I'm a woman in my thirties, and have had a range of different sized partners, but the guy I am dating now is EXTREMELY large. I have an 8 inch dildo and he's well over an inch longer and certainly wider. I almost threw it AWAY because it was so large that I never used it. I took it out and compared (because he let me). I thought we might have to call things off after our first sexual experience because I literally felt like a female Chihuahua trying to mount a Saint Bernard. I'm pretty small to begin with... 4'11 and 110 lbs... He weighs twice what I do, and is 6'2, so our bodies are already quite different. We found a sexual position that works for us, him on top with my legs wrapped around his lower back...but I feel like he is not getting what he deserves... He knows he has to be careful with me... as I can't quite accommodate his size, and I have actually injured myself, getting a little too carried away. I want him to be able to throw a little more caution to the wind, you know? We both lead busy lives and travel a lot, so my experiences with him are about once a month. I am trying to 'gear up' for the next one, so that I might be better prepared for our rendezvous. My questions are: 1. Does it get easier? Does regular sex with the same partner mean that eventually I can take more of him inside me? Will 'practicing' with a dildo or (possibly a clone of his penis :wink: ) help me at all? I actually bought one of those kits, and then realized I had to send in for more 'mixing powder' (for the mold and the dildo), because they don't give you enough in the standard kit. Has anyone tried this with their partner and seen a benefit? 2. Can ANYONE... PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give me some pointers on how to perform oral sex on a large penis? The one time I have tried, I BARELY fit the HEAD of it in my mouth... and was having problem with teeth being in the way when I closed my mouth over it. IT WAS SO EMBARRASSING. Smaller guys I was able to do fine with; I even enjoyed deep throating, or using my hand on the base when I couldn't quite get all of it it, but my mouth is too narrow for him, and I have NO IDEA how to give head without being able to put the head of it in my mouth, let alone put at least part of the shaft in my mouth. 3. He doesn't use lube!!!!! I thought all men liked lube. I NOW know that this isn't the case. I made the mistake of trying to give him a hand job and used my favorite lube, and it was too slippery for him. He likes a firm grip, he says. OK... how do you masturbate without lube? I'm asking, not making fun... I'm a woman, I have no penis, I don't know how this works... LOL. Won't I HURT him without lube? Is it like pulling the skin back and forth instead of sliding over it? ANY advice you can give me... would be SO helpful. I am desperate. I really like this guy. We've talked for about 8 months everyday, and sex is something I have never had to really worry about before, but suddenly, I am completely HORRIFIED that I will not be able to satisfy this man. Also, any past threads you can direct me to would be fantastic. Thanks!!!