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When is it time to say those fateful words? Womangs be saying it very easy in my opinion. When do you first says it girlies?
I can say with certainty that I've never said those particular words.
BTW, womangs?
i say it when i feel it and have no problem saying it. i express how i feel when i feel it. they usually go running the other way, but i'd rather express my feelings and get rejected/ignored the rest of my life than to wonder what could've been. :wink:
When you feel... "it"? Is love a feeling to just be had one day..?
"Much like the feeling of disgust I get when I see someone toss a few cookies... I felt an upchuck of love one day when I looked into my boyfriends eyes."
Is this really how it works for you?
Due to me fear of rejection, I generally wait into the other person has said it first. I fall easily though. I hate it. :frown:
lol. take it however you want. be disgusted with it. clearly you did not get what i meant. :wink:
Well, you should make sure you both know what "love" you are referring to when you both say it to each other and you mean it. What does it mean to you to "love" someone? What does love mean to the one you love?
Make sure you know so that you will know. And when you say it the other will know...and will decide for herself to say that she feels the same way.
It isn't easy to say "I love you". I never say that to anyone unless I mean it. So first make sure you both agree on what you mean by LOVE. And if you both agree about that...you both decide that you are in it...or not.
First, I agree with Invisi. :yup:
There are different forms of love and it is best to be clear about how you feel and be able to express/explain it beyond "I love you" before saying it to anyone.
I am very open about my interest in someone, or love for them, and have absolutely no problem being the first person to express how dear they are to me in my life and how it would affect our relationship.
Generally, I say it when I feel it, but do wait for an appropriate time--like, not after an argument or when inebriated. :smile:
Not in my experience, there is definitely gradations in the feeling of love.There are only three types of love: Real love, friendship love (which is a subcategory of real love), and puppy love (fake ass childish love) to me. Real love is broken into two parts: friendship love, then family love (which includes relationship love IMO).
So, it's not a very complicated defintion structure IMO.
Aw, you know I love you right? If not then I've failed as a friend :hug:I said it first to Stacy which really took her by surprise, she even started to cry because she was scared what would happen between us. I was scared too. I've said it in the past under circumstances that were totally wrong and I was naive to the whole idea of love. Needless to say those past situations took disasterous turns with them getting scared and running off. So when I said it to Stace I had already struck out a few times and very much nervous. It felt so right, I knew deep down it was right, but at the same time confusing. She couldn't say it back right away. It wasn't until the day I left that she said she was falling in love with me. The rest is history. :smile:
I know it's a scary thing to say, because once you do, you not only have your heart in it, but someone else's as well. The last thing you want to do is hurt someone. Done be afraid to express your feelings though, you might pass up something wonderful and you'll always be haunted by that "what if".
Not in my experience, there is definitely gradations in the feeling of love.
One person I was insanely, "I will fucking die without you in my life" in love, where it was like a friggin' addiction. Others, I was definitely in love, but it wasn't on that level. Maybe one other was close, but again, not the same,
Actually, you haven't as there was no confusionAddiction isn't love. There ya go, solved your little confusion there.