I Need Motivation. Weight Gain During Lockdown.

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I used to train every day. Since lockdown I have stopped my daily workout as I am working on a very time consuming work project and when I get a few hours off I feel mentally drained and go visit friends.
With age I was feeling that metabolism had slowed down but now I am feeling unsexy. Before people would comment on my body during hook ups. Now I have a potential dad bod and I am feeling down. I am not as disciplined with my eating as my nightly meal is my only daily indulgence.
I wake up every morning and look in the mirror and vow not to eat. Then I bargain that I'll just eat breakfast and then I feel blaaarghhhh afterwards.

I run now every week compared to every day. I can run about 15km so I'm not unfit but it is harder than it used me and I seem to lose little weight. I think my diet has to change first. I am tempted to use laxatives for a week or two.

Can anyone give me some hope of motivation. If I had a partner or a crush on someone I would have some goal but with gyms closed it seems harder. Tomorrow I will try again. I just ate oats tonight with raspberries and natural yogurt and a few handful of pumpkin seeds. Try not to judge me harshly. My esteem is not great so be kind.
 
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Some of us are in the same boat as you are. We're all struggling during this pandemic. I'm really not liking my body either, but right now there's not a lot I can fo about it. At least you know you're not alone in this struggle.
 

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Same here. Once lockdown started, I exercised less and ate more out of stress and boredom. I think healthy habits build off of one another, so when one you remove one habit the rest of them start to come down like a house of cards. What helped me at least stop gaining weight was hiring a personal trailer for online sessions. Some of them are not that expensive--$35 for a 45-50 minute session. Even though online workouts aren't as good as the gym, paying someone to keep you accountable helps a lot. Now that I'm back at the gym (and wearing a mask!), I've started eating healthier and everything is going back to where it was before.
 

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dieting does not work by it self...

at best you will lose -0.2 pounds in a week

bike riding 10-12 miles it will be about -3 pounds a week.
adding in walking/jogging 2.5 miles a day that will jump it to about -3.5 pounds a week...
 

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I find that I have very poor concentration. I wake up tired and cannot focus on my work. When reading documents I cannot retain much. It is as if I'm just reading individual words but not making meaning. I'm not anxious or depressed. I just feel burned out and mentally exhausted.
 
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dieting does not work by it self...

at best you will lose -0.2 pounds in a week

bike riding 10-12 miles it will be about -3 pounds a week.
adding in walking/jogging 2.5 miles a day that will jump it to about -3.5 pounds a week...
Bullshit.
You clearly pulled those numbers out of your ass.
Many, many people have made great progress & never set foot in a gym or got on a bike.
Eat fewer calories than you burn in a day.
That's it.
A bike, a treadmill, a class will not magically make your body lose more weight if you don't change your eating habits.
Please stop.
Your "help & advice" sucks ass.
 
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dieting does not work by it self...

at best you will lose -0.2 pounds in a week

bike riding 10-12 miles it will be about -3 pounds a week.
adding in walking/jogging 2.5 miles a day that will jump it to about -3.5 pounds a week...
Why do you keep doing this? The stuff you say is so blatantly wrong it’s absurd. If you need to feel like you’re super educated about this stuff then actually go educate yourself. For chrissakes, simple google searches can easily disprove just about (If not) everything you say.
Caloric deficit is caloric deficit. It makes no difference how the deficit is created. I lost 50 pounds before I ever got off my fucking couch, let alone in a gym or doing anything outdoors. I was losing 3-6 pounds a week. I bulk/cut regularly. I NEVER do dedicated cardio. Ever. Why don’t you just stop already? : unamused:
 
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I used to train every day. Since lockdown I have stopped my daily workout as I am working on a very time consuming work project and when I get a few hours off I feel mentally drained and go visit friends.
With age I was feeling that metabolism had slowed down but now I am feeling unsexy. Before people would comment on my body during hook ups. Now I have a potential dad bod and I am feeling down. I am not as disciplined with my eating as my nightly meal is my only daily indulgence.
I wake up every morning and look in the mirror and vow not to eat. Then I bargain that I'll just eat breakfast and then I feel blaaarghhhh afterwards.

I run now every week compared to every day. I can run about 15km so I'm not unfit but it is harder than it used me and I seem to lose little weight. I think my diet has to change first. I am tempted to use laxatives for a week or two.

