I need to rant about an experience that just happened and I would like any advice as well

[Open_legs_and_mouth]

So a few days ago I joined a discord server for gay guys (specifically those who goon) which is extremely embarrassing and thats why im asking for advice here and not from a close friend. This all happened over 3 days too so its even more embarrassing for me

DAY 1
Anyways in this server i met a guy we started chatting and trading pics, he is real cute. Early into the convo we said where we were from (me-Australia, him-Syria). We ended up sharing face pics and he was soo cute, not my normal type but i found him hot still. Then he said "I'd see a potential bf lowk if you weren't so fucking far away" and i agreed then he said "And im also okay with long distance but not this quickly lmao especially if I don't see a chance of meeting in person yet", which is fair cause i dont wanna date a guy ive just meet and in a different country to. But this didn't stop me from catching feelings, because he was flirting like crazy and tbh so was i which is weird for me cause I've never flirted with anyone in my 20 years of living, idk where this skill came from but he seemed to really like it, even tho it felt like i was going a little to heavy on the flirting.
We ended up moving the chat to Instagram and i was starting to develop strong feelings and i know that i was more in love with the idea of him than him and who he is cause i barely know the guy.
Worst part this all happened in like a 2 hour span, which makes me feel like a whore. Plus he gave me a tarot reading that felt scarily accurate

DAY 2 (still technically the same day cause pervious was 1-3am but i went to bed and woke up)
We sent each other a good morning text but because of the time difference he was going to bed just as i woke up. There was alot more flirting and getting to know each other, he did mention that he kinda in love with his ex still tho so red flag but im trying to ignore that. He asked to video call but i didnt have enough privacy at the time and he wouldnt later so the time difference is killing me, its 9 hours (with me being ahead). After acknowledging the time difference i asked if 'this' is going to work and he said that we probably couldn't date but still chat.
And this hurt me more that i expected. I've never liked long distance relationships, but that day i found myself considering it for the first time, i couldn't stop thinking about him.
Despite both agreeing that a relationship wouldn't work, this bitch kept flirting with me and i loved it still. idk what is wrong with me.

Day 3
Spent the whole day feeling weirdly sad and a little heartbroken over a situation ship I've only been in for less than 48 hours. But i still did chat with him a bit, and shamefully kept flirting.

Day 4 (today)
Back in the discord server where we meet, in the general chat he said "Fighting the urge to flirt w the cutest dude I met cuz I knew him two days ago and it makes me feel like a whore rn", after reading this i am now confused as to what this is to both of us and im looking for advice

If you have any advice, personal experiences or anything that might help please let me know im desperate.

 

[aklobo]

So a few days ago I joined a discord server for gay guys (specifically those who goon) which is extremely embarrassing and thats why im asking for advice here and not from a close friend. This all happened over 3 days too so its even more embarrassing for me

DAY 1
Anyways in this server i met a guy we started chatting and trading pics, he is real cute. Early into the convo we said where we were from (me-Australia, him-Syria). We ended up sharing face pics and he was soo cute, not my normal type but i found him hot still. Then he said "I'd see a potential bf lowk if you weren't so fucking far away" and i agreed then he said "And im also okay with long distance but not this quickly lmao especially if I don't see a chance of meeting in person yet", which is fair cause i dont wanna date a guy ive just meet and in a different country to. But this didn't stop me from catching feelings, because he was flirting like crazy and tbh so was i which is weird for me cause I've never flirted with anyone in my 20 years of living, idk where this skill came from but he seemed to really like it, even tho it felt like i was going a little to heavy on the flirting.
We ended up moving the chat to Instagram and i was starting to develop strong feelings and i know that i was more in love with the idea of him than him and who he is cause i barely know the guy.
Worst part this all happened in like a 2 hour span, which makes me feel like a whore. Plus he gave me a tarot reading that felt scarily accurate

DAY 2 (still technically the same day cause pervious was 1-3am but i went to bed and woke up)
We sent each other a good morning text but because of the time difference he was going to bed just as i woke up. There was alot more flirting and getting to know each other, he did mention that he kinda in love with his ex still tho so red flag but im trying to ignore that. He asked to video call but i didnt have enough privacy at the time and he wouldnt later so the time difference is killing me, its 9 hours (with me being ahead). After acknowledging the time difference i asked if 'this' is going to work and he said that we probably couldn't date but still chat.
And this hurt me more that i expected. I've never liked long distance relationships, but that day i found myself considering it for the first time, i couldn't stop thinking about him.
Despite both agreeing that a relationship wouldn't work, this bitch kept flirting with me and i loved it still. idk what is wrong with me.

