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Hello. So i live in a really small city and my neighbor is my best friend lol. He lives right next door and we been friends for like 4 years now. Last week we went out to a pub for few drinks and he came out to me that he is bi. (I have had a crush on him for a while) He divorced his wife like a year ago and i kind of had a feeling he is bi. He makes lot of jokes about how he wished he dated me because women fuck with his mind and he rather dates a guy lmao. We have scheduled to go out next week, what should i do? I really like him…
 
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I think the smart thing to do is to figure out what you want out of it. Since he's your best friend, you obviously know him pretty well. The thing is, you don't know anything about this side of him. It's a little tricky to the point where you need to be careful and really communicate to him.

What exactly is he looking for? If you have feelings for him and he's looking to just mess around with nothing serious in mind then I would suggest for you to not go for it. If he needs to experiment and have his fun with guys then let him free.

Just be honest and tell him that you would love to go on a date with him sometime but only if he's looking to see if it would go anywhere. You shouldn't fool around if you have feelings for him in case it's truly one sided. Who knows, maybe the date doesn't go well and you guys just aren't compatible, at least you tried. That doesn't mean you aren't sexually attracted to each other. You can then proceed to a fwb knowing a relationship wasn't going to work. This way you would be spared from a full on heartache.

There is also a chance you guys do work out and end up together in a relationship. You never know until you try. You just have to take it slow and be smart about it because your friendship is what is important and should be put first.

If I were you and my best friend told me he was bi and wanted to go on a date, I totally would only after opening up to him about my concerns. I ain't no side bitch lol. You shouldn't be either. Just remember to keep your emotions in check if things don't go your way. He's still your best friend and you still want the best for him.
 

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I think the smart thing to do is to figure out what you want out of it. Since he's your best friend, you obviously know him pretty well. The thing is, you don't know anything about this side of him. It's a little tricky to the point where you need to be careful and really communicate to him.

What exactly is he looking for? If you have feelings for him and he's looking to just mess around with nothing serious in mind then I would suggest for you to not go for it. If he needs to experiment and have his fun with guys then let him free.

Just be honest and tell him that you would love to go on a date with him sometime but only if he's looking to see if it would go anywhere. You shouldn't fool around if you have feelings for him in case it's truly one sided. Who knows, maybe the date doesn't go well and you guys just aren't compatible, at least you tried. That doesn't mean you aren't sexually attracted to each other. You can then proceed to a fwb knowing a relationship wasn't going to work. This way you would be spared from a full on heartache.

There is also a chance you guys do work out and end up together in a relationship. You never know until you try. You just have to take it slow and be smart about it because your friendship is what is important and should be put first.

If I were you and my best friend told me he was bi and wanted to go on a date, I totally would only after opening up to him about my concerns. I ain't no side bitch lol. You shouldn't be either. Just remember to keep your emotions in check if things don't go your way. He's still your best friend and you still want the best for him.
i second this, just be honest with him but also keep a level head and be careful about what you say
 
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I think the smart thing to do is to figure out what you want out of it. Since he's your best friend, you obviously know him pretty well. The thing is, you don't know anything about this side of him. It's a little tricky to the point where you need to be careful and really communicate to him.

What exactly is he looking for? If you have feelings for him and he's looking to just mess around with nothing serious in mind then I would suggest for you to not go for it. If he needs to experiment and have his fun with guys then let him free.

Just be honest and tell him that you would love to go on a date with him sometime but only if he's looking to see if it would go anywhere. You shouldn't fool around if you have feelings for him in case it's truly one sided. Who knows, maybe the date doesn't go well and you guys just aren't compatible, at least you tried. That doesn't mean you aren't sexually attracted to each other. You can then proceed to a fwb knowing a relationship wasn't going to work. This way you would be spared from a full on heartache.

There is also a chance you guys do work out and end up together in a relationship. You never know until you try. You just have to take it slow and be smart about it because your friendship is what is important and should be put first.

If I were you and my best friend told me he was bi and wanted to go on a date, I totally would only after opening up to him about my concerns. I ain't no side bitch lol. You shouldn't be either. Just remember to keep your emotions in check if things don't go your way. He's still your best friend and you still want the best for him.
You are right! Thank you so much for this
 
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I think the smart thing to do is to figure out what you want out of it. Since he's your best friend, you obviously know him pretty well. The thing is, you don't know anything about this side of him. It's a little tricky to the point where you need to be careful and really communicate to him.

What exactly is he looking for? If you have feelings for him and he's looking to just mess around with nothing serious in mind then I would suggest for you to not go for it. If he needs to experiment and have his fun with guys then let him free.

Just be honest and tell him that you would love to go on a date with him sometime but only if he's looking to see if it would go anywhere. You shouldn't fool around if you have feelings for him in case it's truly one sided. Who knows, maybe the date doesn't go well and you guys just aren't compatible, at least you tried. That doesn't mean you aren't sexually attracted to each other. You can then proceed to a fwb knowing a relationship wasn't going to work. This way you would be spared from a full on heartache.

There is also a chance you guys do work out and end up together in a relationship. You never know until you try. You just have to take it slow and be smart about it because your friendship is what is important and should be put first.

If I were you and my best friend told me he was bi and wanted to go on a date, I totally would only after opening up to him about my concerns. I ain't no side bitch lol. You shouldn't be either. Just remember to keep your emotions in check if things don't go your way. He's still your best friend and you still want the best for him.
Ill update you❤️
 

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I agree with the others above. You have to approach this very carefully as you mention this is a small town and he is your good friend of 4 years. You do not want to destroy this friendship in case you find out you two are not compatible to be in a relationship as you have described above. I think you have to decide on the friendship and the reality that you are close neighbors. You did not mention what your life is like other than interacting with him nor what type of life he leads when not interacting with you.
 

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Hello. So i live in a really small city and my neighbor is my best friend lol. He lives right next door and we been friends for like 4 years now. Last week we went out to a pub for few drinks and he came out to me that he is bi. (I have had a crush on him for a while) He divorced his wife like a year ago and i kind of had a feeling he is bi. He makes lot of jokes about how he wished he dated me because women fuck with his mind and he rather dates a guy lmao. We have scheduled to go out next week, what should i do? I really like him…
UPDATE!

He was at my place last night to watch some football, to be honest I completely forgot about the idea of me telling how i feel about him before meeting him. Basically we drank few beers, watched few games and i told him that he is a really great friend and that I don’t want to ruin anything but that i want him to know that i like him. (Right after that i almost got a heart attack because his face expression was like he had seen his dead relative walk in or something lmao) He laughed and said he has had a crush on me too but at the moment he still needs some time which I completely understood. Everything ended on a good note though;) I feel a lot better that he knows how i feel and that it doesn’t affect our relationship. This week we still going out to a bar so everything is good!