Can anyone give me some hope of motivation. If I had a partner or a crush on someone I would have some goal but with gyms closed it seems harder. Tomorrow I will try again. I just ate oats tonight with raspberries and natural yogurt and a few handful of pumpkin seeds. Try not to judge me harshly. My esteem is not great so be kind.
There’s a couple things here... most people’s fitness level is going to ebb and flow to some degree whether it’s from bulking and cutting or more emotional reasons. Anybody who won’t see you through that isn’t worth a shit anyway. There are plenty who will, save your energy for them. Second, you can’t rely on motivation. It’s not always there. You have to dig in and find the discipline to just do it anyway. We do lots of things in life that we’re not excited to do... dishes, laundry, going to the dentist, paying your car insurance... because they have to be done and we deserve to have lives free of the consequences that come from not doing those things. You deserve to have a body that’s healthy and that you’re happy to be walking around in. It’s the only one you’re ever gonna have. Find the discipline to treat it with the respect and thanks it deserves. It does a helluva lot for you.
 

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Why do you keep doing this? The stuff you say is so blatantly wrong it’s absurd. If you need to feel like you’re super educated about this stuff then actually go educate yourself. For chrissakes, simple google searches can easily disprove just about (If not) everything you say.
Caloric deficit is caloric deficit. It makes no difference how the deficit is created. I lost 50 pounds before I ever got off my fucking couch, let alone in a gym or doing anything outdoors. I was losing 3-6 pounds a week. I bulk/cut regularly. I NEVER do dedicated cardio. Ever. Why don’t you just stop already? : unamused:
i bet you think diet sodas help you lose weight too.. i think you forgot take your magic weight loss pills today.. lol
did you get your calorie is a calorie information from a cocacola advertisement?


this might work if your on TLC 600 pound life those people lose 100 pounds in 2 months they're burning 8,000-9000 cals a day sitting on their ass.. don't be too foolish thinking you will lose 3-6 pounds a week sitting on your ass.


I used to train every day. Since lockdown I have stopped my daily workout as I am working on a very time consuming work project and when I get a few hours off I feel mentally drained and go visit friends.

I run now every week compared to every day. I can run about 15km so I'm not unfit but it is harder than it used me and I seem to lose little weight. I think my diet has to change first. I am tempted to use laxatives for a week or two..
go back to doing it everyday much better.. even if it's for a 1/2 hour..



change what you eat the USDA food pyramid is a joke unless your cattle on a farm headed to the market..



here is the real food pyramid Dr-Mark-Hyman-Pegan-Food-Pyramid.jpg
 
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i bet you think diet sodas help you lose weight too.. i think you forgot take your magic weight loss pills today.. lol
did you get your calorie is a calorie information from a cocacola advertisement?


this might work if your on TLC 600 pound life those people lose 100 pounds in 2 months they're burning 8,000-9000 cals a day sitting on their ass.. don't be too foolish thinking you will lose 3-6 pounds a week sitting on your ass.



go back to doing it everyday much better.. even if it's for a 1/2 hour..



change what you eat the USDA food pyramid is a joke unless your cattle on a farm headed to the market..



here is the real food pyramid View attachment 20740761
@someperson ....
Snarky knows more about nutrition and weight loss than you ever will.
You're being a buffoon.
Sit quietly at the children's table.
You don't understand definitions.
You don't understand basic metabolic information.
Hell... You don't understand basic math.
You have two ears, two eyes (provided yours still function and aren't damaged by the diabetes), and one mouth.
Take the trader Joe's pizza out of it and learn.
You can't help yourself.
Stop trying to "help" others.
 
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i bet you think diet sodas help you lose weight too.. i think you forgot take your magic weight loss pills today.. lol
did you get your calorie is a calorie information from a cocacola advertisement?


this might work if your on TLC 600 pound life those people lose 100 pounds in 2 months they're burning 8,000-9000 cals a day sitting on their ass.. don't be too foolish thinking you will lose 3-6 pounds a week sitting on your ass.



go back to doing it everyday much better.. even if it's for a 1/2 hour..



change what you eat the USDA food pyramid is a joke unless your cattle on a farm headed to the market..



here is the real food pyramid View attachment 20740761
Do you actually read anything I say? At all? You mustn’t. There’s no way you can possibly think that you have the upper hand here if you’re actually capable of reading English. It’s just not possible. Are you just trying to troll? Cuz you’re doing it wrong. The idea is to make the other person look like a fucking idiot... not make yourself look like one.
You’re welcome. Better luck next time, champ
 
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I have a better question for all three or four of you? Why are you even bothering wasting your energy arguing with words on a screen? He said his shit, you disagreed and it’s been going back and fourth since then.

why? If you know he’s wrong and you said so then why keep going?
 
