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Sorry I realise now I never clairified the rules to which I hold myself.
The rules to which I adhere to are not faith nor family imposed. I may be from a middle class backround but myparents have made it very clear that it is my life and I can do as I please (as long as I don't brake the law).
Anyhow, well...
My rules... I've never actually written them down, so they are going to sound pretty scetchy:
1: I dont go out and get drunk - I don't liek the sensation
2: I don't do drugs - I have no desire to go to prison
3: I dont really go to parties - I'm not a social person and parties bore me.
4: Everyone is a potential friend, not a potential lover. I don't ever look at anybody from a sexual standpoint, especially not before I know them.
Thats basically it... so as you can see, my social life is pretty restricted, as are relationships (Ive actually never had a girlriend, or even a boyfriend for that matter
)
Ive not really ever gone out there and tried TBH, as I just don't like parties, I feel quite uncomfortable and t a loss with what to do with myself, because I don't like getting drunk, I don't go near drugs, and I've never had anyone to "sneak into the backroom with".
But it is also that I just feel inhibited, perhaps irrationally, but I feel inhibited from expressing myself, and especially my sexual self. I hink a lot of that is socially imposed restrictions though.
So the restrictions are a mix of self imposed principles, choice and social inhibitions.
On the subject of innocence, I think that innocence is not so much man-made as understanding is man made.
Think about it, rabbits dont get married - they just shageverything they can fit into when they feel like it... is that not innocence?
Innocence is just the lack of understanding of the restrictions and ways that mankind has come up with for handleing things, if you were completely innocent, you may for example, wonder down the street naked. Well, logically, there is nothing wrong with that (unless youstand in something), but it is the restrictions that man has created for himself that make it wrong.
As for it to be fashionable to be not-innocent (or atleast sexual innocence) I think that is related to people feeling the need to prove themselves and their adulthood by haveing sex - it is because it is seen as an "adult thing" and a right-of-passage into adulthood, so sexual innocence implies that you havent grown up in that area.
Personally I htink the notion that not haveing sex makes you childish is just plain silly. I am a virgin but much more enlightened than many people my own age - perhaps it is more the lack of a grip that sex has over me that makes me more enlightened.
But thats pretty deeply phillosophical.
The rules to which I adhere to are not faith nor family imposed. I may be from a middle class backround but myparents have made it very clear that it is my life and I can do as I please (as long as I don't brake the law).
Anyhow, well...
My rules... I've never actually written them down, so they are going to sound pretty scetchy:
1: I dont go out and get drunk - I don't liek the sensation
2: I don't do drugs - I have no desire to go to prison
3: I dont really go to parties - I'm not a social person and parties bore me.
4: Everyone is a potential friend, not a potential lover. I don't ever look at anybody from a sexual standpoint, especially not before I know them.
Thats basically it... so as you can see, my social life is pretty restricted, as are relationships (Ive actually never had a girlriend, or even a boyfriend for that matter
) Ive not really ever gone out there and tried TBH, as I just don't like parties, I feel quite uncomfortable and t a loss with what to do with myself, because I don't like getting drunk, I don't go near drugs, and I've never had anyone to "sneak into the backroom with".
But it is also that I just feel inhibited, perhaps irrationally, but I feel inhibited from expressing myself, and especially my sexual self. I hink a lot of that is socially imposed restrictions though.
So the restrictions are a mix of self imposed principles, choice and social inhibitions.
On the subject of innocence, I think that innocence is not so much man-made as understanding is man made.
Think about it, rabbits dont get married - they just shageverything they can fit into when they feel like it... is that not innocence?
Innocence is just the lack of understanding of the restrictions and ways that mankind has come up with for handleing things, if you were completely innocent, you may for example, wonder down the street naked. Well, logically, there is nothing wrong with that (unless youstand in something), but it is the restrictions that man has created for himself that make it wrong.
As for it to be fashionable to be not-innocent (or atleast sexual innocence) I think that is related to people feeling the need to prove themselves and their adulthood by haveing sex - it is because it is seen as an "adult thing" and a right-of-passage into adulthood, so sexual innocence implies that you havent grown up in that area.
Personally I htink the notion that not haveing sex makes you childish is just plain silly. I am a virgin but much more enlightened than many people my own age - perhaps it is more the lack of a grip that sex has over me that makes me more enlightened.
But thats pretty deeply phillosophical.
