Luka,
Thanks for posting this. I hope it makes you feel better. My uncle was abused by a catholic priest when he was a little kid, and it has totally made his life miserable. It has also affected our whole family because many are catholic (but most in name only). I think the catholic church is a pretty disgusting organization for a lot of reasons not the least of which is how they condemn gay people.
It's unfortunate that something like that had to happen to your family member Jon, and to yourself, Luka, but I think it reckless and selfish to berate an organisation representative of billions of people based on the actions of a minute minority of individuals.
I am a practising catholic, and I have never been subject to such behaviour. That being said, my intention is not to belittle or invalidate anyone's situation, nor is it to paint a rosy picture.
I have met many many good, supportive and humble people (some of which just happen to be catholic), and those are the people whom I feel the need to speak out for.
It is so unfortunate that your main experiences of/interactions with the catholic church have been in such a negative light, but adding on what someone else mentioned earlier in the thread, forgiveness and in fact, does not come from the human forms which have claimed it.
We are all required to embrace, and if not possible, tolerate each other's differences, in a way that allows us to live in a mutually beneficial society, whether you're black, religious, atheist, agnostic, gay, or heaven forbid, catholic.
So my advice is to look at the people and not the organisation, or even the country promoting the injustice.
Once again, I do apologise on behalf of those who had no hand in your circumstance, those who want you to live freely and justly.