Day 3
Spent the whole day feeling weirdly sad and a little heartbroken over a situation ship I've only been in for less than 48 hours. But i still did chat with him a bit, and shamefully kept flirting.

Day 4 (today)
Back in the discord server where we meet, in the general chat he said "Fighting the urge to flirt w the cutest dude I met cuz I knew him two days ago and it makes me feel like a whore rn", after reading this i am now confused as to what this is to both of us and im looking for advice

If you have any advice, personal experiences or anything that might help please let me know im desperate.

Maybe start with pics of each of you?

But...don't feel bad. A person can catch feelings really quickly. It happens to al of us, maybe not online but in one circumstance or another. I'd say, if he was on the same continent entertain the idea. This geographical distance seems insurmountable. Be sad for a day and move on! I mean, it seems like every other guy in Australia is hot...

 

[theplayerking]

First of all, you’re not a whore for flirting online a few times.

It’s also very easy to get carried away with feelings for people online because you don’t see all of the flaws and annoyances that exist in real life. You’re young. Keep it light and fun. Take it for what it is: practice and experience.

 

[BIGBULL29]

First of all, you’re not a whore for flirting online a few times.

It’s also very easy to get carried away with feelings for people online because you don’t see all of the flaws and annoyances that exist in real life. You’re young. Keep it light and fun. Take it for what it is: practice and experience.

None of us have perfect bodies, either.

 

[Homerxxx123]

No need to feel embarrassed, maybe it was a whirlwind flash-in-the-pan romance and that’s okay haha

Every experience is a lesson!

If you are only 20 I think you should definitely date other young people irl and not strangers online. You won’t be hung up on this one guy if you meet another

 

[GhostGoAway]

Honestly no need to feel embarrassed at all its very common for people to develop crushes quickly even online, its most likely just a quick in the moment thing you'll move on quickly from and you're definitely NOT a whore for flirting online with someone. Everyone does it all the time, hell i do it constantly even to people im not interested in, its just my way of joking around. Anyways the point is you're all good nothing to be ashamed of, This will probably be a passing thing and also maybe be more careful with people online and don't share face pics so quickly seems like in this situation it turned out fine but it can be dangerous for obvious reasons.

 

[Dexter91]

First of all, you’re not a whore for flirting online a few times.

It’s also very easy to get carried away with feelings for people online because you don’t see all of the flaws and annoyances that exist in real life. You’re young. Keep it light and fun. Take it for what it is: practice and experience.

This OP, plus your brain fills the gaps in your knowledge with perceived things you like about the person. It is very easy to have the fire lit with a person online when you don't know them because you perceive what you think of them and your brain helps fill in the blanks. But it isnt fully rooted in reality until you meet and the person fills in the gaps with how they actually are.

Just relax and enjoy and have fun.

 

[Open_legs_and_mouth]

thought i should give a little update...
We have been texting still, getting to know him a bit better (with a bit of flirting). Texting has slowed down, yesterday we didn't communicate at all, bitch didnt respond to my message. Which is making me annoyed at him cause i can see he's on Instagram just not replying, so on one hand im annoyed but im also thankful cause i feel like its helping to get over him. However i do have some feelings there still.
Since tomorrow is valentines day i have a feeling its gonna be real hard for consider that i still want this guy.

Also i want to thank all of you for your comments and support, means a lot

 

[Open_legs_and_mouth]

also forgot to mention i decided to text him again (double texted, i know im desperate) and he actually replied but i think im going to ignore that for now and be petty about it.
Is that to immature?

 

[Bussbop]

So a few days ago I joined a discord server for gay guys (specifically those who goon) which is extremely embarrassing and thats why im asking for advice here and not from a close friend. This all happened over 3 days too so its even more embarrassing for me

DAY 1
Anyways in this server i met a guy we started chatting and trading pics, he is real cute. Early into the convo we said where we were from (me-Australia, him-Syria). We ended up sharing face pics and he was soo cute, not my normal type but i found him hot still. Then he said "I'd see a potential bf lowk if you weren't so fucking far away" and i agreed then he said "And im also okay with long distance but not this quickly lmao especially if I don't see a chance of meeting in person yet", which is fair cause i dont wanna date a guy ive just meet and in a different country to. But this didn't stop me from catching feelings, because he was flirting like crazy and tbh so was i which is weird for me cause I've never flirted with anyone in my 20 years of living, idk where this skill came from but he seemed to really like it, even tho it felt like i was going a little to heavy on the flirting.
We ended up moving the chat to Instagram and i was starting to develop strong feelings and i know that i was more in love with the idea of him than him and who he is cause i barely know the guy.
Worst part this all happened in like a 2 hour span, which makes me feel like a whore. Plus he gave me a tarot reading that felt scarily accurate

