Yeah, and society continuously perpetuates the myth that without a 10 inch dong, 20 hour marathon sex and a screaming orgasm every 15 minutes, we've failed as men.
i understand your exageration is for effect. but i think porn does that not society. men who don't watch porn are much less obsessed about the size of their cocks
pussy tightness isn't realistically something that would come up among women friends b/c it is a bit tabboo to talk about that kind of thing even w. women. It's like wanting to discuss the frequency of you yeast infections or period. We might be liberay and vocal here but it still prevals that some things just can't be discussed even if you talk topically about sex. A lot of subjects are still way off limts even among young women and pussy tightness i dare say is one of 'em.
I mean women make jokes about it and jabs at other women but i've never heard a frank and honest discussion about this topic EVER - not even among women who've had children and those who haven't (to assuage the baseless fear of the childless woman that her pussy will be stretched after childbirth).
i think if a woman has a bad experience and low self esteme she may question her sexual prowess just like a man may, only she tends to question things like
'doe he love me?'
'do i turn him on enough?'
'do i do it often enough/good enough'
'am i pretty enough'
'are my boobs big enough for his liking'
she won't generally think .... 'am i shit in bed cause my pussy isn't tight'. That's literally the last thing on our minds because like you said we think fundementally differntly about our bodies than men do.