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Okay. There is a guy that I like and he comes to job for our services(non-sexual)lol. Its been like 2 years since he has been coming in and I don't know I feel like there is something between us. It just seems faint at times and then awkward because I feel like he wants to say something but doesn't.

Long story medium length i'm not really employed at my job because i'm relocating but I called him and offered to give him my info we because we do have a casual relationship as men via xbox360. He was really happy I called and wanted me to send him my info. I texted my info and we texted for a couple of hours on random stuff.

I then said that i was going to go to the gym and see batman and he said that day wasn't going to be good for him. The thing is i did not invite him. He sorta invited himself, which left me scratching my head and blushing lol. So we went to the movies this week and he bought the tickets so i bought the soda and popcorn. At moments he would lean over to say something and we would touch arms and we would stay that way for like a minute. After the movie we waited for each other's train and while we did he asked me how I lost weight and what nationality I am but nothing really invasive.

I am EXTREMELY OBLIVIOUS to when someone is coming on to me. Off hand you can't tell that i'm gay and i can't really peg him either. However I feel like as though we dancing around the obvious. I can't help to think he probably has a tortured past of hookups and WTF's that he probably doesn't want to ruin a decent friendship at best.

WHAT THE FUCK DO I DO?????????? LOL PLease HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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Hey - nice story - take a chance and let him know you enjoyed the movies, ask him if he'd like to meet up for a drink and some food some time. What do you have to lose? If you're mutually interested in each other it will work out, and if not, then you'll not have to keep torturing yourself with "what if....?". Good luck! I hope you can enjoy his company for whatever he's able to offer.
 

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Always be honest. It is the best policy. Just share your feelings to see what he will say. You have nothing to loose. And, best of luck.
Regards, Rubber Harley
 
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Honesty is great. I'm closeted about my curiosities. I can understand the personalities here and the interactions between them. If there are no signals, there is a chance that he is just straight. Arms grazing at a theater doesnt mean much. Most likely scenario is that he's curious like i am but unsure how to explore further without the risk of being "outted". it's definitely tricky. Good luck and keep us posted.
 

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Just be cool, relax, and keep texting. There was this one guy I was interested in a few years back. We exchanged contacts and neither of us really knew what our orientation was, but we kept texting and chatting, pretty much feeling each other out. There was some flirting, but it definitely felt like we were playing our cards and not too close in case we were wrong about each other. It didn't take until a few weeks later for us to finally figure what was going on and we made it clear that we were interested in each other.

Not saying this is the same thing, but you just never know. Just play it cool, don't stress too much bout it, and just see where it goes, how he reacts around you, his answers to certain questions, the things he asks you, the eye contact and body language, etc.
 
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Lol. Seriously? That's pretty closed-minded. My best friend and I grew up together since we were born practically. We hang out, movies, drinks, dinners, talk about our issues, women, etc. We pay for each other sometimes without even asking "who paid last time?". It's not an issue and there are no hidden agendas.

To think that if a guy buys a ticket to a movie means he has a motive is just ridiculous.
 
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On the other hand, if a guy was to say "Buy your own movie ticket. I ain't gay" would make him more suspicious because that's on the homophobic side of things. And we all know if someone is THAT sensitive to such a minor issue...

...help me find the words here. You know what I mean.
 

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On the other hand, if a guy was to say "Buy your own movie ticket. I ain't gay" would make him more suspicious because that's on the homophobic side of things. And we all know if someone is THAT sensitive to such a minor issue...

...help me find the words here. You know what I mean.

Agreed. Someone who puts that much emphasis on anti-homosexual statements for the mundane things like buying a movie ticket, obviously has some security issues. Hell my best friend (straight) and I use to go out almost weekly just to get out of the house and have some fun. It never crossed our minds that there could be attraction there. *shivers* bleh dont even wanna think about that.

I keep telling everyone this. Think of your interaction as no different with anyone else, regardless of how you feel about them romantically. Would you specify to your best friend that they need to buy their own ticket cause your not gay if you were both straight? Nope. Would you do that if you were both gay? Nope. So IF anyone were to do that, it'd be more of a cue that there's something there that they're hiding, than if they just bought you a ticket.

On the topic of the OP: To me it sounds like there's at least a friendship in the making. Just make sure you let him understand what you are aiming for. That way if he is not, then you aren't getting your feelings smashed after having built up the hopes that he was looking for something.
 

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Keep texting, keep making plans, just let it evolve into whatever it is meant to be. Don't try to steer it in any direction. I think it would be very exciting just to see what unfolds. Good luck.