DAY 2 (still technically the same day cause pervious was 1-3am but i went to bed and woke up)
We sent each other a good morning text but because of the time difference he was going to bed just as i woke up. There was alot more flirting and getting to know each other, he did mention that he kinda in love with his ex still tho so red flag but im trying to ignore that. He asked to video call but i didnt have enough privacy at the time and he wouldnt later so the time difference is killing me, its 9 hours (with me being ahead). After acknowledging the time difference i asked if 'this' is going to work and he said that we probably couldn't date but still chat.
And this hurt me more that i expected. I've never liked long distance relationships, but that day i found myself considering it for the first time, i couldn't stop thinking about him.
Despite both agreeing that a relationship wouldn't work, this bitch kept flirting with me and i loved it still. idk what is wrong with me.

Day 3
Spent the whole day feeling weirdly sad and a little heartbroken over a situation ship I've only been in for less than 48 hours. But i still did chat with him a bit, and shamefully kept flirting.

Day 4 (today)
Back in the discord server where we meet, in the general chat he said "Fighting the urge to flirt w the cutest dude I met cuz I knew him two days ago and it makes me feel like a whore rn", after reading this i am now confused as to what this is to both of us and im looking for advice

If you have any advice, personal experiences or anything that might help please let me know im desperate.

This is sadly a common online gay experience still hurts all the same especially if its the first time you meet someone like this. I’d just say enjoy your time with him because it’s still fun and sweet but remember to put yourself first and if he’s doing things you don’t like it’s not petty to tell him. From personal experience, these things can go well, but most times the long distance and easy access to flirting with other people behind ur back make it difficult Wish u the best anyhow

 

[Bussbop]

So a few days ago I joined a discord server for gay guys (specifically those who goon) which is extremely embarrassing and thats why im asking for advice here and not from a close friend. This all happened over 3 days too so its even more embarrassing for me

DAY 1
Anyways in this server i met a guy we started chatting and trading pics, he is real cute. Early into the convo we said where we were from (me-Australia, him-Syria). We ended up sharing face pics and he was soo cute, not my normal type but i found him hot still. Then he said "I'd see a potential bf lowk if you weren't so fucking far away" and i agreed then he said "And im also okay with long distance but not this quickly lmao especially if I don't see a chance of meeting in person yet", which is fair cause i dont wanna date a guy ive just meet and in a different country to. But this didn't stop me from catching feelings, because he was flirting like crazy and tbh so was i which is weird for me cause I've never flirted with anyone in my 20 years of living, idk where this skill came from but he seemed to really like it, even tho it felt like i was going a little to heavy on the flirting.
We ended up moving the chat to Instagram and i was starting to develop strong feelings and i know that i was more in love with the idea of him than him and who he is cause i barely know the guy.
Worst part this all happened in like a 2 hour span, which makes me feel like a whore. Plus he gave me a tarot reading that felt scarily accurate

DAY 2 (still technically the same day cause pervious was 1-3am but i went to bed and woke up)
We sent each other a good morning text but because of the time difference he was going to bed just as i woke up. There was alot more flirting and getting to know each other, he did mention that he kinda in love with his ex still tho so red flag but im trying to ignore that. He asked to video call but i didnt have enough privacy at the time and he wouldnt later so the time difference is killing me, its 9 hours (with me being ahead). After acknowledging the time difference i asked if 'this' is going to work and he said that we probably couldn't date but still chat.
And this hurt me more that i expected. I've never liked long distance relationships, but that day i found myself considering it for the first time, i couldn't stop thinking about him.
Despite both agreeing that a relationship wouldn't work, this bitch kept flirting with me and i loved it still. idk what is wrong with me.

Day 3
Spent the whole day feeling weirdly sad and a little heartbroken over a situation ship I've only been in for less than 48 hours. But i still did chat with him a bit, and shamefully kept flirting.

Day 4 (today)
Back in the discord server where we meet, in the general chat he said "Fighting the urge to flirt w the cutest dude I met cuz I knew him two days ago and it makes me feel like a whore rn", after reading this i am now confused as to what this is to both of us and im looking for advice

If you have any advice, personal experiences or anything that might help please let me know im desperate.

Also about feeling embarrassed, dw a lot of gay guys experiment online like this you’re not a whore for it but be safe always

 

[Sturdywords]

Is there ANY possibility of you meeting in real life? If not - and it seems highly unlikely - this is nothing but flirting and fantasising. Find someone a bit closer?

