I just want revenge. Is that so wrong?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by good_guy, Jul 6, 2011.

  1. good_guy

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    ever felt like you want to revange ur gf/bf? ever done it?

    share your stories
     
  2. dolfette

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    everyone feels like it sometimes, but it's a lamearse thing to do.
    you prove that they have the power to control you by making you into the kind of shithead who goes for petty revenge.

    sod that shit!
    i'll walk away with my head held high.
    they're not worth my time and effort.
     
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    Revenge can open the wrong door.its best to forgive and forget.
     
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    Well put, dolfette!
     
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    first question sure second question no

    stories, none, revenge is a huge waste of time and energy and as pointed out, can lead to some nasty things better left alone.
     
  6. dolfette

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    by your choice of username, i would guess that you'd want to be better than this. that you take some pride in not acting like a vindictive fool.
     
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    The best revenge is to be happy. And ice cream.
     
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    ^^This.

    Thriving, getting on with life and finding someone (if that's what you want) who treats you well.

    Nothing burns like a lover who is happy without you.
     
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    I have actually got this very problem right now, to the point I have been stalked by the ex on these very forums.

    However, my revenge, is to just totally and utterly blank the ex, give her absolutely no acknowledgement at all, and just watch her get more angry/ desperate, at not being able to get any kind of reaction / response from me at all.

    Also mix in with what Pendlum has just said, it's a perfect was to deal with issues like this.

    That is how I deal with the revenge situation.

    Yes, due to my ex, I have great difficulty trusting women right now, but given time and courage (and maybe the right partner), I see I will one day overcome this.
     
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    Yet you wrote this, which she presumably will read? OK. Carry on. :biggrin1:
     
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    Ghost of Mississippi quote "When you hate, the only one that suffers is you because most of the people you hate don't know it and the rest don't care." The same kind of goes for revenge. Its never as sweet as it sounds. If they really deserve it, then just cut them off and let them be dead to you.
     
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    We all have had this feeling and human nature attempts to take over. If you follow the path of revenge I'm afraid you will come to the end of the path and there will be a sign that says "Well was it worth it?".

    Leave it, drop it and eat some gummy bears.
     
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    Gone past the point of caring now :wink:
     
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    The only time I went thought this I was so over loaded on emotion and hormone I didn't know what I was doing. hate isn't the right word, nor is black -- just blind reacting with no thought. It was like I was watching my own body, not having control with what I was doing - and not caring what I was doing.

    It was an ugly moment in my life.

    If I ever relived that year in my life again I would like to thing things would play out differently -- I don't see how they could. I truly lost control of things. The only way it could be different is if I could avoid that moment when I lost it; for the year.
     
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    if you don't mind ... what did the person do to you & what did you do back?????

    everyone has thought about revenge, and it might sound cliche but showing that it doesn't bother you, moving on with life and succeeding & being happier w/o them really is a powerful thing ... plus you don't have to deal with potential legal issues
     
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    Care no more....here's a gummy bear
     
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    Interesting, I ended a 10-yr relationship when it was discovered my
    partner was not honest in our relationship. I 'walked' out scared with
    shaking legs and a settlement contract in my hands - have not looked
    back until 5-yrs later served legal papers claiming stalking/vandelizing person property. Had
    very, very limited social contact, yet I had to defend myself in court.
    Legal matter was resolved to my benefit. Talking with friends and
    mutual acquaintances, I understand he and his partner are having
    problems...rumor has it that his partner has/had suspicions of infidelity.
    If there is any revenge is 'what goes around comes around' -- I did
    or will do nothing except having a very wide smile for the last 5plus
    years for being free and happy. If asked, I continue to say and believe
    he is one of the best, most knowledgeable realtor in PS but do not ask
    me about his personal integrity.
     
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    OP, what kind of revenge are you considering? If you are in control of something that this person wants or needs, I say yeah, go ahead and deny it to that person. I wouldn't advise revenge that could leave your hands dirty either in the legal or social context.

    A couple of people I have dealt with and had to move on from have tried to reconnect with me and I just can't be bothered. Some may call that revenge. But still, if you've moved on, you've moved on. Just because someone is in your face trying to rekindle something does not mean that I have an obligation to be a yes person to this person.

    Personally, I am not against revenge in principle. But I would advise that you ensure that you don't get your hands dirty, either socially, legally, financially, or any other way.

    Princess Di was known for being vengeful. And she was up to a certain point good at it. Just when Charles was airing a documentary about himself on TV, she stole the headlines the next day by going to an opening. Her personal activities were always timed to knock the other royals off the front pages of the London newspapers.

    the year that the Queen and her consort were having local parties with others who were celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary, Di went sailing with Fayed and his son Dodi and knocked that whole PR effort of the Queen off the front pages of the newspapers.

    But as we know, her vengeful behavior caught up with her.......don't let it happen to you.
     
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    Revenge restrained
    is a victory gained.
     
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    Is it dressed in tight leathers and chains, with a riding crop in it's hand? :wink:
     
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