I know a straight guy when I see one at least I thought I did

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by BrownboyNY, Aug 18, 2009.

  1. BrownboyNY

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    okay I know theres a line up of straight guys ready to argue, well don't worry im not going to preach on about how every straight guy is secretly gay because i don beleive that. I'm just looking for feedback on my own personaly experience


    So here it is I'm in a musical with this guy, we both noticed each other during the audtions but we didnt speak untill the 2nd week of rehersal. he asks me if im gay and I say im not sure so naturally he tells me about a time in his life when he was also unsure and then informs me that he is 100% straight. He tells me that somtimes he kisses guys for fun. After hear that i already had in my head that we were going to casually hook up sometime during our time together the same way it happens with every other "straight" guy I've her hooked up with, but it didn't happen. So I think to my self mabey he actually is straight. A few weeks later he starts asking to see my cock then touching me inappropriatly ( oh jokingly of course. yea right) then I find out he has a girlfriend 0f 3 years what the hell im horny and confussed can i get a diagnosis on this guy is he in denial

    sorry about the gramar
     
  2. Principessa

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    Total closet case. Straight men do not kiss or feel up other men. :cool:
    Unless you just like drama, I'd avoid him like the plague.
     
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    I wish I could
    I'm normally the type to cut people off but its so hard with him hes so hot and hes a cool guy to talk to
     
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    Then why did you ask for feedback? :irked: What you really want is validation that it's okay to do this possibly bi, but more likely closet queen.:rolleyes:
     
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    no no i apreciate the feedback and i know your probly right its just a little hard for me but thanks
     
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    I think your musical could become a drama and might end up a tragedy. If everyone could be honest to themselves the world would be a better place! My advice is to leave well alone and find someone without their own baggage to settle your "unsure" feelings. Let your brain rule your cock this time.
     
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    It doesn't matter if he is straight, gay, bi, or anything else. He has a girlfriend.

    So unless you wanna be a home-wrecker.. Leave him alone. The only thing in this musical that either of you should be 'hitting' are the high notes.
     
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    I disagree with everyone else. If you like him, that's enough. You don't have to fuck. Let it be whatever it is going to be. You are a free man.

    I don't believe all that shit about possession. He's got a girlfriend now and he'll prolly have a different one when you see him next year.
     
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    I wouldn't call him a home-wrecker at this point, if he chose to get involved with this guy sexually/romantically. Unless there are kids in the picture, I operate under the assumption that anyone is fair game. Where is the contract saying this guy has to be exclusive just because he has a girlfriend? Sometimes you meet the right person after being with someone else...I say people should be able to adapt.

    As far as the OP's problem goes, I wouldn't get involved with anyone I'm working with unless I knew they were LTR material (we're talking at least years) and unless I could make sure I wasn't just lusting after the person. Lust wears off, it's subject to boredom; love, as far as I know, isn't. Make sure he's worth the drama that WILL follow, and be prepared for conflict this guy would go through should he develop the same feelings for you.

    I say be happy with your friendship now, and see how the relationship goes after the musical. Good luck with it all :tongue:
     
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    QFT!! Well stated. :cool:

    Maybe I'm missing something, but as a gay man in NY theater I would think you would have plenty of options and not need to chase after men with girlfriends.:confused:
     
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    the guy is in denial and has the GF to cover up for him. He would probably mess around with you, but will stay with the GF. I would stay away from him. Bad news and plenty of drama!
     
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    Unfortunately, love is sometimes a casualty of boredom too.
     
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    I say that if you are falling for him, romantically speaking, then don't, because he has his own issues to deal with before he could ever be a decent boyfriend for you.

    But if you're not romantically interested and just want to jump his bones, then what the hell, go for it. If he's going to cheat on his girlfriend with you, then he's going to cheat on his girlfriend with someone whether you're there or not, so you may as well have the pleasure of a hot fuck for a few moments.
     
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    He is not straight. Straight guys do not grope you or ask to see your cock. Do with that information what you will.
     
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    Not wanting to debate what straight guys supposedly do or don't do, I would venture that your friend is straight in life orientation. He might fool around with guys (simply because he likes it and will harbour no more than physical feelings toward them), but he would only love women. On this I totally agree with lvsxy808's point of view.
     
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    fuck him and forget him..............
     
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    He's just looking for you to admit you're gay so he has someone to talk to.

    The best friends are the one's you never want to fuck.
     
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    Personally, it just sounds like wants to be as open with sexuality as he possibly can. He's not 100% straight, but he feels the need to justify himself because he's surrounded by other men in the Theatre world, who aren't terribly straight.
     
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    I mean dont get me wrong im not head over heals for this guy he's just really hot, cool to talk to and..... the first "straight" guy who has flirted with me but not made a move I know he has a girlfriend and i don't want to wreck that. I'll continue to be his friend but would it be terrible if he made a move and i didnt reject it knowing he has a girl. Also am I stupid for thinking/hoping that he will leave her for me
     
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    Yeah. Why do people always want to pair off and start talking about possession? You can make friends with her too. Friendship and love are infinite quantities. The more people you love, the more love you. I think the saying is "a candle loses nothing by lighting another."
     
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