 

[Shisato]

I had a smiliar experience a couple years ago. Me, German, him Australian, no chance of ever meeting in person.
But we enjoyed spending time with each other and so we just did. Been on video calls all day, every day for over a year. Having dinner together, watching each other shower, jerked off together, played minecraft, watched movies.
We promised we'd be together like this as long as both of us still want it.
For me, as an insecure overweight introvert it was such an important experience, being myself around someone else, with the additional security layer of a screen between us. And even though we both met someone irl eventually and me eve being married to a guy by now, I still miss him sometimes.

So why not enjoy the experience as long you both are aware of the limits.

 

[Open_legs_and_mouth]

I had a smiliar experience a couple years ago. Me, German, him Australian, no chance of ever meeting in person.
But we enjoyed spending time with each other and so we just did. Been on video calls all day, every day for over a year. Having dinner together, watching each other shower, jerked off together, played minecraft, watched movies.
We promised we'd be together like this as long as both of us still want it.
For me, as an insecure overweight introvert it was such an important experience, being myself around someone else, with the additional security layer of a screen between us. And even though we both met someone irl eventually and me eve being married to a guy by now, I still miss him sometimes.

So why not enjoy the experience as long you both are aware of the limits.

this is probably the best advice ive gotten yet, sorry to everyone else, but this means alot, although probably too late ive kinda moved on from this guy. He was nice but between the time difference and general incompatibility we are better off as just friends

 

[beorn6]

Don’t over think it. Don’t plan the future. Just Relax and enjoy the flirt.

 

[DonnyDeso]

So a few days ago I joined a discord server for gay guys (specifically those who goon) which is extremely embarrassing and thats why im asking for advice here and not from a close friend. This all happened over 3 days too so its even more embarrassing for me

DAY 1
Anyways in this server i met a guy we started chatting and trading pics, he is real cute. Early into the convo we said where we were from (me-Australia, him-Syria). We ended up sharing face pics and he was soo cute, not my normal type but i found him hot still. Then he said "I'd see a potential bf lowk if you weren't so fucking far away" and i agreed then he said "And im also okay with long distance but not this quickly lmao especially if I don't see a chance of meeting in person yet", which is fair cause i dont wanna date a guy ive just meet and in a different country to. But this didn't stop me from catching feelings, because he was flirting like crazy and tbh so was i which is weird for me cause I've never flirted with anyone in my 20 years of living, idk where this skill came from but he seemed to really like it, even tho it felt like i was going a little to heavy on the flirting.
We ended up moving the chat to Instagram and i was starting to develop strong feelings and i know that i was more in love with the idea of him than him and who he is cause i barely know the guy.
Worst part this all happened in like a 2 hour span, which makes me feel like a whore. Plus he gave me a tarot reading that felt scarily accurate

DAY 2 (still technically the same day cause pervious was 1-3am but i went to bed and woke up)
We sent each other a good morning text but because of the time difference he was going to bed just as i woke up. There was alot more flirting and getting to know each other, he did mention that he kinda in love with his ex still tho so red flag but im trying to ignore that. He asked to video call but i didnt have enough privacy at the time and he wouldnt later so the time difference is killing me, its 9 hours (with me being ahead). After acknowledging the time difference i asked if 'this' is going to work and he said that we probably couldn't date but still chat.
And this hurt me more that i expected. I've never liked long distance relationships, but that day i found myself considering it for the first time, i couldn't stop thinking about him.
Despite both agreeing that a relationship wouldn't work, this bitch kept flirting with me and i loved it still. idk what is wrong with me.

Day 3
Spent the whole day feeling weirdly sad and a little heartbroken over a situation ship I've only been in for less than 48 hours. But i still did chat with him a bit, and shamefully kept flirting.

Day 4 (today)
Back in the discord server where we meet, in the general chat he said "Fighting the urge to flirt w the cutest dude I met cuz I knew him two days ago and it makes me feel like a whore rn", after reading this i am now confused as to what this is to both of us and im looking for advice

If you have any advice, personal experiences or anything that might help please let me know im desperate.

Sis....this is wild but I love it. Low key though if you want to know if you have true maturity, you need to face hard decisions you don't want to face. This situation is not going to work for the both of you, and like you said you like the idea of him more than him, it kinda feels like loneliness at play here. Point is I think your happiness is somewhere else, and not with a guy you met in a discord chat for gooners

 

[danimal32]

I see it this way: you're young. Go for it. Chances of meeting are slim. Try to just go with it for what it is. You're not hurting anyone.