I need some serious advise .....

[pacman1062]

QUOTE<<<<pacman1062

I have never "checked up" on anyone befor! not ever and this was the first and LAST time. There has been a lesson learned here!!! But do you not think that I should have a "calm and collected" conversation with her saying that I know about the TXT and let her talk about it?>>>>

No I Don't.

It is HER sex life. You have one piece of a text out of, what could be a whole days worth of conversation! There are any number of possibilities as many have pointed out.

Calm down, move on. If you were my son and questioned me.......my answer would be......Mind your own G** Da**ed Business.

I say that with no malice toward you or your concerns, but, that's just the way I see it.

 

[MarkLondon]

Serious advice? Keep your nose out of your parents' sex lives! No good will come of this. Unfortunately you can't erase the memory of reading that text, but you still can decide not to act on it. Because quite frankly, it's none of your business.

Your shock, anger, etc is an emotional over-reaction that is probably more about you discovering that your mother is possibly a sexual person than it is righteous indignation about cheating.

A) Is it safe to assume that she is cheating on my father?

No, it's not. If she is having a sexual liaison with this other woman he probably knows about it. Because, in your own words -

A little background info.... My parents have been together since they were 13, have been married 39 years and we own a family business where we all work together. My mother pretty much comes and goes as she pleases (always has) and does not work Fridays.....

And because the number one rule of clandestine relationships and texting is that you don't do it unless you know the other person is alone and at the phone ready to delete.

After work today I was going to ask her to explane herself the TXT to me.

B) What should my approach be?

She doesn't owe you an explanation. Period.

If your mother came across your LPSG account how would you feel about her examining your post history and friends list? How would you answer her charges of cheating on your boyfriend on cam? Is it any of her business? Would it damage your relationship with her?

 

[XSILVER]

If your mother came across your LPSG account how would you feel about her examining your post history and friends list? How would you answer her charges of cheating on your boyfriend on cam? Is it any of her business? Would it damage your relationship with her?

If she were to come across my LPSG page I wouldn't have a big issue over that. This is a place of fun (for all of us) to come and talk about all sorts of things, from health issues, family issues, size issues and post pics ect. as you all know And we all have our own definition of what "cheating" is and I (along with many others) do not consider camming to be cheating... but respectfully understand that others do!

Taking all of your input into consideration, I think I'm going to listen to all of you and (try) to let it be and move on. I guess i really wanted everyone's openion to be that i should confront her about it and it would make me feel justifyed in doing so but i would say that 99.95% of all who have helped me out on this issue here have advised against that and in the beginning I didnt understand why.... Well I am starting to and i know that it is not all going to come to me at once but i guess that is the beauty of time..... theres an endless supply of it.

Thank you all for your help, openions and input. You have all been great in your very different ways and views.

X

 

[Chase1600]

It's unfortunate that you saw that txt.

The very first response says it all.

It is not unusual. It is not limited to sex. There are countless nitty gritty unpleasant details we are better not knowing.


Were people gossiping about me at the office, I may well be better off not knowing. I know there will be those who say &#8220;I have a right to know.&#8221; But perhaps I have a right to a kind of privacy &#8211; the kind of privacy that allows me to sort out things on my own. Stirring shit under a pretext of &#8220;right to know&#8221; is really stirring shit.

Were I to happen upon someone cheating, I would not normally be the one to carry it to the spouse &#8211; maybe if I happened upon a plan to bump off the spouse, it would be different &#8211; there is a kind of respect for the privacy of an individual that leaves them to sort out things.

Besides in that situation, people often know and wish they could be left alone to maintain an appearance.

Obviously, there are choices to be made. We don&#8217;t respect the privacy of a neighbor whose house is on fire. But if a neighbor's circumstances are tough, we might do them a favor to not tell them we feel sorry for them, for by doing it we may only exasperate their difficult - perhaps impossible - situation.

So it is you would be better off to have not seen this and I think you should treat it as if you did not. You don&#8217;t entirely know. You don&#8217;t. The other woman may not have been discussing something with your mom and even if she were it might not have been nearly what it appears. Were you to confront your mom it could be disastrous. But even if you let in simmer in the back of your head, it causes harm.

You can&#8217;t not know what you saw, but if in some way you can find the strength of character to dismiss it, your lives will be better. I think you can take it to the bank, and why not make that decision &#8211; a decision to make your lives better.

On the outside chance there is something to it, time will time, and if it does, you will face the challenge to do the right thing and stand by both your parents.