we tried fucking i got so drunk we got nowhere. but hats off to belinda, she wasn't the slightest bit put off and presented herself at my two two days later - and we finally got it together. once broken in, no stopping. we used to fuck everywhere. in the lavatory. on the floor. in front of people. later i turned gay - another story - but im still grateful to that resolute girl with the fantastic tits and hungry pussy. weirdly enuff, after having banged half the university, she suddenly changed totally; got very religious, married young, stiopped wearing makeup and sexy clothes and became a very active evangelical in the church....
     
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    It's totally true. I hunt down virgins... all that aside.
    Fine a lady friend who you can trust, tell her you've never had sex and ask her to help you out. Sounds totally corny.. but if you get a good girl chances are she'll help you make the magic happen.
     
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    I'm gay and never had sex with a gal but I've been very surprised by how many gals want to get it on with me after I tell them I've never done it :)

    Maybe one day I will take one of them up on the offer but I'm pretty sure that a one night experiment is a sure way to ruin a friendship ... of course if you want to have an intense month-long experiment that might be worth more than the friendship ... or is it really possible to remain friendly with ex-fuckfriends? I dunno ... sorry I'm going off topic here whatever

    Good Luck dude
     
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    In my experience, just act like girls are anyone else. Just talk normally. I'm a very jarring, off putting person due to my odd, rather blunt sense of humor. Girls often miss it, especially, since they seem to take everything I'm saying with a different air than guys, but I don't let that change the nature of the way I converse, minus flirting (another story that you don't seem to have issue with). That way you seem like a comfortable, nice guy (if hard to swallow to some in my case :tongue: it's how I judge) who isn't just someone out for sex, and even if you are, somone they might be comfortable with.

    And superficialities are everything. Looks, clothes, penis size. :lol:
     
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    I was 21 before I had intercourse with a lady. I went through all this anxiety about it from my late teens. Once I finally got laid, I relaxed about it and things seemed to happen more easily.

    I learned something back in my mid 20s that improved my sex life. If you want to be able to attract a sex partner, you have to advertise. The best way is to have an awesome body that people want to touch. You stated that you got in shape. I'm curious how fit you are and how you dress to show off your physical fitness. If you can honestly describe yourself as buffed, then it's just a matter of putting yourself out there and waiting for the right person. If you need to devote more time to working out, do it. Butch, buffed jocks always get laid.
     
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    its a flow though ... once u get the girl is about sex.. but I feel like u are scared some how. If is true u r not scared of talking to girls and getting them .. whats happening?
     
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    Fak, dude I dont know if its the case with you, but a lot of times I find guys that have trouble with this are afraid of being embarresed-they think they have to come off all Billy Dee Williams. Billy Dee Williams is cool on the date, but even the coolest guy has to suck it up and say something stupid, make a silly move, produce a chuckle from him and her sometimes. I think movies make us think we have to be smooth operators, but often shes waiting for you to make the first dumb and obvious move so she can feel comfortable and let loose too.
     
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    Shape was my first thing. Ive put on 30 lbs of lean mass the past year and continuing more. Me at 6'2 210 lbs:
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    I been dressing up to show it lately. Ladies definitely notice.

    I have no problem approaching random girls in any setting. I can usually get a number from anyone. I can go on dates. That isn't my problem. It seems like stuff isn't goin anywhere after that. The ladies usually want to keep hangin out and stuff.

    I just don't feel like I get anywhere after that. That is the problem.

    Ive done some research and learned a lot of stuff about escalating stuff, touching (never used to do this and now i do it naturally with good results), etc.

    I feel like I am getting closer and closer lately. Ive had a couple chances and i choked... Its comin very soon.
     
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    Tell her you've never had sex. That is a BIG no-no. I'm sure you mean well, but guys don't do that.
     
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    Brock, this was a really honest comment and it is so true.
     
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    You're admitting to choking. That may be the reason. Maybe the woman senses that you have not done this before. Act as if you're on a job interview. You don't want the prospective employer to think that you're NOT capable of getting the job done.

    In a quote from "DreamGirls," "Fake it 'til you make it!" Good Luck buddy!
     
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    Fak et:

    Thanks for the photo of you in the black gym shorts so I can see what you are working with. You are not lacking in anyway in the looks department. You're smoking hot! You've got a great body - a 10 out of 10.

    Dude, you so remind me of how I felt at 19. All my friends used to brag about getting laid, but I could never add to their conversations. Some day you're going to look back and laugh at this, but let's see what we can do to help you out. Do you ever go to clubs or to parties? Even if you don't drink much, there are girls who do. Not that I'm advocating getting drunk, but when a juiced, horny girl sees you, she'll think "Bingo!" When I was 19, I didn't care if my first experience was romantic or memorable. I just wanted to find a hottie and hook up. Having a few drinks will loosen you up, too, and you'll be more relaxed. It will be easier to get touchy feely without feeling awkward. Nature kicks in and you'll hit a grand slam home run.

    My first conquest was at 21 with my friend's neighbor, a divorcee who had a 1 year old child. We ended up dating for 5 months. After we were together several times, I told her that she was my first. I asked her if she knew and she said no. By the following summer, I wanted to sample more of what was out there and moved on.
     
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