I need some advice :(

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It is time to move on. I think a real "father" figure should care for his "son" and make the best try to get him involved with his own age group and support him in making friends there.. been there and done that, and my "son" was really hard to convince that it was the best thing for both of us (yes I miss him and yes, I am glad he is involved with someone more appropriate now). Just sayin... I don't think this guy really has YOUR best interests at heart.
 

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I think you need to stop looking for father figures and go seek some help for your 'daddy issues' before trying to establish an intimate relationship with anyone.

These older guys you seek will never replace a real father/parent and its not fair to you or them to expect such a deep level affection and attention you seem to have been denied as a young child. Though it sounds like he has some unresolved issues of his own, he has a family he loves, cares for and who raves his attention. You should spend more time with your family and work your own issues out without him.
 
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Fun fantasy, but the reality is quite different. What you want from this will be different than what you get. Obsessing about it is all the proof you need that the manifestation is not going to be a joyful one. When it works, it feels good. When it is a source of anxiety, longing or other negative emotion, its not going to go the way you want it.

One of the wise lessons I've learned over the years.
 

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My family is a separate issue. I didn't even bring them up. He is a father figure first. He has taught me most important lessons in life.

Father figure is good, we all need mentors and someone special with whom we can be 100 percent honest about how we see ourselves.

Those kind of relationships are like gold, and should be treasured, and should not be thrown away.

Your mentor is also on a learning curve about who he is, and how he relates to the world. He is quite possibly at a stage in his life where age has brought some changes into his life, work, family and he could very possibly be asking himself "Is this all that there is to my life?" "Where has the time gone?"

Many men are fascinated by penises, and with your close friendship, the thrill of exploring young cock and for a brief moment somehow taking him back to his youth, could be very tempting.

There is every possibility of remorse and sadness resulting from such an encounter, and at some level your special friendship WILL CHANGE.

Mentoring works both ways. Just as he is your advisor and compass and PROTECTOR, you need to be the same to him.

Most importantly, how are you likely to feel about yourself after you have crossed a boundary? Is a wank or a BJ as valuable as your friendship.

From my perspective, deep friendships are hard to find and are not replaceable, sexual encounters are much easier to find and possibly more replaceable.

Go and be kind to yourself, learn to love yourself as a special person. You are the best thing that you have.

From someone who has seen both sides of the fence.

Tom
 

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My family is a separate issue. I didn't even bring them up. He is a father figure first. He has taught me most important lessons in life.

Just a quick comment. You're only 18 and it's difficult to make that sort of judgement at this point. We learn lessons our whole lives. It's a process. And we all have different processes and learn in different ways. I know it's hard to do, but try to be patient with yourself and your friend. If you love him, then enjoy that experience. At the same time attempt to respect his limits as well as your own. All the best.