BF and I have been together for 3 years and there's never been any reason for me to wonder about him straying. I on the other hand always go online to look at whats happening and chatting with a guy or two. But I've never met anyone for sex. (that's the preview)
although you have gone to the baths when he was away and wanked with othere men::: http://www.lpsg.org/2504639-post1.html
in that one the man actually turned and slid onto your penis.
Today, he went to the grocery and I was doing some stuff getting ready for work tomorrow. I walked into our little office and his gmail was open - so I took the liberty of looking at the in box. I found a several emails from two different guys. All of BF's emails were signed XOXO. He commented about it being good to see them, he hopes to see them again sometime "for coffee or so" and one he said he hoped to see in the US (we're in Prague, CZ).
2 things happened here. You went snooping and he had left his g-mail open. He may have intentionally left it open to see what you'd do however the real mistake was you opening the e-mails. They are none of your business.
I deliberately left one of them open and when he came home he saw it and accused me of invading his privacy. (What you don't know is that he actually looked over my shoulder a couple of years ago and saw me log onto my hotmail account and proceeded to read all of my emails. There was a big blow up then too.)
You did invade his privacy. I am skanky at times but I don't go around reading peoples private thoughts. When I was with Ray, my long ago ex- he was on some of the same boards as me and I placed his name on ignore when it was a site feature to avoid reading what he might be saying since that seemed like a breach of privacy. e-mails would definitely be a no. The differencee of what you did and what he did when looking over your shoulder is that you were there at the time allowing him to look and then his stuff you read without him giving permission. He may have been fine with it if you'd happened in onb him while he was reading it and read over his shoulder the way he did with you. Howevere you chose to snoop. A relationship ender.
He claimed today that it was innocent and that these were only friends, nothing more. I'm not so sure and don't know quite how to proceed. One friend says dump his ass because she's never trusted him and think he's here for the money aspect (he's 24, still in school and does not really contribute to the household etc). If he was to admit to playing around he'd be on the street. That means paying rent, buying furniture, etc, etc.
What do you guys think? I'm leaning toward dumping him and letting him realize what life is really about - working, paying bills - making ends meet! Your opinions are appreciated!