I Need Tips On How To Experiment With Another Straight Guy?

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Craigslist sucks, no one nearly there my age and if they are they all want an effin "athletic build" type. I'm not trying to switch teams, just feel like jacking around. Thanks tho

Just put an ad out there and be clear - "not an elfin build" sounds like a great way to describe yourself. You know what you want, you've articulated it very clearly here. So just try it on CL. Don't be afraid to say what you want - so, you get fewer responses. But you get better responses.
 

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Try CL again but word your ad carefully on what you are looking for etc. I am FAR more straight than bi but enjoy occasional m/m mutual jo together etc. I can relate to your ad.

I do agree....CL can suck for sure but it finally worked for me. I did have to weed through tons of non matches though. There are guys out there like you and me looking for some occasional discreet mild m/m fun. I just had to search a lot and be selective.
 

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Your friend's gay side may be deeply buried by fears, repulsions, confusions. It would seem to me that as a friend you would cultivate the friendship. Relationships, yes, loving relationships, between men can and should be more common IMHO. There is much that two friends can do for each other short of having sex. I he presents himself as straight accept it; that's what friends do.
 

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hmmm...

in my past experiences you have to level the playing field. Say you rent some movies with graphic sex scenes or something that highlights an actor(s) endowment that you both would enjoy watching on a lazy day. Get some alcohol up in the mix because it truly does lower one's inhibitions and then some. I would always start by making comments regarding such scenes or actors and get a feel for the response.

I've watched porn before with friends and gotten "the eye" or I see them fondling themselves as the scenes grow more intense. Ask if you can see what they are working with...the "nah, you go first in showing" has transpired a couple times as well. I have never been shy regarding pulling out my monster but I certainly don't want to be the one to initiate unless I get the green light.

I've had oral,given, jacked off,...among other things all with friends or guys that were supposed to be str8. Hope this helped somewhat.

Good luck!

I totally agree. I used this trick in college 3 times. Get some smoke, some beers and some porn. Invite your friend over. Freeball and wear pants that make your tent very obvious (I wore a pair of khaki cutoffs). Get real wasted and start watching the porn. When you get hard, start talking about how you really need some pussy to fuck and start rearranging yourself. It helps if you leak a lot, I do that’s why I wore khakis so the wet spots would show. You say you’ve caught him checking out your bulge. When he does look embarrassed and ask what he’s staring at. He’ll probably be embarrassed too. You be cool. Say I have a boner. I bet you do too. Then go for the money. “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours”. If he smacks you down it’s awkward. If he does pull his cock out or says he wants to see you first, you know you’re in and take it from there.

Like I said, tried it 3 times. Homered 2 out of 3. One of the successes turned into just a JO bud, the other one started sucking after a couple of times.
 

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He wouldnt be str8 if he wants to be with you sexually and neither are you.

Geez, give the kid a break a break. He just wants to try doing it with a dude before he gets married. My bf and I had a 3 way with a chick once. Actually a couple of times. It didn't make us straight. It was just hot.
 

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Without calling your sexuality into question, hooking up with him if he is interested should be easy.

Spend more time with him and try to be as intimate as possible with him without making it seem like you are dating. Have personal conversations where you open up and share. Starting spending the night together without making it seem like you are trying to get into his pants. Go one night and stay out really late until you both need to go to one of your houses and sleep. Make a habit of doing that and something will happen.
 

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Just out of curiosity, why does it have to be a straight guy? You're pretty much setting yourself up for disappointment-- they tend not to partake in homosexual activity. Just sayin'.:rolleyes:


It doesn't have to be a sexual orientation thing; I don't have any close gay friends. Plus, no offense, IMO it's probably alot easier to experiment with a gay guy than another fellow straight guy. We wouldn't be caught DEAD JO/BJing another straight guy!
 

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Is there any chance of a sleepover or something? I don't know how old you guys are. I had two straight friends in high school that would grab each other's dicks under the covers. Not real pleasurable, but they would tease each other about getting hard. One of my favorite things with a buddy is to lay opposite ways on the bed and rub each others' balls. I enjoy a good ball massage so much I could stop with just that. Or a happy ending. Either way.