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don't be too foolish thinking you will lose 3-6 pounds a week sitting on your ass.
View attachment 20740761


“Don’t be too foolish thinking”

I’m not *thinking* anything. I actually did that. In real life. 10 years ago. That’s what I did. I lost 3-6 pounds a week by reducing my caloric intake ONLY.

what are you not understanding about that? It happened. It’s fact. I was not 600 pounds. So... now what?
 
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I have a better question for all three or four of you? Why are you even bothering wasting your energy arguing with words on a screen? He said his shit, you disagreed and it’s been going back and fourth since then.

why? If you know he’s wrong and you said so then why keep going?
Because this is how bad information is spread. People who don’t know what the fuck they’re talking about give advice to people who genuinely need guidance... and those people take that shit advice and end up worse off than they started. I give a fuck about those people and I will offer up my own time and energy to keep people from failing because I believe that people deserve to at least have a shot at being healthy and happy.
It’s not about him. It’s about them.
Get it?
 

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Because this is how bad information is spread. People who don’t know what the fuck they’re talking about give advice to people who genuinely need guidance... and those people take that shit advice and end up worse off than they started. I give a fuck about those people and I will offer up my own time and energy to keep people from failing because I believe that people deserve to at least have a shot at being healthy and happy.
It’s not about him. It’s about them.
Get it?
Hey now, bow back down with me. I’m not in your spat with him so don’t dump it on me. You said your peace and made the correction. Eventually it’s up to the others reading who to believe. If they are not smart enough to do the basic research themselves and I mean basic like oh look at profile pics and make a choice. At that point it’s up to them to make a choice. And in the end you did your best to help. You can lead the horse to water but you can’t make him drink after all
 

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Do you actually read anything I say? At all? You mustn’t. There’s no way you can possibly think that you have the upper hand here if you’re actually capable of reading English. It’s just not possible. Are you just trying to troll? Cuz you’re doing it wrong. The idea is to make the other person look like a fucking idiot... not make yourself look like one.
You’re welcome. Better luck next time, champ
i pretty sure the op is not interested in yo-yo dieting like you do (bulking and cutting as you call it) he never said he wanted to body build you went pschopath pretty quick.. swearing is low intelligent words , won't stoop to your level.. that is all you can think of and come up with..
 

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i pretty sure the op is not interested in yo-yo dieting like you do (bulking and cutting as you call it) he never said he wanted to body build you went pschopath pretty quick.. swearing is low intelligent words , won't stoop to your level.. that is all you can think of and come up with..
Bulking and cutting isn’t yo-yo dieting. It’s adding muscle and cutting the fat that comes along with building muscle. My sincerest apologies for offending your most fragile sensibilities with my vulgar language. I promise to disprove everything you say without a single swear word from this point forward even though I manage to sound more intelligent than you even with the f-bomb.

As for bodybuilding... I, unlike you, do not assume that everyone wants to do what I do not that they will have the same results that I have... because that’s ridiculous. I was merely demonstrating my point that you most assuredly can lose weight (and even a lot of weight) with diet alone. You really have no argument back for that other than to tell me I’m dumb because I swear huh? You continue to refuse to directly address anything relevant and instead try to come up with random ways to make me seem like I don’t know what I’m talking about. The problem is that none of the nonsense you think up actually applies to me.

Bottom line, as always, you don’t know what you’re talking about, you’re not helping anybody, and your “advice” could very potentially leave people disappointed and frustrated. If you really want to help people, why don’t you go get certified in nutrition and training so you actually know what you’re doing? I’m doing that. I’m deep into my certification courses and you know what new information I’ve learned? None. Nothing. Because I’ve been studying this for TEN YEARS already. Not watching documentaries on Netflix and reading random articles from random websites written by random people with no credentials.