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So here it goes:
Pretty unhappy with my life. Not like i'll harm myself in any way, but ive been going through a phase of depression following my move back home. I just moved down from Central Cali where i actually had a couple of close, gay friends.
Now that im back home where i went to Community College, im hanging out with all the same people who didnt know anything about me back in the day.
i am right back in the closet, but this time with consequence. This time around, ive already admit to myself i am gay, i just havent admit to any of my old friends. that's eating away at me.
dating in Los Angeles: that's eating away at me. I'm not part of the whole scene and am not opposed to being in it, I just dont have those kind of friends. "The scene" in Los Angeles is about how beautiful you are (stereotype, but for a reason), and while i may not lacking in that department either, im anything but satisfied.
actually, sometimes i feel as though sex is a form of self-validation and its not healthy to seek that kind of attention or feeling.
Given all that, I tried to be a good boy and date a nice man. I thought he was nice, until after our 5th date, he texts me (yes, texts):
"I cant give you what I want. And I think I am in love with someone else. Madly in Love. Im sorry."
So that was pretty cool.
Sometimes i feel as though im made to be alone, and its because ive forgotten what it feels like to be in love or love someone intimately.
Dont get me wrong. I get laid A LOT. Or shall i say "lay" a lot. I am ALWAYS safe and mostly do foreplay unless im actually dating/seeing a guy, but there are times I think im addicted to sex. At times i think having a long-term, strong relationship with a man is impossible.
So before i go to therapy (because thats what i really need), just wanted to see if there was ANY advice out there anyone can give. Even if it's just one suggestion that might help me with this turmoil.
Ive heard people say "youll come out when your ready and things will get better," but give me the real deal. Tell me how it is.
thanks in advance LPSG community
Pretty unhappy with my life. Not like i'll harm myself in any way, but ive been going through a phase of depression following my move back home. I just moved down from Central Cali where i actually had a couple of close, gay friends.
Now that im back home where i went to Community College, im hanging out with all the same people who didnt know anything about me back in the day.
i am right back in the closet, but this time with consequence. This time around, ive already admit to myself i am gay, i just havent admit to any of my old friends. that's eating away at me.
dating in Los Angeles: that's eating away at me. I'm not part of the whole scene and am not opposed to being in it, I just dont have those kind of friends. "The scene" in Los Angeles is about how beautiful you are (stereotype, but for a reason), and while i may not lacking in that department either, im anything but satisfied.
actually, sometimes i feel as though sex is a form of self-validation and its not healthy to seek that kind of attention or feeling.
Given all that, I tried to be a good boy and date a nice man. I thought he was nice, until after our 5th date, he texts me (yes, texts):
"I cant give you what I want. And I think I am in love with someone else. Madly in Love. Im sorry."
So that was pretty cool.
Sometimes i feel as though im made to be alone, and its because ive forgotten what it feels like to be in love or love someone intimately.
Dont get me wrong. I get laid A LOT. Or shall i say "lay" a lot. I am ALWAYS safe and mostly do foreplay unless im actually dating/seeing a guy, but there are times I think im addicted to sex. At times i think having a long-term, strong relationship with a man is impossible.
So before i go to therapy (because thats what i really need), just wanted to see if there was ANY advice out there anyone can give. Even if it's just one suggestion that might help me with this turmoil.
Ive heard people say "youll come out when your ready and things will get better," but give me the real deal. Tell me how it is.
thanks in advance LPSG community