Look, I know whats going on between smitty and her mom, I've been with them while their relationship has been getting worse and worse.
No matter what I say no one will ever believe me that this isnt an exaggeration.
Though you are partially right. Her mother does think smitty is out of control, while in reality she isnt.
After all I've told you about her mother: their living conditions, the way her daughters were raised her previous employment and unemployment its hard to believe that she would actually be a good, responsible mother.
For christ's sake they lived in a shed in someones back yard for something like 5 years. It was literally a shed. maybe 7x8 feet. No matter who you are, thats not good parenting. Living in a shed with two children isnt responsible. And the fact that she took her children from a comfortable home with their grandmother to live in a shed isnt something to be smiled upon.
Her mother has said this infront of me several times...
Her children are her property, she literally owns them and can make them do anything she wants, they are their for her service and nothing else. In sort... She gave birth to, quite literally, slaves.
Her are some actual quotes:
"Mikka(smitty) I just spilled a pepsi in the fridge, come clean it up."
"Mikka, I tracked mud up in the kitchen, you need to clean it up."
"Mikka, fold your sisters and my laundry, then clean my room."
these are just a few, and let me set up a scenario for you:
Smitty and I are sitting in her room, we've just woken up. We haven't talk to her mother since 10 oclock the previous night, no fights have been had in days. Smitty's mom throws the door open, sticks her head in and [insert quote here].
She treats smitty just as if she were a slave, just as her mother has told her friends.
Thats not right, good, decent, or even scumy. She is an evil women with a warped scope of reality that is so twisted she would be better off locked up in a tiny dark room in the middle of alaska.
Of all the bad things that have or could happen to people she deserves a large portion of it. She has thoroughly fucked her children up by putting them in not only a bad, but a dangerous situation. Whether it be living in a shed, living with an abusive man, or bringing pedophiles over to her house, as her friends.
Her mother is actually excited a 28 year old wrestler nmed falcon wants to have sex with her 14 yearold daughter mikala... and she urges her daughter to make a move...
You can look at it from your point of view, thats fine, its freedom and i appreciate you take the effort to imagine what our situation is, but no matter what you do you will never see it from that womens point of view.
I am sincere when i say, I'm sorry if i came off as rude, i really am.
But just because you have one side of the story and not the other doesnt mean the other is more righteous or good(I'm not saying you said that either)
And what really bothers me is the fact that my fiance is not a 16 year old girl, she is a 16 year old women, she is incredibly mature for someone twice her age. And it bothers me that no matter what, until she hits 19 or 20, she will be thought of as a child who can't possible tell a whole logical truth. She is not a girl wanting rescue, or an exaggerating little girl.
She is a strong women who, i am amazed, came out of a horrible childhood to be a decent person.
So you should try to look at it from her point of view, which shouldnt be too hard... Dont look at it like a child would look at it, look at it as if you were a mature, logical women(which i am sure, by your advice nd replies, you are)
I dont wanna come off mean, especially to you Spoiledprincess, you were one of the first ones t post and you have been here offering advice and replies from start to now. I really do appreciate you and your concern.
Same goes for Arliss, and BurningVenus.
I really want to thank all of you guys.
BTW* Spoiledprincess: smitty and i are both, aside form sex and cigarettes(me) completely straight edge. We dont do any drugs, dont drink, and dont like to go out all night and party. In a perfect world would could be in her room all day writing music and practicing.
Smitty's never done any sort of drug, and I'm ashmaed to admit I have, but I've found out its not necessary to alter your mind to have a good time... Smitty showed me that.
And for two years smitty was a vegetarian. But she started getting really sick, and turned yellow... So she started eating meat again,