We're in our late 20's and there's NO WAY we'd lay together. Thanks for your input though :biggrin1:.
 

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Try CL again but word your ad carefully on what you are looking for etc. I am FAR more straight than bi but enjoy occasional m/m mutual jo together etc. I can relate to your ad.

I do agree....CL can suck for sure but it finally worked for me. I did have to weed through tons of non matches though. There are guys out there like you and me looking for some occasional discreet mild m/m fun. I just had to search a lot and be selective.


True dat :cool:.
 

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He wouldnt be str8 if he wants to be with you sexually and neither are you.


Being that I'm only interested in experimenting with another dude, how gay would you say I was: 10%, 20%, 30%... Not that it makes a difference to me, just would like your opinion :biggrin1:
 

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It doesn't have to be a sexual orientation thing; I don't have any close gay friends. Plus, no offense, IMO it's probably alot easier to experiment with a gay guy than another fellow straight guy. We wouldn't be caught DEAD JO/BJing another straight guy!
If that's the case, and you're searching for people online, then don't limit yourself to straight guys (assuming from your posts that's what you're doing; if not, then just disregard what I'm saying).
 

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I totally agree. I used this trick in college 3 times. Get some smoke, some beers and some porn. Invite your friend over. Freeball and wear pants that make your tent very obvious (I wore a pair of khaki cutoffs). Get real wasted and start watching the porn. When you get hard, start talking about how you really need some pussy to fuck and start rearranging yourself. It helps if you leak a lot, I do that’s why I wore khakis so the wet spots would show. You say you’ve caught him checking out your bulge. When he does look embarrassed and ask what he’s staring at. He’ll probably be embarrassed too. You be cool. Say I have a boner. I bet you do too. Then go for the money. “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours”. If he smacks you down it’s awkward. If he does pull his cock out or says he wants to see you first, you know you’re in and take it from there.

Like I said, tried it 3 times. Homered 2 out of 3. One of the successes turned into just a JO bud, the other one started sucking after a couple of times.

:eek: Whoa, talk about imagination LOL. I would have never thought of this but it sounds like it could work... I'll keep you posted if it does. Gotta build some courage now
 

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Without calling your sexuality into question, hooking up with him if he is interested should be easy.

Spend more time with him and try to be as intimate as possible with him without making it seem like you are dating. Have personal conversations where you open up and share. Starting spending the night together without making it seem like you are trying to get into his pants. Go one night and stay out really late until you both need to go to one of your houses and sleep. Make a habit of doing that and something will happen.


been there plenty of nights and days, so far nothing. I think we both have a fear of making the first move :confused:
 

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Hey! I've read most of the comments on this blog and I had to respond. I agree with my brothers here, if you are looking for experimentation or just to satisfy a curiosity, a real straight man might not be the answer. Not only are you putting yourself in a serious situation if you are wrong, you might lose more than just your friendship. Go to a gay bar, have a few drinks and find yourself the finest brother out there and talk to him. I guarantee it will ease your curiosity. Good luck to you always!
 

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If that's the case, and you're searching for people online, then don't limit yourself to straight guys (assuming from your posts that's what you're doing; if not, then just disregard what I'm saying).


I've only searched online thru CL but I don't think I'd really go through with it. So I guess it's just a fantasy and nothing more.
 

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Hey! I've read most of the comments on this blog and I had to respond. I agree with my brothers here, if you are looking for experimentation or just to satisfy a curiosity, a real straight man might not be the answer. Not only are you putting yourself in a serious situation if you are wrong, you might lose more than just your friendship. Go to a gay bar, have a few drinks and find yourself the finest brother out there and talk to him. I guarantee it will ease your curiosity. Good luck to you always!


:cool: You're right about losing a friendship and putting myself in a serious situation if I'm wrong. I have gay friends and I'm sure they'd be up for tapping in to me LOL . Thanks man.