I only last one minute from masturbating

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  1. dre101

    dre101 New Member

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    Hello LPSG.

    Well first I'm not large, just a 5 incher but here is my problem. When I masturbate I last for only under a minute. I'm a virgin and I'm wondering if this will affect my sexual performance when I do find a girl to have intercourse with. Many times I look for a quickie because I am in college so obviously I need to do it fast in order to not get caught.

    How can I fix this problem. Many times I last for 30 seconds watching a porno video and then I cum.
     
  2. redpw865

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    Bless - How long after the first cum can you last. Dudes often prewank before a fuck. Also some delay creams are good. But most important start to explore, enjoy and feel good about yourself. I am now cut after 52 yrs lol. We now have gr8 fun in sex sessions. Play and do different thinks play fingers, tongues and toys. Porn is ok but you need to learn how to edge (at the brink of cuming - tickle and soft strokes lol) If you are a young dude I hope you have 70 yrs of gr8 sex. Respect m8 x
     
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    there are many sites on the internet about premature ejaculation. the right girl would also be willing to help with your problem. it could be fun for both of you.
     
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    My best advice is to keep at it. Try different ways of masturbating and see what works for you - after all, some guys instinctively go as fast as they can because they equate that with maximum pleasure, which just isn't true. And, as red mentioned, pre-wanking is a tried-and-true method of lasting longer during sex. Just as long as you do it long enough beforehand that you can get it up again ;)

    Also, please remember that your hand and a vagina feel very different. Some guys find it easier to come right away while masturbating than with a woman. For some, it's the other way around. I guess I'm trying to say it's important not to get too hung up over something you haven't done yet, as that might just be setting you up.
     
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    I think we all have this "problem" when we're in our teens :) Over the last few years I've been working on edging to make myself last longer. Basically, when you feel you're about to cum, let go of your dick until the feeling starts to go away and then start again. It'll take a bit of practice to figure out at what point you need to stop before you reach the point of no return. When you're with a woman, use the same technique but use this time to play with her tits, kiss her, etc and then get going again :)
     
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    I had a similiar problem when younger, I fucked gals and I would cum pretty quick, within a minute or two. my "redemption" was I remained hard and would just keep fucking. I good 25-30 minutes til cumming a 2nd time, and between that time and my larger tool, I kept the ladies purring. It wasn't until I had a steady lady and got laid daily that I got premature under control. I could last 45 minutes to an hour, cum, re-nut in a couple minutes. I had more than one gal call me exceptional in that regard.
     
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    A major factor in premature ejaculation is psychological. You've programmed yourself to come quick so you won't get caught. Now you have to change that programming. J/O when you have ample time and privacy, and use techniques you'll find here and at other sites to prolong the action. Don't go at it expecting failure!
     
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    Me personally, I last a minute or under masturbating, but when it comes to sex it takes me forever and often times don't orgasm.
     
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    Time and knowing your limits from my experience are key. Growing up in a busy house the teen yrs were mainly as you said not getting caught. But I'd agree with guys above learning your no return point and what works best for you to calm him down will help no end when you get laid. Flashlights whilst not the same may provide some practice with a non hand sensation. Just don't rush the wanking. Easier said than done I understand.

    One last thing just remember most girls don't want you to last forever, give them on orgasm first during foreplay then for anything while riding your pole is a bonus
     
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    Damn iPhone autocorrect - but you get the idea
     
  11. matelalique

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    Love most of the above posts. Most of my straight buddies tell me that the first time they fuck new girlfriend they come (plug for eliminating the silly spelling right here) within two minutes whether they want to or not - it's called penis excited by vagina, and evolutionary need to shoot semen as hard and fast as possible.

    At some point you will need to learn to control your ejaculation speed. The second coming is worth exploring. Getting old will also work. Since you are young - learning to do it with your buddy will probably be the most fun. Have her jerk to almost completion, and pleasure her other ways, and eventually you will reach simultaneous orgasm.

    You can train yourself to delay ejaculation - and you can also ruin your ability to shoot pleasurably in the process. You can either train yourself and have a controlled first experience, or you can have your buddies train you.
     
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    Another point - humans are evolutionarily programmed to come quickly. Avoiding being eaten by the lions was quite a strong incentive.
     
  13. ManlyBanisters

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    By 'humans' do you mean 'male humans'? Or do you think that programming applies to women too?
     
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    I don't know how old you are, mate, but I was just like you when I first discovered masturbation when I was around 11. Back then, even without any porn or visual stimuli, I would cum in under a minute, just over a minute if I was lucky. It didn't bother me until I was well in my teen years that I realised that it would take just a little bit longer to satisfy the ladies. After that it was all the edging that helps me develop the tolerance. Give it a go and get back to the rest of us, eh? :wink:
     
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    Good point - I was entirely sexist in my point. Men need to come quickly. Female chimpanzees are happy to lie back and take the pleasure in the knowledge that male chimps will offer themselves to the lions since they are on top.

    ManlyBannisters - do you know of a species where there is another evolutionary drive ....
     
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    My question was entirely reasonable. Do you think women are programmed, as you put it, to come quickly? Evidence would suggest they are not.
     
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    ManlyBanisters- Because women coming is not essential to reproduction, there is no evolutionary drive for them to come quicker.
     
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