I need advice about a guy from some guys!

[sluttygirl]

So I'm super virginal...I'm slutty but I've never been in a relationship. I've never been kissed and there's a guy I'm pretty cool with in my English class in college.

When I first met him I was a total bitch to him and the next time I talked to him after that we got along well. Long story short we exchanged numbers and we text, but I feel like I'm boring him by trying to get him to like me. I'm sure he's attracted to me in some way because if he wasn't he wouldn't text me back or have exchanged numbers with me right? Also he walks me to my car, our class is a night class so that's pretty sweet and he doesn't have to be so nice, after all, he doesn't owe me anything. He always hugs me too, which is a sign of affection which, I really hope no one does if they are not interested in someone.

I want to kiss him, I try to make it obvious that I want him but he's just too blase. Two weeks ago I told him that I liked him and his response was "ok." What the fuck does that mean? Last week he was pretty normal, like I hadn't said anything to him. I don't know how to feel, is he just a nice guy that wants to avoid rejecting me, or what? I'm getting pretty desperate, I wanted to offer him a blow job. gah. I need as much advice as I can get.

Thank you,

SLUTTY

 

[EnTaro]

If he's inexperienced - and it sounds like he is - chances are he's keen on you but is trying too hard to "play it cool." I know my more inexperienced friends tend to build these things up in their head, and keep waiting for moments that never come to act as a way in. He'll be especially confused and unsure if you were a bitch to begin with, and if you're flirty he'll be especially off balance. His every move is calculated and the risk of losing the opportunity to be with you is paralysing him in to inaction.

If you really like this guy, you might have to do some of the work. Squeeze his leg during class. Bat your eyelids. Tell him about this great porn you watched on the weekend, whatever. Best of all, just ask him out. I've had that happen a few times and it's very flattering.

Personally though, if I were you, I'd be seeking out a guy with a bit more confidence. This guy may have confidence issues through early dating, kissing, first base, and sex. It could be an unpleasant exercise for you. If you're looking to lose your virginity there are more experienced, confident guys who would be happy to accommodate you.

 

[Fanuc]

Just make the first move ... KISS HIM!!! ... Woman use to wait for me to do it but, I was shy ... but would talk to any woman all night ... Just Kiss Him!!!!

 

[the_reverend]

hmm...if his response was just "okay," he's either not into you or he's trying to play it cool. i'd say do the same. stay friendly, even slightly flirty, but ease off the throttle a bit and make him chase you a bit. if he doesn't, then it's time to move on to someone who'll appreciate your advances. good luck!

 

[Wish-4-8]

He is into you. No guy would waste that much time if he wasnt.

My guess is he is a little gun shy trying to be the perfect gentlemen. This is why nice guys finish last. Haste makes waste.

Sooo, you are going to have help this along. You make the move. Either 3 things will happen:
1. He will kiss you back and that was all the encourgement he needed.
2. He really is just a nice guy not into you in that way.
After the awkward moment, you could get on with your life. Trust me. The real regrets in life are sometimes not doing doing the things you wish you had.
3. (or 2b) He is gay. At least that is how I felt my gut the first time I read this.

So go for it. At least you will know. You will laugh about it later.

And trust me. If some of the women early on in my life hadnt nudge first, I would not of had the beautiful experiances I had with them. Now, I am hella more confident. But I am older too.

 

[divisiblebyzero]

i don't get this part.."So I'm super virginal...I'm slutty"

 

[ferfed]

yeah explain that part ^