How to stimulate the clitoris
Every person is different, and has different sexual erogenous zones, desires, and turn ons. We cannot stress this enough! There is no “one best way” to stimulate the clitoris — you’ll need to do
some experimenting.
That being said, here are some tips to help you and your partner get off.
1. Set the mood. Be in a place in which you feel comfortable.
If you are with a partner, setting the mood could involve kissing, foreplay, and exploring each other’s bodies.
If you are flying solo, feel free to get comfortable with any other erogenous zones of your body (like your nipples). Don’t forget your mind — if you want and aren’t feeling particularly turned on by your imagination, you can also get your head in the game with some porn or sexy literature.
2. Introduce yourself to the area close to the clitoris.
Using whatever you like: your fingers, your partners finger’s or mouth/tongue, or another (clean) object like a sex toy. You can also try using a shower head, vibrator, or even the friction of your underwear against something, like a pillow. Once you feel comfortable with the area around the clitoris and are ready, it’s time to directly stimulate the clitoris.
3. Starting gently and softly, touch or stroke the clitoris.
The clitoris is not just a magic button, so simply pressing it (for most people) won’t instantly produce an orgasm. Don’t pretend to be a DJ either by forcefully scratching it back and forth—nobody likes that.
4. Take your time.
It’s a small area, and may seem daunting at first.
“How can I be creative enough to stimulate such a tiny area of skin?” Listen to your body, or your partner, and
get feedback on what feels good.
You could try gentle back and forth motions, small circular motions, or even a light tap.
Engage the
clitoral hood too—remember, it also has nerve endings and the body of the body of the clitoris curves back behind it, before becoming buried inside your pelvis. Check in with yourself or your partner—does this feel good?
5. You can start experimenting with pressure, speed, body parts (like tongues if you are with a partner), toys, or vibration.
When most people are turned on, they begin to produce
arousal fluid, which can help make
stimulating the clitoris and vagina more comfortable.
6. Consider adding some personal lubricant to the mix.
We're big fans of lube.
7. You can also try stimulating the clitoris from the inside using a penis, sex-toy, or fingers.
Not everyone will be able to be stimulated or even reach an orgasm the first time, or every time, they have sex or
masturbate—and that’s okay.
The only real important thing is that you enjoy yourself. If you aren’t having fun, don’t do it.